Tophia’s story
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Yes exactly she had shelter options she just didn’t like any of them. That’s not to say this is her fault but she had options
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I will never get over the $800 spent on ComicCon. Like that was that was one of the stupidest decisions shes ever made.
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Dude what, she didn't go to a shelter because it was beneath her standars, the more i learn about her, the less i want to
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I mean keeping it a buck…the day prior to the car jacking she was laughing at ppl w jobs and making fun of regular folks situations. A tragedy won’t change the fact she’s an awful person. Ofc I feel awful this happened to the family. But tophia is essentially the same person and will continue the cycle of superiority complex
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I get it, she also kept threatening to shoot people too..I’m sorry that it came back to bite her in the ass but I’m honestly not surprised. it’s sad that Donald’s life was taken in the process.
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Didn't she also say she could afford an apartment or hotel but didn't want to waste her money paying to live somewhere that wouldn't be permanent? Like she wasn't gonna move in anywhere til she could buy her own house? So she could have gone somewhere but with someone else's money because she didn't want to waste hers so it's our fault?
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To be fair, tophia does have a point, not all but most homeless shelters are dangerous and inadequate as there have been reports of people being robbed and attacked in the shelters so I can understand her fear.
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better than living in a car tbh. Shelters have people around, even if you are robbed..as compared to in an empty parking lot in the middle of the night
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Yeah, but then when you also combine with the other more reason she frequently gives? Like how she doesn’t like the food or how they often will try to put her up with special work programs?
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Again I'm not defending tophia, I'm just saying that there is a big issue with how the shelter system works in the US, and I think the biggest reason why tophia didn't want to go to a shelter was being separated from brotherchu and her mom as shelters typically separate based on gender.
I didn't know she refused the work program?
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Yeah, that’s also why she won’t do section 8 housing or a lot of other assistance programs because they require you to either be in school or working. That’s kind of the ultimate problem of her life. she wants like a Luxe lifestyle handed to her on a silver platter for free with no work on her end. Like I remember some people saying if she truly wanted vehicle or freedom and to duck trolls who docs her an RV or a mobile home would be a perfect solution, but she does not want to save her money or work at all.
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Better to be alive than beaten or robbed…..
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the last story pmo so bad, people warned her it was dangerous living in a car and she said it gave her freedom and she didnt want to rent anymore like… she wants people to give her a free house or something?
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That’s exactly what she wants. She wants everyone to pay for her life because she doesn’t feel like she needs to work a real job. She’s just a lazy POS
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What makes her more deserving of free shit over the millions of people who get off their asses to work every day . FOH
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She’s the bosses dotter
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Fr i have a disabled child i wish i could het donations like Tophia lol i CANT work a job because i have to be a caretaker
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Yup exactly
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That’s exactly what she wants . She wants for everyone to give her money, provide for her expenses and her not do anything for herself . Life just doesn’t work that way .
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I agree, so many people have been through the worst things life has to offer but none of them had the luxury of having money and a “personal fund” like she is doing right now. So many people suffer with situations like this but in the past Tophia showed ZERO remorse or empathy towards anyone who’s been thru sa, gun violence, domestic violence etc etc and right now she will not use the money for good, nobody should donate to her… only to the fund for Donald’s funeral
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Here’s the thing we didn’t make her homeless it was all of them in an apartment refusing to pay the rent!! They have been homeless over a year!!! Why they haven’t gotten a place is beyond me I hate this happened to her and her family but I’m telling you know this is her new crutch my brother was killed I can’t do this I can’t do this I’m sorry she will never get it together
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i don’t know if it’s pride or what that kept her in that car. she loved going live and saying how much better she was than those of us that work, that those of us that rent or pay bills, and how much freedom that car gave her.
donald was the only one who seemed to be able
to work and hold down a job but in the video she admits to even him spending his money on his selfish wants (a trip to california to see youtubers). there wasn’t a single second anyone in that family prioritized each other or their needs.this is 100% her new crutch. she is incapable of meaningful growth and change, and i really believe this will make her worse.
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Homeless for over 2 years!* lol
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Homeless for 2 years is crazy
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While berating everyone with jobs and how she makes thousands of dollars
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248$ a month I believe. Pls correct me if I’m wrong.
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I think it was like $800 for the apartment. It was $200 a week for the motel room
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I feel horrible for her, genuinely but her followers have been telling her for months that it was dangerous to be living in a car. It shouldn’t be up to your following to get you out of that situation. She just never helped herself
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The way she immediately quit sobbing talkin about money was crazy
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Then later saying “why did my brother have to die for people to care” felt like she was really trying to say “why did my brother have to die for you guys to hand me more money”
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me again saying she needs her phone GONE. taken away. yes, this is her only current coping mechanism, but she's actively destroying what's left of her own mental health. goddamn.
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She is clearly on here reading all of the posts and comments. Idk why she would do that to herself, considering the poor mental state she is currently in. Tophia, please get off of the reddit/discord/tiktok/youtube and try to get connected with a therapist. I'm certain that you can get some resources if you ask.
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She doesn’t want to hear her followers saying “get a job” “don’t stay in your car it’s dangerous” “go to a shelter it’s safer there” she only wants to hear “here tophia I’ll give you thousands of dollars and pay for a house for you”
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Anytime her subs would suggest some kind of help that didn’t include donating to her directly, she would crash out and wish the worst of em.
The resources are there. It’s not their job to reach out to you. YOU have to go and get it
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She’s a grown ass woman who wants everything handed to her. Sorry that’s not how life works welcome to the real world
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Sadly shelters aren't always safer either. Overcrowdedness and risk of getting belongs stolen are common
One of my friends went to a shelter years ago and told me about how he got punched by someone at the shelter because the attacker wanted to steal his shoes. Not to mention how some shelters are overcrowded and can cause ptsd
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Yeah thank God she avoided potentially getting punched and ptsd and just lived in a car in a shady part of town! That worked out infinitely better! Just ask brotherchu
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“my brother was supposed to take a trip to california to see his favorite youtubers”
everyone in that family really refused to spend
money on bettering their situation, didn’t they?-
He was buying lemons and planning on taking trips but he was the most “responsible” of all of em.
Please
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God that whole family was fame obsessed….. which reminds me of when Toph was bitching about when she wanted to go to Vidcon and a guy bought her a ticket because he felt bad but she bitched because he wasn’t paying for the whole trip so he immediately revoked it and ripped her a new one
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also her switching from crying and talking about her brother and then her voice calming down and talking about cashapp and paypal and then out of nowhere talking about her brother and crying again???? I cant
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I was gonna point that out… the switch is insane.
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so she wanted people to just give her money instead of growing up, facing reality and getting a job… got it
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Exactly, she thinks because she posts half ass videos and live stream she thinks she deserves to live like the Kardashians, but in reality she was the three stooges
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Nobody’s blaming her. she’s about to start that bullshit. I thought she’d give it at least 2 weeks.
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i’ve seen multiple comments on tiktok of people saying that if she got a job then this would’ve been avoided
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people were actually blaming her on tiktok.
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It really is her fault
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I think on Reddit the reaction is pretty split so maybe you aren’t seeing those comments on here but if you go on TikTok the reactions are pretty bad. I have seen ppl saying she was a bad person for purposely leaving her mom in the car, she’s the reason they were shot, why didn’t she fight the car jacker, etc.
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I hate to say it but Tophia WAS right about that, people were blaming her after it happened
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To be fair, you can't get carjacked in an apartment or a shelter. Tophia getting a job would have most likely changed the trajectory of future events and this wouldn't have happened
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I’ve seen people blaming trolls. I’ve seen people kind of blaming her. I’m in the middle where it is she responsible for the shooting no but if she responsible for them sleeping in the car.??? It’s pretty much all of the family but some income on her end definitely would’ve helped
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She getting blamed for spending money recklessly and not getting a job.
It is her fault.
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I think Tophia’s problem is that she hasn’t processed anything that’s happened. Yes, she cried, but the breakdown when everything genuinely sets in is what’ll really get her. Do I think it’ll set her down a better path?
Eh. I hope it does but she does not have any sort of support system around her.
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I think she has extended family from mamachu's family (cousins, mamachu's siblings) and papachu's first family from South Carolina who might be happy to help her out in her time of need.
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She didn’t graduate though… she’s not an alumna
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Oh sorry my bad I misunderstood...though maybe some of her classmates that she went to high school or college with might help her out?
She did have friends right? As I saw a picture of her surrounded by some girls in a photo
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You were in the wrong place at the wrong time, sure, but you could have been off the streets... You could have not run your mouth about terrible things knowing people knew where you were and could come pull up.
The car jacking was not your fault. Your bro and mother being hurt...you didn't do that ... But you did do anything to better your situation and get you guys out of harm's way.
You could have a job. Be in an apartment with your mom and even brother if you stopped trying to live this sham of a creator's life. You are not a big content creator.
Get a job and some help from social services. Try to help what family you have left and quit making your situation worse.
Platforms are less likely to keep people around who are constantly breaking TOS. You can't seem to not do the wrong thing daily.
Get a real job. Help your mom...get your dad some help. Just try damnit!
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Gun violence is indeed terrible; which is why I don’t understand why she felt it was appropriate to threaten her audience with it.
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EXACTLY!! This shit is so fucked up to happen to anyone but I can’t over the fact that she was THREATENING her audience with gun violence… I don’t mean to sound harsh or cold but it’s hard for me to feel bad for Tophia, I did at first but I predicted she’d be sad for a bit but then IMMEDIATELY regress back into her old ways..
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I don’t think you should feel any type of way. It’s true. She threatened us multiple times with gunning us down, our families not being able to afford our funerals, having no family etc etc but look what she’s going through.
If people don’t wanna call it karma, fine, I understand. But let’s not act like it’s not a bit ironic
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Exactly what I’m saying, I get that people feel bad but it rubs me the wrong way at how some people are willing to donate to her directly. She is not a normal adult, she’s not going to take responsibility right now, this is her rock bottom and we cannot save her no matter what we say, people gave her advice and she never listens to anyone, she’s not going to change now and listen to anyone or anything that isn’t money for her temu makeup and patty melts… I DO wish she would change but I can’t dwell on that
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No matter how much people donate, it’ll never be enough.
She’ll claim it’s for an apartment but then spend it on makeup palettes and concert tickets (which people say she’s allowed to enjoy life, which I agree to an extent. She’s allowed to have nice things but you gotta be reasonable) and get mad at she’s back to square one.
I only got into her universe in October but I’ve seen the pattern already.
Plus, she’ll have to pay taxes on those funds she’s receiving which she’ll crash out about soon.
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That’s exactly how I feel, yes she should be allowed to have nice things but right NOW she needs to get her shit together,if this didn’t wake her up, NOTHING will.
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Her brother was killed in front of her and I truly thought that she would snap out of this victim mentality but no HOW SHE STILL COMPLAINING ABOUT PEOPLE WANTING TO HELP HER
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she’s a narcissist. and will unfortunately use this as a means to crowdfund.
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TOPHIA, if you are reading this, save your money! Get help from a social worker, get housing, food stamps, whatever you can get and not use your money! Now is a time to get a job and get your mother off the streets, try to get an overnight job, but for the love of GOD put your pride aside and the safety of you and your mother first!
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"I told everybody it's not safe out here, help help" yeah I fail to see how that was our responsibility to house and feed ourselves and ALSO house and feed 3 other able bodied individuals.
And ur brother deserved life yet you had no intention of financially contributing to his life or housing?
Concepts of thoughts and prayers for her only bc everyone else around her is always suffering the consequences -
i really wish she would listen when people advise her not to post or not to look at social media all day. she has an opportunity now more than ever to make some serious, lasting changes in her life. i hope she takes them. but this doesn’t bode well for the future and it’s really just unfortunate to witness.
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“Why did my brother have to die for anyone to care” like she can’t be serious. She is so incredibly entitled. It’s beyond unfortunate that this happened, but she will never take accountability for where they were in life, and now her situation is even worse. Her brother was the only one trying to make actual money. She shouldn’t be mad at the internet for telling her how the real world works
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So basically I feel like she’s saying this wouldn’t have happened if everyone would have just sent them money and helped them get a place to live? Now it’s too late….. etc. Well girl everyone told you for years to get a job. To work.
Between you and your brothers income you could have had something. I feel for her I do, but don’t be blaming others for your own actions
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Her parents definitely instilled in her that the world owes them everything
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thank you for posting it in 2x speed
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They refused to pay rent and she used a GFM meant for rent money for comicon tickets (2 comicon ago). She could have paid rent rent that. And it wasn’t enough a part time job is all she needs and Donald would have loved the help. Both Donald’s would have appreciated the help. She could have been working for 16 years already. My children are grown now but started at a grocery store chain in the southeast as baggers and now one is working another job higher paying and my twins are still working for the same store and get 18$ hr which is pretty good with full benefits while still in school. Tophia can do something like that. They always need retail baggers in grocery stores. She won’t. She said she’s lactose intolerant and can’t hold her poop. That’s a lie btw. She can’t walk without advil. Well neither can I dose up lady and work. Excuses. If that were my mom I’d be crawling to work if I had to.
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The people blaming her for his death and all of that is messed up, and she doesn’t deserve that. But to everyone who’s watched how she got herself in this homeless situation, she’s had many opportunities to get a job and help her family and more importantly herself. I don’t want to be insensitive right now, but she’s made fun of minimum wage workers. Claimed having a 9-5 would make her want to unalive. And rejected homeless shelters. This whole situation is horrible and I’m so sorry she had to witness that. But she needs to take some action and work herself out of all this. I really hope she can get some therapy of course, and help with learning how to drive from people around her. But the rest she needs to do on her own.
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It’s an unfortunate situation, and she’s right, it was the wrong place at the wrong time; but she refuses to see her role in this. When I first heard her IG story about Donald, my heart fell to fell to the ground.. but, the more I hear her rant, the less I feel sorry for her. She made the choice to neglect the safety of her family by choosing to fulfill her delusion of being a social media influencer and carelessly spends crucial funds on meaningless trips. I don’t even think she understands the gravity of the situation. I emphasize with her situation, but she needs to accountability for herself, comprehend that we (the internet) do not owe her anything, get off social media, and seek professional help to guide her on the right path.
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She needs to get off of social media and seek therapy, because this isn’t healthy- especially since there are terrible people out there that are probably sending her hateful messages.
It’s easier said than done though, since it’s clear she doesn’t have anyone personally to talk to other than I guess all of us, which isn’t good -
Hearing Tophia cry like that is honestly heartbreaking, and I wouldn’t wish this situation on anyone. That being said, we have to be realistic. The shooting is not her fault—there’s no way she could’ve seen this coming or done anything to stop it beforehand. It was unexpected, plain and simple. However, it’s delusional to act like this entire situation couldn’t have been avoided if she had just gotten a job, built a career, or helped with rent in a more stable living situation.
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She would also have had to set boundaries with both Donalds though. With one being very mentally unwell and the other threatening people with a gun. But I suppose one step at a time.
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WE DONT OWE YOU ANYTHING TOPHIA.
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I’m confused on how she expected people to help her . It’s not our job to get her family off the streets . She’s GROWN. Most of us have our own to care for . She always stated she wasn’t going to get a job . Like I seriously don’t get it
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THEY DIDNT CARE. Why should we!!!??? I’m barely keeping my family afloat I can’t add 3 able body adults to that equation
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I hope she finds a counselor. I’m sure there’s one available due to the circumstances but I can’t help but think that she’s stubborn enough to think that she can get through this on her own. Losing a loved one is hard in general, to lose a younger sibling so suddenly and traumatic has to be taking a massive toll on her right now. I hope she does find someone who she can talk to and help her vent and work through all of this.
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She’s getting a downpour of donations so she’s definitely gonna think it’s enough to live off of forever. This is the same girl who thinks making 20k in 4 years is impressive
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Is it me or does it sound like she doesn’t even care he’s dead
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i felt this in the story of her shouting fresh after the shooting too
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She's perceiving ADVICE that is genuine as an "attack" so she doesn't have to take accountability for their financial and living situation.
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this is still all so surreal.
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appreciate it greatly
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tophia jesus christ just log off. SPEND TIME WITH YOUR MOTHER. god i thought she would actually change and actually take a break from social media.
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I genuinely think she came back online way too soon and is consuming a lot of things that are extremely unhelpful. It’s 100% understandable to be angry, upset , hurt and even alone over everything that happened. What happened SHOULD have not happened. They were in the wrong place and wrong time. However, it isn’t misspeaking. She needs to understand there were many people especially us with the social work, education, nursing and mental health background that provided information. I even recall many of us looking and asking for resources to connect her when she was suicide baiting. She IS the victim of her circumstances when it comes to the carjacking and her childhood because it was outside of her control but she needs to be ACCOUNTABLE for what she could have controlled. Maybe in time once everything is more stable she can come back online but now she really needs to take a step back and connect with the resources people are sending in her area. People want to help her including Donald Jr’s friends. She needs to accept the help.
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she needs to stay off social media.
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i think she needs to get off the internet for a while. it won't do her any good looking at social media comments
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I really hope that she’s somewhere safe, being homeless is hard but as a woman, it’s harder, the risk of SA are high…and she’s all alone. I fear that something worse could happen, especially if she keeps on posting those stories, she really needs mental help, she’s traumatized.
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Is she not staying in the hospital with Marie?
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I have no idea, I hope so honestly. I know she doesn’t like shelters but right now she’s all alone so she’s should use all the options offered to her.
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Why is she still posting shit.
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Im sorry but side note, her saying they “could have gone to Walmart” is so pitiful. They genuinely had nothing going on for them just for things to end up like this.
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She reminds me of amberlynn when she “cries” like how they’re able to turn the water works on & off so quick is wild to me.
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Didn’t she just get paid 4K a month or two ago? That would’ve greatly helped their living situation! I feel for her I really do, what happened to her brother was horrible. But it’s kind of crazy to blame the internet for not helping financially sooner. It’s not and never was the internets job to pay for their housing, food, clothing etc. people are helping her now because she needs to lay her brother to rest.
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i don’t think it is her fault that her brother was shot, but if she had listened to those online who told her living in a car is not safe whatsoever, the outcome would’ve been different.
she already lives in a dangerous area, on top of that, she lived in a car, it’s not a good situation. it doesn’t help that any money she gets she puts it towards her enjoyments rather than safety, she could’ve gotten another motel, no?
i also unfortunately doubt this will change her for the better, i think it will change her for the worst. already she’s back on ig ranting, but realistically she has no one else to talk to and it’s been like that for years.
seeing someone die in front of you will scar you for life, she is going to be messed up, we won’t ever see her be normal again, not that she was but i digress, not gna be mean about her in a comment like this
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i hope this will be her wake up call, i really do.
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She has to take a break from social media and get in contact with a social worker. This is clearly ruining her mental wellbeing.
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They need resources and to actually take them and use them! Someone commented on TT that it took this to happen to help her. She should’ve helped herself it’s not out responsibility to help grown ass people
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She was warned for months and given ideas to get her family in a safer living situation before something bad could happen. She ignored it, said everyone was wrong for this reason & that reason and never tried to better their living situation and just wanted $ handed to her. Unfortunately the warnings came true, living on the streets in any American city is dangerous, but Albuquerque is notorious for its high crime. She knew the risk/was warned a bunch and didn't take it seriously enough. People tried to help before and she screwed it away or was irresponsible with the money they got.
Its not her fault someone decided to carjack them and kill her brother, that was pure at wrong place at the wrong time, but she was warned so much of the risks of living in a car on the streets of AlbuquerqueI feel for and do sympathise with her and her mom, thats something no one should witness/go through.
I hope after she processes all of this maybe she get help and realizes she's gotta change how she's living life to avoid putting herself at high risk to be in another situation like that.
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Yet earlier today she was saying if she got donations before this happened it wouldn’t have happened but now she’s saying random gun violence is random and there’s nothing SHE could have done different to prevent this. Geez, this is exactly why I made the conscience decision to not donate. Tophia is still going to be Tophia sadly.
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The fact there was only 2 of them and now her baby brother is gone.. ooof this is hitting home for me so mf bad.😔
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This situation has been on my mind since I heard about it. Of course people are going to blame her, and that’s pretty disgusting. Every criticizing comment I’ve read has seemingly just been regurgitated from others. And the speculating is insane. She’s never been through something like this, so it’s not fair for anyone to just assume they know how she’ll handle it. Grief is different for everyone and she’s probably still in shock. After she processes this, Tophia may not be the same person we’ve grown used to. But I hope her healing puts her on a better path. I’m not going to bring up her past or this or that, it seems very petty compared to the traumatizing loss of her brother that she just witnessed. To me it just doesn’t feel right and enough people are doing it anyway.
Tophia, just take care of yourself and use the resources people are sending you. Get in touch with a social worker.
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She really needs to stay offline man smh
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help help? as if everyone wasn’t telling her to get off the streets. I’m trying so hard to give her grace but what did she want? someone on the internet to pay for them all to get an apartment? It’s horrible what happened but idk what she means. she constantly talks down to people with 9-5 jobs but wants them to support her? she said it herself after her mom passes she will be alone. I wish she would realize there is no one you can depend on in life but yourself and she’s always going to be playing these risky games if she’s relying on handouts. she needs to turn her life around
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she needs to get off the internet
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Does she not have her dad??
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I don't know if this is how she really feels this way or if she is just riding on people's comments and what they have said and ran with it?
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It’s not her fault:<
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It's ok Tophia, we will care for you especially in this time.
Omfg, she needs a therapist. People offered to help her get into a shelter, and she complained that they weren’t good enough. Nobody blamed her for anything, she’s just living with the guilt of her own actions and she’s passing it off to her audience..