Tophia is happy to receive help, but says we should of helped sooner and maybe her brother would still be alive
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People are shocked she's acting like this?? ? Maybe if she'd gotten off her ass and worked, they could have paid rent and wouldn't have been sitting in the car at 3AM. This is DIRECTLY HER FAULT.
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even with Donald’s job, they could’ve afforded rent but he kept buying junk cars too like it’s nobody’s fault that they never prioritized a safe sheltered space for themselves
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idk why everyone's arguing and defending her. They literally chose to spend thousands of dollars on conventions and junk purchases instead of making sure they had a home. They got evicted from the apartment AND the motel for THIS EXACT REASON, and it's documented.
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I could NEVER imagine me being so financially irresponsible that it directly caused my mother to sleep in a car on the street and get shot.
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Wait wait, what ice-cream maker?
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she bought an ice maker off tiktok shop when she was living out of a motel 💀
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Im sorry, what?
Are you kidding me, god, fuck her, holy cow, she will never change, i hope she at least dumps mamachu at a near shelter -
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She was always buying useless impulse junk (makeup, air fryer, ice maker, etc.) up until they finally got kicked out. The same reason they got evicted from the apartment. All that money could have paid rent.
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Tbh I've been blaming papachu for that, but yeah you are right, if she got an apartment, she would still have a brother, this event would make anyone realize that they can't continue like this, but not tophiachu, she is going to dig down and blame everyone because she didn't pay her rent and her scizo father wrecked everything.
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They should have stayed in the apartment they were in to begin with, which is when they went to Comicon and blew $600+. They got evicted and an eviction stays on your background for \~7yrs, which is why they wound up in the motel.
No landlord will rent to you with an eviction on your credit/background, especially that recent, AND that aside, you still have to show pay stubs, etc. to apply for an apt. They fucked up BIG by losing the apartment.
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i’ve been saying this ever since all this happened lmfao, everyone saying she didn’t deserve this and that they feel sad for her, i didn’t care and still called her out multiple times saying even tho this is sad, she just got her fair share of karma after making fun of me peoples dead relatives, being a pedo, her brother being a pedo groomer etc etc… death isn’t deserved unless u do something REAL bad but her tbh she just got her karma, she should’ve shut up, that’s it
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Her brother was murdered, her mother was hospitalized, she lost her home and everything she had.
Let her grieve. She's going to want to blame everyone. She still needs support.
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Even if people did help sooner, her scizo father would have still not paid for the rent and went goblin mode on the apartment, and gotten them kicked out
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That’s when she supposed to have a job and help with the rent. Her and brother chu. None of this would’ve happened
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Yes. I told her in the comments that she needs to get a job and find an apartment or section 8 and assistance living for herself and Mamachu and help PAPACHU. Guess what ? She blocked me. I’m sorry for her loss and trauma on her mother but I have no feelings for Tophia. This just me..
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She doesn’t want any advice unless it’s from people coddling her and letting her think it’s okay to smooch off of the gfm money
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this is why i’m concerned about a gfm. she’s going to run thru that money so fast on doordash and makeup. She needs to be placed into a conservatorship with her mother and a fiduciary handle their finances. She doesn’t have the mental capacity to care for herself let alone her elderly, sick and injured mom.
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I was going to comment something like this yesterday. She 100% should not be allowed to make her own financial choices nor her parents unfortunately. She needs help.
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I knew She was going to blame us
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She might go the cyraxx route and say that the shooting was our fault
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Welp, you called that one!
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Wait, she said it? And if so when
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I’ve been thinking this since I first got into the chu lore, this and she needs to be put on disability checks…I mean, there’s clearly some sort of genetic disability going on in this family. The only reason it hasn’t been clocked by professionals is because Marie probably never even tried to get any sort of diagnosis or help for it (she probably wouldn’t even know how to go about that even if she wanted to tbh)
But that’s just my tinfoil hat opinion lol idk
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Thank god people in this sub are the ones to clock that there's something actually wrong with her. She always struck me as weird, she has the mannerisms, personality and mental capacity of a elementary/middle schooler that was worsened by straight up neglect.
Her brother was an obvious sign as well, since he didn't seem all the way there either (unless im misremembering.)
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100% unfortunately, being Latina means a lot of our community dismisses mental illnesses and disabilities. The older generations either don’t “believe in them”, refuse to get their child tested, or take them to church to get rid of the disease as if it’s an exorcism.
My brother is intellectually disabled as well as having a handful of other mental challenges. My adoptive father (biologically our uncle) is the only one in the family who gets him the best help and does whatever he can for him. My grandparents believe he is being spiritually attacked, and my bio parents left the minute they realised there was something wrong with him.
I fully believe Marie is in denial and wouldn’t get them help for it because of the stigma in our community, even though it would benefit both of them immensely.
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Two concerts she wants to attend and a 600$ camera bec she’s a “famous content creator”.
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And she was talking about a camera and you know she’s gonna replace her Xbox. And buy more T Shirts.
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Not for. Nothing but where tf she gonna plug it in at? 😭
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THIS
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100% a group home style setting and a social worker to watch over her. Financial support as well.
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This exactly if you don’t know how to “deal with financial stuff without posting” you shouldn’t have any access to donated money.
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She’s definitely going to see BTS now
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And she’s going to say that she took Marie to a BTS concert and damaged her already hard of hearing ears because she knew it’d make them “feel better” from Donald’s death.
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It’s what he would of wanted is gonna be the new shield
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I’m hoping that Donald’s friends use the go fund me to rent them a motel room and get them some groceries and self care items instead of giving tophia the money.
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Maybe they could even get Marie some new pajamas and slippers so she could be comfy while she recovers.
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This all gonna blow over she gonna be right back to her same way except now she has a card to play that gonna make ppl give into her
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Ik you fucking lying 😭😭😭😭 this ho had YEARS to get it together and then gon blame us bc we ain’t help? We tried!!! MANY TIMES section 8 housing, Medicare, etc?? The just didn’t listen. Girl bye
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Same old Tophia 🤣
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In the time I’ve been watching I got a whole other college degree (BSN)
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Off topic but YOU GO GIRL! 🩷 I am so fucking proud of you internet stranger.
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Congrats!
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She is extra fucked now, her brother was trying to keep them afloat, but when she blows this money on food and makeup that will expire, she will be fucked to high heaven, not to mention the medical bill that's coming her way, tbh i think that she will dump mamachu at a shelter
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even made up excuses when oeople gave her really good ones like her mom staying at a home and she be a car taker for her.
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Makes it impossible to feel bad for her
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Always was, I knew she would be back in her shenanigans as soon as possible
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I knew She was going to say something like that.
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I KNOW this bitch ain't just say that 💀
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Right like….? I had to play it back like I know that ain’t what I just heard
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I can't stnd this ho 😭 can't even have sympathy for her for a WEEK without her pullin some bs
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Oh yeah,She said it.
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🤣 she sure did
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no seriously
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She’ll always find a way to place blame on everyone but herself. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them drink it
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This is the quote we need to keep in mind during all this
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Facts.
Learned this the hard way so many times- especially since I was a junkie and associated with others in similar spots. No matter how you want to help and how much you put out it doesn’t matter unless the person you’re trying to help puts in the work and takes accountability too.
Her reaction doesn’t surprise me at all but it’s still bonkers.
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I say this with all due respect, but as a 30 year old woman, Tophia needs to stop relying on others for help that she is perfectly capable of providing for herself & her family. Especially with the constant bragging that she has a history of doing. It’s no surprise that people will be hesitant to help someone who has a history of behaving like they are high and mighty, and above all when we all know that is not her reality. Never has been, never will be. 🤷🏾♀️
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Physically yeah she’s probably capable but we all know mentally—well
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here she go yall 😭
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never fails
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yeah i do not feel bad for her ass😭
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No way shes going to blame US for this shit... this is what you guys are feeling sorry for. This girl had years to get a job but she wants to be chronically online and do nothing else. If its anyones fault its hers for not having a stable income. Im done with feeling bad for her
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Like I legitimately felt awful for her for all of five minutes because I can’t even imagine the pain she’s feeling of losing her sibling and her life literally crashing before her eyes… but then she goes and pulls this shit and reminds everybody why she was fucking hated in the first place
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That’s why i was just keeping my two cents to myself mostly the last two days. I knew she’d pull this bs and with her behavior. Then you had ppl posting that we should donate to her and she needs all the money rn. I’m sorry but it’s not my responsibility to pay for her life expenses while she continues to not see reality and get a damn job!!! She’s insane to still be in that same mind set not wanting to change after this.
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Yep.
And the people suddenly shifting and acting like they never made fun of the family or werent joking hours before the incident about what would happen to them in a hot car over the summer, who also went after anyone expressing concern that she might react the way she did…. And people are surprised?
What happened is TERRIBLE. But those things AREN’t mutually exclusive. What happened can be terrible and unfair and no one deserves it…. But she can also still be awful.
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i didn’t hear her blame anyone. she just said “i wish we could have got help sooner”
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it’s nobody on the internets fault what happened to her family. simple as that. the carjacking was clearly not even targeted so wtf is she going on about
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she’s not saying that it was targeted
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she kinda did tbh, when she made her first video crying, she said “ why are the people on the internet” and then cut off, she fully blames us
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yeah, you should’ve gotten help sooner. you cannot live like this tophia.
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The fact that every post has a “financial” focus is really pmo.
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THIS.
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okay but we WERE tryin to help her 😭😭 the amount of people who told her to go to a shelter or how to apply for section 8 housing
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she complained about shelter food and how they made her work and then refused to rent a place because she was confident she would own one 😭😭 it's actually insane
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She refused to go to a shelter cos they only feed them chips and sandwiches (even though that’s what they ate in the car majority of the time) and people were dirty or something like that.
She said she didn’t apply for section 8 or food stamps cos she makes too much (which she didn’t)
She wanted a luxe lifestyle funded by us. That’s it and clearly is still the case
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Cra,y. Lol. If i was that broke I'd be salivating at the thought of the sandwhich.
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She applied for section 8 and she was mad they told her she needed to be working in order to be able to qualify. She expected them to give her a place just because she didn’t want to work.
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I'm not all up to date with everything with her... but I know I've seen people try to send resources... and she could have been had a job...
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I’ve sent her many resources even before they lived in the car. I was low income at one point, I got help the help. I even told her about a program called wioa. The program helps you get training/schooling for vocational jobs. There’s even programs to help you get a job, they will pay for your gas and other expenses. I sent resources for food like ebt or local food pantries. Its insane !! Many people gave her resources. The only advice she took was a homeless shelter, and even then she complained.
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SAME! I tried sending them shit too and they refused it.
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me as well, I was sending links and contact info from the abq low income resources website and they didn’t look into any of them.
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Same. I sent them all resources to EVERYTHING the day they were kicked from the motel. They all told me no.
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She was the fuckin older sibling. He was essentially who they depended on. I'm trying to root for her but she comes out saying the most stupidist shit ever. Just shut your mouth
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And before that she made herself entirely financially dependent on a severely mentally ill man whom she tried to keep out of the apartment as much as possible. She needs to grow the fuck up and clock in.
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Girl, you should've gotten off your ass sooner.
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The way she says it makes it seem like she’s entitled to get help from others. People provided a lot of resources but she chose to not take them. Its sad what happened but she needs to realize she’s an adult and no one owes her anything
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She didn’t want resources in the past because they actually require her to do something . Work, following rules etc . She wanted cash with no strings attached .
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And little does she know she has to pay taxes those cash apps and PayPals when it exceeds a certain amount.
She’ll be blaming y’all again come tax season next year
There’s no such thing as free in this country
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Now that I didn’t know about cash apps n PayPals paying taxes
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Yeah that started like a couple of years ago. Like if you get over $500 in cash apps / Venmo / Zelle / pay pal whatever in total through the year, you gotta pay taxes on that
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Wherever She’s staying at….She better keep it clean n not trash it!!
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Lost cause
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Maybe Big T should have contributed to the family and stopped expecting a house to fall from the sky just for her.
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Damned if we do, damned if we don’t.
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This is why no one wants to help her. What happened was tragic and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Idk why anyone thought she’d change. She never will. She’ll always be the same. She’ll never see a penny from me and it’s not the internet’s responsibility to fund her respectabilities. Just like it isn’t her fault, it’s not the internet’s fault either. This situation can happened to anyone and it’s unfortunate (the murder I mean)
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This is why I also have a hard time feeling much sympathy towards tophia. I feel sympathy that she witnessed a traumatic killing but that’s beyond it goes. Now Marie, a mother should never have to witness losing their child at any age. Can’t imagine how she feels
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“I wish we’d gotten help sooner” mam we’ve been telling you to get a job for months now……
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No we have been telling her for YEARS
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okay years is more accurate 😂😂😂😭
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Even if she didn’t wanna get a job cos she’s gung-ho about this social media thing, the least they could’ve done is try to get into a shelter but her pride got in the way and her high maintenance demands weren’t met at a shelter
Like she complained that all the shelter fed them were sandwiches but she was eating lunchables (crack sandwiches) and ham sandwiches in the car, so…
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Didn’t she say she didn’t like the food??? 💀 like bb gorl you’re homeless, beggars can’t be choosers lolol
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And people were literally guessing her money that she chose to missuse
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Girl the public at large isn't responsible for you and your bills.
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They had every opportunity to seek and obtain help. That was a decision they made.
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Even Squidd tried to help by sending resources
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This is such a typical Tophia thing to say after the fact that something bad happens. U can't keep blaming everything else except yourself acting like you didn't say out of ur own mouth that u didn't like staying in a shelter like u had any choice in the matter at the end of the day smh 🙄
Had u been in one like people told u for 5 months straight or utilised the ability to find resources at the library u used for just WiFi and phone charging there's a high probability you wouldn't have been caught in the crosshairs of a dangerous situation.
Like the homeless man breaking into their car like last week wasn't a big enough wake up call of the dangers?
U constantly saying social media was a full time job with $2 in ur bank account wasn't a big enough shake up? You've been delusional for years and dragged ur family down with you.
At apartmentchu it was the neighbours got us evicted and here it's I wish we were helped sooner. Biggums, no one is responsible for you except you. -
Jesus Christ man. I can’t even be angry at this, I’m so tired
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literally, “not surprised 🤷♀️” was my genuine reaction. Still feeling bad for what she experienced in that car, and I hope she heals, but damn, some people really never change.
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“We would’ve gotten help sooner”
So, 1, I don’t think she’ll take this horrible situation as a wake-up call. I think this tragedy will be backup for a lot of her future bullshit.2. Wtf is wrong with her? Yes, her brother died; yes, this happened to her and her family, but this is not on anyone besides herself. A grown woman who can 💩 talk so much, she clearly can AT LEAST work in some sort of call center.
I’m nobody to say she’s at fault for this, but I can’t help but feel like she could’ve done better, and maybe they would’ve just lost a car, not a family member.
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Yes. The shooting wasn't her fault in any way, but her refusal to get a job so they could afford housing was the catalyst for why they had to live in their car which made them vulnerable because NM has a very high rate of crime and they've lost cars to carjackings before. And her refusal to go to the shelter most nights because they didn't allow electronics and didn't serve food she liked contributed.
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I don't really want to rag on her here but it's disappointing to see this kind of finger pointing from her. Bury the boy first and get you and your mother some damn help before getting on the internet and pointing the finger at people who had no part in this. Get help, Tophia, real help.
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this is why i don’t feel nothing for them
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Not a tear dropped on my end
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some people did help but she ended up going to comic con each time.
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BE SO FUCKING FOR REAL RIGHT NOW!! I CANT DO this today im finna crash out
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I think she meant getting help as in getting a place to stay, taking advantage of resources, etc
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Yeah, I think the "we" in her statement is referring to herself, her mom, and her brother, not the audience. That *they* should've sought out help sooner in the form of resources and assistance.
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It’s upsetting if she meant it that way. People have made numerous, probably hundreds, of attempts to send her resources and assistances. It’s so sad that now that something tragic she thinks to have taken up those offers…
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I get all that, not defending her and her family too much about the resources but every time people have tried to help, some malicious people have tried to manipulate the situation. Like I've contacted her and her family personally about 6-8 months before they got evicted from the motel and they were skeptical of the info I sent them. Plus whenever people would send them motels or shelters, someway somehow people would call the places to try and get them out.
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No, she definitely meant that we (the internet) should have given her money sooner. She was talking about posting on social media for the "financial stuff" in the sentence prior. She has complained various times in the past about other content creators receiving handouts from the internet but not her.
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I think the financial stuff comment is in regard to the fact she does social media as a job and if she stops posting, it'll impact her income. So she's trying to navigate how she'll be financially without social media as she's gonna take weeks off to figure out where her and her mom will go after this.
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Bruh. I was feeling bad… she always ruins things.
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Same bro🤣
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I remember when she said that to receive some form of aid ( can’t remember which one) that she had to be in school or working ? So how was this not a decision that she made? Help was always there
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Yes, you can easily get government aid through the FAFSA which if you or your parents make below a certain threshold, you can have your education paid for, free housing, meal tickets, and extra cash leftover. The only caveat is that you have to pass classes usually with a C- ……. So the bar is pretty low. At one point Tophia shared that she wasn’t able to keep her grades up. So theres that.
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No not today
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Are you serious bro….
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It's sad what happened but she did have resources available. She knew NM was dangerous and people told her she needed to get a job because staying in the car was unsafe and unsustainable and she refused. If she had a job they wouldn't have had to be on the streets in the first place. They could've stayed in the homeless shelter but she didn't want to because they wouldn't let her go live on Tiktok. She had so many chances to make a change and take advantage of the resources available to her and refused.
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I knew deep down she’d use brotherchus death as a way to act up 💀💀 I was just hoping it’d be enough to change her
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I think that she’s mad that she isn’t cashing in on his death as much as she’d like to
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I’m just glad she doesn’t have access to brotherchus gofundme as far as I know 💀
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I hate to say it, but if she had gotten "help" sooner (and I'm assuming help means money) she would have blown it on unnecessary things. She chose comic con over a roof. That's not our fault whatsoever. She has yet to come to terms with her poor money management, which I doubt she will ever get to.
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she’s trying to make us feel bad for not giving her money sooner, she uses this tactic to dry beg too
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and by making us feel bad she’ll get more money obviously, in her head that is
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We are not her ATM
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Helped sooner? Didn’t she use all that previous money for cons and stuff? This is why i don’t help people like her not willing to help themselves
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But that’s y’all’s girl tho. Go help her like y’all said we should 🥴
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Exactly . I wonder what all the people who swore she would change are going to say about this one
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Like don’t get me wrong, I still feel bad for her. Just the thought of me not having my older brother around anymore makes my eyes water. But she’s 30, which is kind of a point in your life where you should at least be trying to figure your shit out, and she refused to do anything for herself. She’s lowkey beyond “saving” at this point…
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i interpreted it as like her saying, “i wish we would’ve gotten help sooner” in the sense that like she wished she took the initiative to get help (ie: community, food stamps, section 8 housing). idk maybe i was being hopeful 😭 tophia isn’t exactly one with words
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I agree, I don’t think meant monetary help from the internet. I think she meant resources to be in a better living situation and support for herself and her mom. She might not have fully internalized how dangerous it was to be living out of a car before but she does now.
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There is a lot more than just this little snippet. If you listen to the entire thing on her instagram story she says “I kept telling everybody it’s not safe out here. Help, help”. And goes on to say why did it take her brother dying for anyone to care. She is 100% blaming everyone else for not giving her money so she didn’t have to live in the car with her family.
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Im not gonna be mean but she had so many opportunities to get income. She refused to do anything but live stream in her car. She could have documented being homeless or filmed herself at all those car meetups/ other conventions. To some degree she is responsible for why all of them were out in the streets.
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Now She’s on her own n there’s no way She can be a caregiver for her mom.She’s too selfish.And I hope her mom can be given hearing aids to replace the ones She lost at Comiccon
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The guy tracking her earning literally gave links, showed pages of resources she could call
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When she says this she just means she wish she would've gotten FINANCIAL help sooner. She didn't want to be told how to apply to section 8, to be told about local hiring spots, food stamps, medicaid, shelters near her, etc. She is talking about that GFM $$$ help.
Its unfortunate but to Tophia, the only help she wants and craves is if it is handed to her in the form of cash. She doesn't want to work for any of it. She wants a paycheck handed to her and while I do know and believe losing her brother will affect her deeply, she will be using his death to her advantage to keep on getting that financial money without doing NEARLY as much work as Donald JR had to do while he was alive IF at all.
I highly encourage if you plan to donate or help this woman at all, to try your best to help Marie directly in the form of other means such as gift cards for groceries/motels/rides etc as everyone else suggested. I'm not aware of other better options so I would google, otherwise do not trust Tophia to use your money in good faith. -
LMFAO all i can do is laugh @ the ppl who will fall for it and donate to her "because there's so many expenses" but we all know it's gonna go to stupid shit
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BRO when he was alive they both were spending their money on nonsense which is why they were still living out of the car! you can't beg for help then say this
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she’s right in that this was an avoidable situation but if *she* didn’t get so comfortable living in his car and got a job from the jump this would have never happened. unfortunately she will never take responsibility for the fact that she indirectly caused this. the guilt would eat me alive. idk how she’s still going at this :/
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This why i dont get why people suddenly switched up on tophia on TikTok. This bich always been dumb and never wants to take accountability for her actions. Its not our fault they were homeless!! Tophia refused to get a job and spent whatever money she got on useless shit. Either way its not other people’s responsibility to take Tophia out of homelessness when she was/is more than capable of doing so.
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Well, my sympathy just flew out the window🤣.....
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This mf-
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wtf ??? i feel bad for tophia but she got herself into this situation. she should’ve just paid the rent at apartmentchu & she would’ve never been in this predicament in the first place. plus it’s her fault for having donald (the father) take control of the rent knowing he’s mentally ill. it’s basically all her fault she’s homeless now. i’m not trying to be rude but we tried and tried telling her to get a job etc. she doesn’t want to listen. you can’t help anyone who doesn’t want to helped.
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why is it our responsibility to help he she does nothing to better her situation. people have told her its DANGEROUS and have been BEGGING her to do her part to better her situation and get out from living in the car
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She even said herself at some point that living in the car is dangerous. And at another point, another homeless person broke in and ate Marie’s vienna sausages. AND someone was allegedly doing stuff to their car in the middle of the night. Still refused to swallow her pride and go to a shelter or at the very least flee elsewhere maybe less dangerous.
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The minute someone broke into that car so easily to steal her makeup palettes and gaming consoles should’ve been one of the many eye openers to get off the streets but yet again she blamed the internet and did absolutely nothing
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She blamed that incident on someone from the internet. Girl, a lot of us have jobs. What the hell are we gonna do with a used Xbox
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I knew any sympathy people had for her would disappear the moment she opened her mouth and said something even remotely disrespectful. And sure enough, here we are. Apparently, it’s our fault—those of us who watch her livestreams—that she’s homeless and living on the dangerous streets of Albuquerque. Somehow, we’re to blame for the fact that a 30-year-old grown adult refuses to get a job because she’d rather stream all day, talk about nothing, and scam people for cheeseburgers on Cash App.
Some of y’all were so caught up in feeling sorry for her that you forgot what kind of person she really is. What happened to her family is undeniably tragic, but that doesn’t excuse the way she’s acting now—gaslighting viewers into thinking her brother’s untimely passing is our fault just because we won’t fund her lifestyle and pay her bills whenever she wants.
And let’s not forget, this community has already come together for her multiple times, even trying to help her avoid being on the streets. But instead of using that money responsibly, she blew it on a convention and a bunch of nonsense. Now, here we are again, and suddenly, it’s our fault? Yeah, okay. Full circle, once again.
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Her family is already so messed up and she’s just making it worse which I didn’t even think was possible
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We were trying to help her and she would always yell at us saying she doesn’t need help and we need to worry about our own lives lmao. Seeing how she’s trying to place the blame on other people even during tragedy makes me not want to donate anything
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She will never ever change.
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Is she seriously going to use her brother as an example of the Internet not helping her???? SHE SCAMMED PEOPLE That is why no one trusts her!!! absolutely sickening
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knew it was coming
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that is insane… that turns me off from donating to the gofundme now…
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What a disgrace.
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why would anyone believe she’s gonna change
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As frustrating as tophia’s situation is and how she can be just as frustrating. I think she needs to understand it’s one thing to know these resources and it’s another to ACTIVELY use them and seek them. I think a third party (hopefully a social worker or some type of mental assistance or peer support) needs to intervene at this point. Even though they would actively put her into these programs she needs to also set her ego and the internet aside and take time to figure out what she needs for herself and Marie right now. I understand especially since recent events anger and sadness will be directed in places that objectively aren’t going to serve her well. But only shit she really needs someone to step in IMMEDIATELY and just work on getting better.
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I agree with you n Tophia needs to be evaluated
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Help doesn't magically fall onto your lap, you have to seek it and work towards it rather than waiting around. She could've also gotten a job that way her and Brotherchu could've pooled together enough for a cheap motel room.
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How is this somehow our fault… It’s always OUR fault… Tophia whatever dude. I’m sorry you lost your brother, that’s fucking terrible… but grow the FUCK up NOW.
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There’s so many resources she could’ve used bro. Medicaid/care, EBT, many more i probably don’t know but she continues to act like she’s better than it. There is no helping her because she’s too delusional
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aaaaand there goes the last shred of sympathy i had for her
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and here we go again. she’ll never change.
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Helped sooner? PEOPLE HAVE BEEN WANTING TO HELP HER SOONER maybe not finically but people have been giving her resources and etc. What has she done with that nothing ? She always denied that help and said she can’t. It’s not that you can’t Tophia, it’s that you never wanted to put the effort to go through with that help or it was above you.
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ok what why is she already starting how were we supposed to help at all
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So many people have reached out and tried to help even before they were living in the car. It’s one thing to receive all that information people gave them and there’s another to actively use that info and work towards getting the help that’s needed. Why continue providing these resources if you aren’t going to use them?
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Oh great
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Why is she like this so ungrateful
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STOP GIVING MONEY
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yeah im done here. honestly i wasn’t expecting her to change overnight but i thought that at least she would realize it was time to do better for their own sake. what is gonna do when the money runs out? they have no car, donald was the only one bringing steady money in. this is just sad. hope she’s able to find her mom and herself help. the help and support is there for her but biting the hand that feeds you will get you no where.
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Try to feel bad for Tophia: Hard Mode
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If she would have gotten a job her and Donald could have gotten an apartment and this would have never happened. Of course it's our fault her brother died he didn't give her enough money. Smh. This is why even now I won't give her a penny. It isn't our job to take care of her regardless of the situation.
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She just wants everything handled out to her. Why is it our job to find her somewhere to stay and support her financially? SHES 30
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i empathize with her and this is such a terrible situation to be in and i’m sorry that this has happened and traumatized her but i had a very strong feeling that this would be another reason for her to be a victim, her name is attached to multiple reasons why they were still living in a car. she had so many resources and information to help her find an actual place to live and she depended on small tiktok checks. now the person who actually provided for them is no longer here and she has to take care of her mom by herself and considering her history with gofundme’s ?? idk but 2 things can be true at once.
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Yep, it's our fault this happened for not enabling her influencer delusion and sending her money to spend on Temu jewelry and patty melts. DEFINITELY not her's for refusing to get an actual job and contribute to their finances while Brotherchu worked his ass off trying to keep them afloat and off the street.
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Her saying that cash app keeps failing so you might have to redonate 😔
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Gurl
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I shouldn't be surprised she'd say something like that, but wow... what a bitch. After the funeral service is done (if there is), mamachu's out the hospital, and she's had her time to mourn, and she can no longer bank on everyone's pity, what is she gonna do? Cause Brotherchu was basically the primary income when it came to finances and she's speedrunning losing any sympathy she's had
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This is why we are laughing at the morality Olympics yall doing in here lol
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Did she expect us to buy her a house or something?? She's gotten stupid amounts of support since what happened to her brother and she has the audacity to say if WE helped HER sooner her brother would still be alive?? Girl please. At the end of the day you're still a vile person but some of us have empathy for your brother. That doesn't change how we feel about YOU.
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I knew this was going to happen and i got attacked for it from some losers here
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aye what? i havent listened to the video. im not. your caption has me livd enough. report her. so she can just get tf off the internet now, lol. we're down w/ tophia. pack her tf up.
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Gluttonous ass bitch???
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yo what the hell? she’s definitely going through survivor’s guilt but like other people said, she had years to get it together. Cant blame nobody but herself. Stay off social media, she had tons of haters and people tracking her location. its so sad
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The situation is horrible and she obviously didn’t deserve none of it but blaming people who tried to send you shelter/survival recourses a long time ago that you ignored is bogus. May Donald rest is peace and Marie recover back to health, but please don’t start pointing fingers at those who have tried to help you for years.
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I for once was physically and emotionally hurting for Tophia and then she quickly pulls a fast one… smh
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You can’t teach a old dog new tricks
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It wasn't the responsibility of strangers to house them. I'm not going to get too upset with her because she's grieving right now. I will say that's completely ridiculous to blame strangers for not giving you their money for nothing and nobody should take that guilt as theirs.
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Im sorry I didn’t know it was my responsibility to pay my own bills because you didnt wanna work w regular job because it was beneath you? You seemed to be happy as a clam living in your car with no effort to better your situation
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& just like that, the little sympathy I had for her is gone lol
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Taking advantage of her brothers situation fr I know he rolling over and disappointed. I’m so mad like FOR him
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This pmo I get she’s emotional and very upset but to blame the internet is crazy and saying she knew the streets weren’t safe and was asking for help is such a joke when she’d constantly say we were jealous of her lifestyle because she was able to drive around everywhere and enjoy life
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Wouldn’t they still be housed in that motel if they just kept it clean? Or were they kicked out for another reason?
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no, you’re right. they were kicked out because the room was absolutely disgusting and they refused to let any housekeepers in to tidy. there were also a few complaints about her as well.
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I think it was both the cleanliness of the room and constant lack / late payments.
If the front desk informed her they had to go and was put on a DND list, that’s an action made by the managers and corporate (not the housekeepers as she keeps claiming. Even a housekeeping supervisor isn’t involved in these decisions)
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They were late on weekly payment. They asked the front desk for continued extensions (give us another hour, my brother is going to get the money, etc. They got half a day of leeway to go out and get the money). Couldn’t come up with the missing $200, kicked out. The mess was just an addendum.
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we should’ve helped sooner but literally every time someone donated to “help” her….she used for phones and makeup and doordash, this is how i know there’s something different about her mentally because everything is always everyone else’s fault, i see why people are so mean to her but personally this make me pity her because she’s really lost.
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Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
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She’s just hungry
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I don't see it as her blaming the internet or the people, I see it as her taking accountability. and saying "WE should have gotten help" being her saying they could have done more to get out of the situation by trying to go to shelters and reaching out to family, cause she did say they have family (her uncles) but she just doesn't want to bother them.
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Sadly, you can't help those people who don't want to be helped. And tophiachu is one of those people.
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And she wonders why everybody despises her and was wondering if she was lying when the story broke. Seriously girl fuck *you*. I’m sincerely sorry for her loss but sweetie, be so fucking expeditiously for real
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This upsets me, because I sent them so many resources for their area in December of 2024. Food banks, shelters, free therapy, churches, and temp jobs just for all three of them to tell me no thanks.
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Tophia pls…. I am trying to be a good person. I really am.
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She is always blaming someone else but she is never a part of the problem. She's never gonna change. She should be grateful for the donations that she is receiving now and she should use whatever is left over to better her life.
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The only person to blame is the murderer.
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Oh boy, I’d like to say everyone deals with grief and trauma differently and maybe she is just trying to find someone to blame for all of this, but it just seems to be who she is all the way through. Sad.
I saw a video yesterday of someone basically saying “I hope she doesn’t revert to the persons he’s shown us she is and actually takes this as an opportunity to do better”. I guess they were right
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I almost donated. I was going to do it after work today if she had confirmed a GFM/her cash app was working bc she hadn't last night.
I think she changed my mind...not 100% sure but I'm thinking twice.
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I would advise you to donate to the one that Donald Jr.'s friends have set up, not any thay she confirms. She doesn't need to be handling the money in any way.
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I understand she’s grieving and mourning the loss of her brother and this was not something she deserved to go through and her family as well. But come on…tophia had the ability to look for a job outside social media to save some money to be stable enough to be somewhere…not everything in life is given free and that includes money we have to work for it. Now Donald is gone she can’t just think social media income will help the economic state. Nothing comes for free…I hope she realizes this I really want to see her flourish and become a better healthy person
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Like we weren’t begging her to get a job so she could make sure SHE is safe… WTF?
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Ok, so if her brother's tragic death wasn't her wake-up call, then nothing will be. This woman doesn't want to help or save herself. I had a little hope, but it's over—this family is done.
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oh come on
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This is why I can't have any sympathy for her. Been just a couple days and she's back to blaming le evil trolls for it. Why don't you people see her true colors? Why do you feel bad?
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Boohoo you could've gotten a game plan together TWO YEARS AGO when you became homeless.
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Got help sooner.
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hasn’t even been a week and she’s already guilt tripping ppl 💀
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No what would of helped if she got a basic job to afford a SAFE apartment with her family instead of being a lazy entitled prick that thinks she’s to good for the 9-5, instead she had her now dead brother working for the entire family while she did NOTHING. We don’t owe her ANYTHING either and it’s not our faults
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I understand raising money for medical and funeral expenses. Despite all the terrible things that this family has said and done, The Slydells should be able to give Donald Jr. a proper burial. That’s it.
Asking donators to give her money for a car so she can get her license is something she should have left out entirely. If Tophia wants a car, she should have to work for it. Tophia has admitted to having a Reddit account and lurking in this subreddit so I don’t understand why she acts like people haven’t been posting solid advice and even one post listing food banks and resources in New Mexico.
I genuinely hope that by some chance a nurse or police officer offers Tophia or Marie some resources or a number to some programs. I hope they actually realize the gravity of the situation they’re in if they haven’t realized it before.
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This is silly we aren’t her parents ,She’s grown , but I do sympathise with her with certain things me and Tophia are the same age and I was the same as her last year ,so behind in life wasting my life away my dad and my 2 brothers both have Schizophrenia (they all smoke weed which the doctor said that triggers it in our family so I don’t smoke it )and a mother that never taught me how to be a functional adult the only thing I didn’t experience is the homelessness .then one day it clicked ,no one is going to come and save me I can only save myself no one gives af about me more than myself and that is the same for everyone especially us that didn’t have rich parents ,grew up in a dysfunctional house hold with no guidance ,but the difference is many don’t have the internet to come and save them and have to push themselves to get out of their shit situation ,she needs to be grateful for what the internet is helping her with , her brother passing away is heartbreaking but it’s not no one’s fault but the person who acted irrational and ended his life
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Plssss🙄 she’s so ungrateful
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Many people tried to help her with setting up a resume, pointing her to different shelters, food banks, etc….
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😳😳😳
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Jesus Christ. There’s no hope for her.
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Ohhhh Tophia noooo. We are trying to root for you.
I’m going to give her a break for now. She’s traumatized, anyone’s brain would be reeling.
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while i feel sympathy for tophia because of the situation she is in, she has to realize that she was in fact able to help herself and family get out of the situation sooner (getting a job!) and obviously not to like blame her for what happened because it isn't her fault, but her refusal to not get a job or do literally anything to help herself is why she is in the predicament she is in (predicament meaning homeless and in poverty, not her brother and mother being shot!)
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Also, there are homeless shelters and local resources she could have taken advantage of. She chose not to.
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I knew it. Exactly why I showed no sympathy.
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Yes tophia, we were supposed to help pay a home for your stupid lazy ass for free 🙄 COME ON
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No way…
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she’s blaming us because she can’t accept the fact that if she’d just gotten a job & helped Donald they wouldn’t have been in that situation in the first place.
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I’m not sure she means it in the way you guys are interpreting it. Kinda trying to give her the benefit of the doubt here, I think she means she wishes she’d have looked at different resources sooner and not been so stubborn and hard headed. It’s not like she said “you people should have donated sooner.”
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Well well well… I expected this and am not surprised. Wonder how the new Tophia sympathizers feel now.
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I still feel bad for what happened but my god she’s really making it hard to have empathy for her.
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TOPHIA IS SO UNAPPRECIATED
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She thre the financial burden on her brother, instead of helping him. Never wanted to get a job, complained about shelter food and now she’s blaming us for her situation. So many people told her to go to the homeless shelter for safety, she didn’t like the beds or the food. I can’t, she’s never gonna change not even for her mother. I send prayers to her mother.
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I don’t agree with her obviously, but I think she’s trying to cope. She needs to blame something or she’ll go insane trying to find a reason why it all happened
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3 grown adults sleeping outside in an area they knew were dangerous but refused to rent a apt or motel room 🤔. She basically said it’s our fault he’s dead. And this is why I said I empathize with Donald Jr. and Marie but not Tophia. And she said money to rebuild, rebuild what? She was living in a car. And she said money so she can learn to drive she’s gonna milk as much as she can.
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What a disgusting reaction to kindness from strangers.
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Felt sorry for her for losing her brother and her mother being hospitalised but gosh darn! Tophia hit low on this. Dont beg for money in the first place. Work! Get a job! Ask for welfare!!!! Dont beg on social media.
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She got paid 4K a few months ago and didn’t care enough to help her situation at all. If she can’t help herself she can’t expect help from others. Nobody is obligated to pay her way through life.
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blaming us???? for not helping??
wow i'm shocked! /s
bffr tophia. a lot of people, who dislikes you 🫵🏻, back in 2021 had tried their best to send you resources, be genuinely kind in giving you advice, etc but all you did was be rude back and say we're just haters, jobs are for miserable people, etc. that's one of the many reasons why others and myself got tired of even trying, even after ONE TIME.
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Nah fuck that, sympathy wasted
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Tophia will always be Tophia and I doubt she's going to change
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you know she's going to flush that money straight down the toilet.
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Exactly
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Aren’t yall glad ya got all twisted into so many knots yesterday tryna absolve yourselves of guilt for clowning on her? Here she is, next day, showing how much the incident has made her reflect and grow as a person. Oh wait, she still sucks and you’re all still goobers.
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Oh my lord 💀
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You know what if we are going to blame anyone it would be her for not helping her brother by getting a damn job. I absolutely don't feel bad for her, and you all watch she will squander all that money she is getting and be back in the streets in a month or two.
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"People change, and not everyone will, because you cannot change people who are not willing to change"
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It's literally no one else's fault but her own that her family was living in that car.
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oh em gee
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This sub is so bullshit all you people acting like this is a modern day tragedy, then when she acts like she always does your straight back to how you all where before
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Uhm... people were trying to help her, tho? Like there is a person in this very sub who makes breakdowns of Tophia's earnings each month. At the end of each post, they add resources for Tophia to utilize. Not our fault if she didn't.
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I think at one point that person even offered to fill in job applications for Tophia. Tophia thinks giving her free money is 'helping' her, but it's really not going to do shit for her in the long run.
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I just can't with her like WTF. She's a grown adult, she is not our responsibiliy
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lol girl… anyway
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🤣🤣
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Of course she’s not be grateful of the help she’s getting.
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Idk why everyone is shocked pickachu like they didn’t know she’s a full blown narcissist.
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there goes my sympathy
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And THIS is why I will NOT be donating to this woman. If anyone else is, good on them/you. But listen to her. FFS!! BTW ... THE VICTIMS ADVOCACY GROUP IN ALBUQUERQUE NEW MEXICO, WILL PAY UP TO $6K FOR FUNERAL COSTS, TEMPORARY HOUSING, AND ANYTHING ELSE RELATED. 👇🏻
https://www.cvrc.nm.gov/for-victims/cvrc-application/#:~:text=Awards%20up%20to%20a%20maximum,burial%20expenses%3B%20(%246%2C000.00%20maximum)
I've lost THREE family members (and numerous friends!) in Albuquerque due to gun violence and "being at the wrong place at the wrong time." My loved ones weren't even homeless when these murders took place. They were 15, 22, and 28 when they were murdered and it sucks because none of us ever got real justice. Their murderes are already walking the streets today. I have learned that in Albuquerque you don't even look at people in any type of way because it can end tragically. If you're not legally carrying, you don't do/say shit because people here really dgaf! It's been this way since the early 90's at least. The way she pops off on social media while being homeless and doxxed every stream...I was kind of expecting something like this to happen eventually. Just not to Donald Jr. It's ABQ and I've lived this nightmare over and over again, so I knew something was going to happen because of their livelihood. I remember in November or December when she was live on TikTok @ home in the park and someone randomly honked. Her response? "F**k you!" 🤨 ((That's exactly how Ash Trevino was run up on in El Paso, btw. She literally talked shit & told them to pull up. So Mariposa did & Ash Trevino was trying to hide from her.))
In the Albuquerque Journal, they referenced tophia as a "social media influencer" 🙄 I imagine the investigators are having a field day looking through her channels and others on YouTube, reading the endless comments & share names. Listening to tophias back & forth trash talk trying to figure out if this is something to look into as some type of motive. It doesn't make sense otherwise. Why would anyone running from the law think that their LOUD ass looking car wouldn't get them caught up? That area is FULL of traffic/vehicles. He could've gotten someone else's car, or just walked and he'd have been better off. Literally 🤷🏻♀️
I am saddened and my heart breaks for her mother. A parent shouldn't have to bury their child-especially under these circumstances. But this specific situation was avoidable 💯 - numerous times! She chose concerts, comic con, fast food and junk over their own housing/safety needs! Donald Jr couldn't pay for everything himself and she's a grown ass woman who should have been helping. She doesn't learn. Any money she's being given is already spent and she hasn't even gotten it yet. I'll probably get hate for this comment, but I don't care. I'm a native of ABQ and this isn't anything new to us. Sadly, it's just another day in Albuquerque. Resources for them have ALWAYS been available and easily accessible online. She just doesn't want to do anything that requires actual effort. Documents needed for housing? Still in the storage unit because it's a mess and she doesn't want to go through it. Homeless and no job? So what! She makes more than all of us broke ass bastards, online. Her mother suffering in the back seat of that car she almost died in? That's ok, still not gonna work! It's all fun and games with tophia. I'm tired of being gaslit by this woman who refuses to accept that if one doesn't want to be a broke ass bastard (like her EMPLOYERS she repeatedly trashes online) one must actually work and pay REAL bills first. Smh, it's not as hard as she makes it sound. She just doesn't want to put in the damned effort it takes to actually get the help. It's easier to sit and dry bed all day. So she won't get a single penny from me. Donald Jr, you didn't deserve to live or die like this. I'm sorry it happened. RIP. -
We should've helped sooner? WE? Collectively? US? Strangers? WHO IS WE?
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Its time for an onlyfans tophia, some sicko will pay u
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All I can say to everyone here is this: Do not give ungrateful chick shit. If you want to help find the obituary to see what funeral home is handling services and donate money straight to the funeral home. This wild ass heifer can't be trusted with money.
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If she had a job, and didn't waste money on trinkets, maybe she wouldn't be out on the street, being vulnerable to random violent crime. It's not the viewers' job to pay her bills, that's her responsibility. She should have gotten a structured job instead of counting on e-begging.
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this is genuinely crazy lmfao i’m done feeling anything for her, after all this she still blames us when all she could’ve done is get a job and put money together with donald ???? what a joke
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We're trying to help her, but she just wants handouts.
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i have wayyyy to many things to say, first say she didn’t get help sooner when even tho we hate her we still gave her way to get out of this situation, the most common thing being getting a job and she denied saying social media was her job ??? then medicare, homeless housing and other stuff and she denied EVERYTHING and said she didn’t need help as she’s already doing great…ALSO i don’t trust her with the go fund mes, knowing she’s blaming us instead of herself rn, it shows her mind didn’t change after her own BROTHER DIED, i just know she’s gonna take the money and use the least amount possible for his funeral and then go and spend it on a camera juste because she wanna be an influencer, mark my words: SHES GONNA SPEND THE MONEY IN DUMB STUFF SHE CANT EVEN STORE PROPERLY
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Alright that’s enough sympathy from me.. MIND YOU SHE IS 30 YEARS OLD AND ABLE TO WORK.. I won’t give the ho a Cent
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She’s just milking the situation now. Fucking psycho.
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I’m hoping she is not blaming others but if she is then I don’t want to be insensitive but Donald Jr wouldn’t have been killed and her mom wouldn’t have been hospitalized if she had just gotten a job or managed her money well, even in this Reddit page people have made post about ways she can earn money etc but she rather not work and unfortunately it led to the carjacking and death of her brother. When the whole Squid thing was going, Squid even told where they can get resources.
If Tophia is blaming herself then the guilt she will have to live with for a long time is going to be heavy , this is a really hard wake up call for her to finally acknowledge her faults. I really hope she prioritizes getting shelter instead of living in a car, despite her bad decisions and spending I’m really hoping she learns the importance of managing money. Hopefully some social worker can help them out .
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I’m pretty sure I (and others) said yesterday she was gonna blame yall
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I honestly don’t think she meant the internet. I hear what everyone is saying. Tophia take ACCOUNTABILITY! Resources have been there the whole time! You’ve been lazy! You want things just to be handed to you, like the world owes you! If you want something in life YOU MUST PUT IN EFFORT and RESTRAINT. The would’ve, could’ve game is past tense now. Open your eyes Tophia. You played a HUGE PART in your families downfall. Recognize this. You’re almost 31 years old. One day your mom won’t be here. You will have nobody! It’s time to shut the fucking computer down and listen to the people trying to help you! If your mom is given the option to go to assisted living. Encourage her to go!! Go back to school! Better yourself, make connections! Make real life friends! Get an Education! Ask your brothers friends to teach you how to drive! stop pretending you know everything! You Know nothing but celebrity gossip and lyrics to music! You’re focusing on the wrong things to store in your brain!
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Please can somebody take her phone away so she can go heal🤦🏽♀️
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Well that didn't take her long 💀 did all that boo hoo crying just to go back to her usual failed attempts to gaslight people 😆
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At this point, I don't even know what to say.. 😕
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She should’ve gotten a job sooner it would’ve not happen she would’ve probably been park at her job safer
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she has went through something extremely traumatic… But at the end of the day, she is still a narcissist and will always blame other people for things that happened to her.
Would they have been in that parking, lot at that moment, if she actually worked and helped contribute to their financial situation? Probably not… She chose her lifestyle because she refused to get a job and be responsible.
I have empathy for her loss… But I don’t have empathy for her choices. And both can be relevant and happen at the same time.
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LMAOOOOO THIS BITCH
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This is sad. I thought such a traumatic event would completely do a 180 for her. I seriously hope she gets the help she needs and quits social media
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I was wondering when she'd go back to her bullshit
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Is she for real right now?!?? “I wish we gotten help sooner.” Tophia, multiple people reached out and gave you RESOURCES but you refused to get the resources you needed. She’s never grateful and I really don’t give a fuck about what tophia defenders gotta say on tiktok about this subreddit.
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what the hell
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I agree she should have hustled hard sooner. Now is her time to shine and get her and her mother off the street. You got this tophia, you can't depend on anyone but yourself
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we shouldve helped sooner??? girl couldnt even help herself with the times she relied on donald, buying all that makeup and other unnecessary things. even if people gave her money now, she’d be blowing it on more unnecessary things. she cant even be grateful for the sympathy we’re giving to her
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Is anybody surprised lmao
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She received help but she spent the money on ComicCon instead of paying rent
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And it’s the fact that we have been helping her and giving her resources for a long time…she just refuses the help
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I'm at a loss for words.
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Didn't take long.
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I blame comic con
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🤣
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its a shame, the situation was coincidental, it was a wrong place wrong time situation so im frustrated shes doing the “if you did this:” thing
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She’s never gonna learn her lesson I fear. Her brother died and mother is in the hospital and you’d think this would open her eyes to do better, but nope, she makes it about herself and blames others.
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Ugh I understand that she’s mourning. What she went through was terrific. to turn this around and blame people for not helping? She does receive donations and people have tried to help, she used that money selfishly and irresponsibly considering the situation she’s in. She could have used it to better her situation and she didn’t and that was her choice. It’s upsetting because the carjacking isn’t her fault and it isn’t her audiences fault. she needs to understand that. What she needs is to get offline but knowing her that isn’t gonna happen and she will make this situation worse. You can’t expect handouts from people online and I have no idea why she would expect that especially since she acknowledges that her audience isn’t watching to support her. I don’t even know how she’s gonna get a job either with what is online when you search her name, she needs to find an employer who will hire her and find resources to help her.
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The mentality will never change with her.
I hate that people pointing out the real her even after this video are getting hate.
Everyone needs to think based off this response... What is Tophia's game plan? Does she plan to live off of Donations?
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forgive me but excuse me? who the f*ck are we to help her? she’s a grown ass woman, THIRTY!! she could’ve easily helped herself by getting a job, learning to drive, but no she chose to sit on a live stream and brag about how she doesn’t need to work and how her subs are stupid cuz all she wants is there money. she sat on those streams saying the most gross things about individuals, including bringing up people’s dead relatives and now all of the sudden we have to feel bad for her because she lost someone close to her? give me an actual break. in two months she’ll be right back on those streams acting the same disgusting way she’s been acting. i genuinely don’t feel bad for her.
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All these people giving her money she’s not going to use it for anything good, this is the definition of something horrible happening to a person that’s not good, and it’s sad, my heart hurts for him, but she’s the same person she’s been
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While people have called me heartless, I can say this is why I had no sympathy for her after what happened to her brother. I felt bad for her brother, felt bad for her mom, but not Tophia. Always spinning it back to blame everyone but herself. Whole situation could’ve been avoided if she got off her lazy ass, got a job, and stayed in an apartment instead of a car.
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Ungrateful fat cunt.
There’s no nice thing to say about her even after tragedy.
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I don’t wanna go here because I don’t wish death upon anyone but honestly if it were Donald that had lived and was in Tophia’s situation and Tophia was gone, I think that him and Marie would’ve stood a chance. I have a no hope for Tophia at all. This is a tragedy and yet I feel like she’s only upset over it because she’s not cashing in on Donald’s death as much as she’d like to. She needs to get it together because after Marie, she’s got nobody.
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People have been donating to her forever, doesn't it cost $50+ per admission to go to comicon and didn't she go out and buy a PS5 during when she and her family were already living in their car?
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not even a "thankyou" on a sentence bro.. 😒
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And this is why I didn’t switch up and still don’t care about them. She’s never gonna change
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Although I definitely feel bad... she is not going to receive nearly the amount she would if she humbled herself.... this was literally a random act of violence, not targeted.... her saying we should have helped sooner implies that we are at fault.... I've never once commented or interacted with her, never even viewed a live... I catch the spark notes from Kiwi, Smokey, Chilla, etc.... but I still feel like one of the accused when she says crap like this
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WTF DID SHE JUST SAY???
BLOODY HELL WE ALL TRIED TO HELP TOPHIA!
BUT NOW SHES BLAMING US FOR DONALD JR'S DEATH????
GIRL! IF YOU'D GET A JOB AND COMBINED THE MONEY TOGETHER (DONALD JR'S) THEN YOU'D BE OFF THE STREETS AND YOU WOULD'VE JUST LOST THE CAR.
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Now Tophia we tried to help you by telling you to get a job...
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Told yall and you said I was a bully??????? Reeaaaallyy me. She’s bullied so much she’s an account shifter bec of bans or as she calls it “bands”. I wish someone would have thrown resources at me like they did her and I don’t mean financial. People in Arizona wanted to move her there through a church long time ago and offered her a job. Remember where is that video when she say “I ain’t getting a job” it’s somewhere and laughed at employees at McDonalds. Yeah gee it’s all coming back to be now like Celion Dion said. Suckers I mean supporters
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She genuinely needs some sort of guardian or social worker. I’m not even saying this to patronize her. She’s truly hit rock bottom, and even her snarkers are sending their condolences. She somehow still can’t understand, why she shouldn’t say shit like this. She’s not only setting herself up, but compromising her belated brother for more insults and ridicule. Does she not realize that this type of attitude can compromise efforts that will help her?
Social workers are genuinely some of the strongest people and godsends. It was always one my career paths, but I’m not gonna lie this would stress me the FUCK out 😭😭
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ok i still feel sympathy for her ofc, but blaming us for her brothers death is insane work. not ok.
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I think she’s saying they should have gotten help as in they should have reached out for help.
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“when my mom passes i don’t have anybody, i don’t have my sibling he’s gone” damn.
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What happened to her taking a break? Also, every post is about $$ smh… AND she barely said anything about her mother! Like if you’re going to post about your stupid cash app, please let us know how your mom is. She is well known to us as well like you and your bro. Typical t behavior
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bruh are you kidding me
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As a human being, I’m sympathetic to what she must be going through. That being said, she is the last person that should be playing the blame game right now.
I wanted to believe this would be the thing that snapped her out of her ass-sitting addiction but I don’t know….a part of me sees her a year from now milking this so she can continue to pursue her passions of sitting and drinking Mountain Dew.
I don’t know I hope I’m wrong.
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she literally did not say that?????
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This girl got the biggest lol cow opportunity in the world to make people like her again and she’s fumbling it so quick. I have sympathy for her situation it’s truly horrible, but SHE should’ve helped herself and her family and they wouldn’t have been in that car to begin with if she wants to go there.
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she HAD help but she turned it down everytime. in the last couple of years she gotten a lot of money that could have saved her life and made her life better if she saved it up but nope she dumped alot of it in the trash. i'm so sick of her greedy ass. plus she constantly says how she doesn't need a job. she's gunna be all alone one day and she still won't care bout anyone but herself.
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I feel terrible, i’m trying to excuse it for her grieving but at the same time shes a full bodied adult who couldve gotten her shit together years ago, and blaming her brothers death on internet strangers just speaks volumes. I dont even think the gfm money is gonna actually go to proper resources either.
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That's why i wasn't feeling sorry for her, but for marie and donald, i knew as soon as she could, she would be back to saying bs and blaming everyone but her. Not just that sleeping in a car is already dangerous, and they told her that she decided to keep parking and sleeping IN A PARK! She doesn't listen, and we should take this as a sign to stop trying to help her cause there's no point, i feel sad cause marie has to go thru all of this, too🤦♀️
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her fucking brother just got murdered in a carjacking & she’s still trying to blame the internet somehow. unbelievable. can’t say i’m shocked tho
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See, this is exactly what I knew and was afraid was going to happen. Using her brother’s death to her advantage in hopes that she can profit off from it and will possibly continue to do so later on. She’s just so disappointing.
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No where in the video did I hear her blame anyone. I think you guys just want to find a reason to hate on her.
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Just laughed out loud. I’m not surprised at all. I honestly cannot feel any sympathy towards her. So fucking ungrateful for the help she HAS received.
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“I wish you would have got help sooner” I’m not sure what she actually meant by that. She didn’t say “I wish you guys would have helped sooner” so I don’t wanna jump to conclusions. I dunno
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truly...truly speechless. I take back all I said in the immediate aftermatch. And I fully **OPENLY** admit I was dead wrong.
....holy fuck. like, what in the actual flying mother fuck.
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She really getting on my nerves already
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She’s just angry. She’s so upset and of course when something like this happens it will always be a WHAT IF THIS. Yes, it is true that if they had a place that this may not have happened. But also that is not OUR fault.
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wow this post is how I found out brotherchu died
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Yall are lowkey twisting it, she said she just wishes this came earlier— not pointing direct fingers at anyone. she’s speaking through grief and anger of her situation she just wishes things could’ve been different.
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Marie needs to bee in a nursing home not back outside again.
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If there was one thing that she needed to listen to from a lot of people, it was for her to get a job.
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huh, didnt people help her before and she used the money for a convention?
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Girl what ??she did get help but decided to use it on unnecessary things 🙃 she says she doesn’t want anyone to blame her for what happened which truly was horrific and no ones fault but she now wants to blame us 😑
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We should've helped sooner? But she's the one who wouldn't want to apply for a job and stay unemployed while her brother is providing for them..
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its not our fault she doesn't wanna work.
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😭😭😂
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now she getting to blaimg
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it’s tophia after all, she will always continue to dig herself in deeper and deeper holes of avoidance.
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The pure entitlement and delusion this moron spews out of their disgusting mouth is enraging lol
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She didn’t say this… what are you twisting her words for?! shame on you
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where did she say that bc i literally didn’t see or hear it???
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Now I’m starting to think brotherchu didn’t even die now 💀
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What? It was on the local news??
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She is not blaming anyone… I truly believe that she is saying WE should have got help sooner as in they should’ve asked for help or got into a shelter or something. I truly truly do not believe that she is blaming anyone other than herself.
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Are yall dense or something? She means help as in resources. My goodness not even a week and yall are back at it again. If I don’t like someone guess what I don’t check their page, I don’t post about them, I block and move on. Y’all need to desperately grow up already.
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She talks about the Gofundme and other money she's received since this incident and then follows it with "I wish we would've gotten help sooner". Context clues alone shows that she is NOT talking about resources. But let's say she was talking about resources... I have watched countless people direct Tophia to resources in her city that could help her family and she has rejected and even MOCKED it every single time. I have also watched people send Tophia tons of money and she used it on absolute bullshit every single time. Yes we are back at it again and so is Tophia! Take your own advice and leave if you don't like us.
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She could be talking about the help they’re receiving from the government. Not everything is a personal attack on you.
She also said “please be careful…”.
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She’s right. The whole family has some intellectual disabilities and needed help from a system that just turns people away. Mental health is an important thing in this country but not these fat rich government losers
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y’all are weird.
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Yall are heartless and switch up so fast what 💀 these people clearly needed help. They needed to be properly educated and set up for success by our government. The NM education system failed them all. The NM government provides 0 assistance to the homeless except for crusty crowded homeless shelters.
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i don’t think she’s blaming us…
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Yes she is lol
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Even if she wasn’t blaming the internet why does anyone owe her any kind of help? She doesn’t want to work.
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who said anyone owed her? you must want to argue. go ask her if you’re so curious!
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I honestly don’t think that’s what she meant. It sounds like she’s regretting not taking the help given to her.
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No bc she didn't say she wishes they would've USED the help sooner. She said she wishes they would've GOTTEN help sooner. Basically implying that people did not try to help her and her family which is absolutely false.
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it's so hard to give her the benefit of the doubt when she's blaming people, but i'm hoping, like someone else said that she meant it in the sense of taking the help offered to her.
i still find myself feeling empathy for her and her family, i know it's a heated topic but damn. it's heartbreaking to hear her start to sob again just bringing up her brother or the situation.
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yes agreed. i honestly shed a few tears listening to her heart break
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she isn't a good person, she talks a lot of shit and grifts for money. i didn't shed tears for her, but I can have empathy to the line of her sobbing over her brother who was shot in front of her. that cry was from her soul. if that's downvote worthy whatever man.
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Who’s downvoting so much?
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She’s obviously grieving and I still see people using this as a way to beat her while she’s down.
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Then she should log off? No one’s telling her to stay online. She can post her GFM and her cash app/paypal or whatever and leave it at that for a while. Damn
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Why are you being hostile towards me for ? All I said is she’s grieving. I understand your point agree to disagree have a good day ❤️
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THIS
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No fucking way. I’m not surprised she’s acting this way but the fact she isn’t grateful in the slightest for the support she has been receiving is so enraging. Tophia it isn’t our fault you were living out of a car and that’s what ultimately led to this happening, do better, let this be a wake up call.