In “defense” of tophia
I just wanted to share my thoughts on this whole thing. i wanna start off by saying, no i am not defending her past actions or trying to say everyone should be obligated to feel bad for her. i understand why it’s hard to feel bad for her, but I personally lost my father to gun violence too so idk i might be emotionally biased here. plus, i do genuinely feel bad for her.
I get why everyone’s saying “oh she’s asking for money again” and getting angry, but let’s really think about this for a second:
1: she has no savings, no job, no family, no help, and she just lost her brother. ofc she’s gonna ask for money?? 😭 funerals, medical bills, etc. shit is no joke.
2: idk if yall have applied to jobs recently (not calling yall broke or jobless trust) (and also don’t get me wrong, she should be applying soon) but it’s HARD to get a call back. Add that to Tophia not having a car, not knowing how to drive, being homeless, and having just suffered an extremely traumatic event.
3: I live here in ABQ, the gun violence and violence in general is nasty, but you never EVER think it’s gonna happen to you. yes she should’ve tried to get a motel or something but how was she supposed to know that was gonna happen? she was parked in front of a church for god’s sake AND in a neighborhood. it wasn’t a great one, but i can tell you she could’ve chosen a WAY worse neighborhood to sleep in. you truly never think it’ll happen to you until it does.
4: I’m gonna be real, Tophia has never had a way with words to begin with. it’s hard to keep up with what she’s saying and how she means it. I genuinely don’t think she’s trying to beg for money for malicious use, i think she’s just desperate to get the money together for her brother and her mom.
Like I said, I’m not defending her past actions or anyone’s past actions for that matter. All i am saying is that she just suffered a horrible horrible tragedy and idc what anyone says, she absolutely did NOT deserve that. Cut her some fucking slack, just for a little bit at least. i’m not her biggest fan either, but human to human I know how horrible it is to lose a family member in such a violently horrific way. and witnessing that? i can’t even begin to imagine. you don’t have to give her money or actively defend her or support anything she has done, but sympathy and empathy are free. Personally, i say wait and see what she does rather than what she says. if she goes back to the way she was then yeah i get it, but for right now she kinda just sounds frantic and confused.
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ngl you are not the first nor second nor third person to say this or make a post about literally everything you said in this post
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i agree with the money thing - i’m not defending Tophias lack of effort when it comes to TRYING at a job but i live in europe and it took me 2 months of applying to jobs online and in person to even get a RETAIL job - this was me applying every single day and changing my CV every time with adequate experience.
the job market is currently so unbelievably fucked and on top of her lack of effort in herself/her hygiene - oh and her lack of ADDRESS? it’ll be even harder for her to get a job imo. so if by any chance she has an epiphany and actually tries to get a job she’ll still struggle either way and she’s still going to ask for money.
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She’s already showing her ass on her TikTok stories. Death itself couldn’t change her.
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Yes she is definitely in shock still, she’s going to have PTSD for the rest of her life, this has literally been one of the most traumatic things to ever happen in someone’s life, and everyone grieves differently, her whole world just fell apart, tbh I can’t even imagine going through something like that, I couldn’t cope just thinking about it
She had YEARS to get a job and save money up. Dont pull that "she doesnt have money so feel bad for her" card. Its her fault she has no money because she thinks $100 a month from tiktok is better than a 9-5