I’m trying to give her grace but what did she truly expect from strangers, many of whom are barely making it ourselves?
First of all, I can’t begin to fathom the horror that Tophia experienced on 3/11. It made me sick to listen to her IG story and learn that her last mental image of Donald will be of his killer sitting on his deceased body and taking off with their car. The fact that Marie had to see her son that way—and that poor Jeep driver who was just minding his own business before being dragged into the whole thing. It’s fucking terrible and senseless and just so sad all the way around.
While dealing with the trauma of the crime itself, she’s also having to face the reality that she doesn’t know how to drive and will have to quickly learn, as the only person in her life who could provide transportation is gone. Donald was the only real income source this past year, he handled a lot of practical things for the family, and now she will have to step up and do for herself.
I never imagined in a million years that she would lose her brother at a young age and in such a sudden, violent way but like many viewers, I feared what would happen to Tophia if she were faced with being alone with no money and lacking fundamental life skills.
Not everyone who interacts with her content is a troll praying on her downfall. People gave her resources, warned her that that area of Albuquerque wasn’t a safe place to stay in a car, and tried to make her see the reality that some seriously BAD shit could happen.
I know she is speaking out of a place of anger and disbelief but short of providing incredibly cheap to free housing and full financial support for 3 adults —which is honestly a HUGE undertaking in this economy—I don’t think Tophia would have viewed any assistance her family received prior to this as true “help.”
People are willing to help now because of a tragedy but unfortunately, there is a time limit on the public’s kindness when it comes to death and grief, and by the time we reach summer, the internet will have moved on. My genuine hope is that Tophia will have the strength to move forward, effectively utilize any help she’s receiving, and make the best life possible for herself and Marie.
If I visit her page a year down the line and she is still in the same position, calling people broke and jealous, wishing terrible things on others, and placing blame for this incident on anyone but the shooter, I’m going to be majorly disappointed.
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people seem to be forgetting this, tophia is mentally deranged, those folk don't know reason and logic
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She ranted a little in one of her tiktok stories about her viewers not donating to her when she needed it most... Unfortunately, I don't think shes going to change. Shes stuck on that mindset like the world owes her money.
I want to know the real reason why she wont get a job
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Tophia doesn’t work because she’s doesn’t want to and she doesn’t want to for a variety of reasons.
1.) She has no role model of a healthy work history in her family. Donald Sr. didn’t get very far on a career path due to his mental health, Donald, Jr. job hopped from one low wage position to another, and Marie has such insufficient work history that she’s not even eligible for Social Security benefits.
2.) She’s shit on 9-5 jobs for so long that I think she would actually die before having to admit that she needs one. She equates having a job with being a failure as a content creator and she’ll never give up that dream of making it big.
3.) Her first and only job experience was negative so I’m sure she assumes they will all be the same.
4.) Fear of harassment from trolls if she works with the general public.
5.) Fear of her learning disability/obvious developmental delay making it hard for her to pick up quickly.
6.) Knowing she’s lived a sedentary lifestyle for years and will be dragging ass at a job that requires even the slightest physical activity. After all, this is the chick who said making spaghetti was too much work because stirring made her arm tired.
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You’re not wrong but once a lolcow u always will b a lolcow
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You expect way too much from a lowcow