Tophia blocked me
I commented on her latest post, simply stating that we, the viewers, are not financially responsible for her. I also shared that after my father passed away, despite the trauma I experienced, I had to return to work and i was in therapy to process it. That’s literally all I wrote and I felt there was no ill intent behind my comment. I wasn’t trying to make it about me, I was using my own real life experience as an example of how everyday people, regardless of their pain, still have responsibilities to fulfill.
I grew up in an impoverished neighborhood and, unfortunately, witnessed a lot of death at a young age, so I can deeply empathize with trauma, but as difficult as it is, trauma does not excuse someone from working or taking accountability for their own life.
Her followers crucified me for my comment, like we all have trauma in some form, that doesn’t mean we get to expect strangers on the internet to fund our lives indefinitely. I genuinely felt sympathy for her situation, no one deserves to witness what she did and I wouldn't wish that kind of pain on anyone. But what I can’t support is the way she has completely shifted the blame onto the internet, as if strangers online are responsible for the position she’s in. That couldn't be further from the truth.
At the end of the day, we’re talking about 30 yr old woman. What happened to Donald was tragic and beyond her control, but every other aspect of her life is a direct result of her own choices. It’s soooo frustrating to see her deflect responsibility rather than take steps to change her situation. I almost made the mistake of donating, but thankfully, I didn’t. It’s not about lacking compassion, it’s about recognizing when someone is refusing to help themselves while expecting others to do it for them.
She’s a lost cause.
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lol geez, she’s insufferable.. A job board would’ve done her way more good than the endless begging.
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LMAOOO
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You’re so funny for that 💀
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You gotta beat her to it and block her first like me 🤓
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Some of the ppl in her comments are definitely overdoing it. You can’t say a single thing without someone having a problem. Just watch though, soon enough that comment section will go back to how it was. The more videos tophia comes out with basically sounding ungrateful the more ppl will start to not wanna support her anymore.
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I give it a week for the amnesty period to be over, two weeks for people to stop the petty train, and by the end of the month she will be back where she was off.
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I'm going to assume all of them probably still watch Spongebob as well...
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You shouldn't have been directly interacting with her in the first place. We need to give her the same treatment as Onision.
Don't interact
Don't watch her videos directly
Don't send her money
Don't antagonize her
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Don't touch the poop. That's the reddit way.
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her shooters on TikTok: “how do i make this about me ahh comment”
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She wants to be treated as if she’s 10.
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If those supporters wanna continue babying a 30+ year old woman with no job, proper education, work/life skills, let them. Tophia will use them until they've served their purpose(stop giving her money or question her) and then block them. She ain't loyal to them. Dunno why they would be loyal to her.
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What were people saying in response? I have no idea how people can excuse her behavior
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Some comments said there are levels to trauma, that she comes from instability so I should have sympathy for her situation, that I’m jealous because people want to help her, that I’m going to hell for commenting while she’s grieving, and that nobody cares about my situation and I need to stop making it about myself. There were like 50 comments and most were defending her
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I have no idea how these creatures function.
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they don't
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I wonder if those same people will financially support her once this money runs out too. They can coddle her! They can use their money on her.
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Yep, they should let her crash with them.
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I don't want to defend her but just because you've experienced trauma, similar or otherwise doesn't mean you have the right to tell her how she should deal with hers; everyone processes trauma differently. People can experience the same type of trauma and come out on opposite sides of spectrum. There is no one side fits all when it comes to such experiences. Though, yes, you or anybody else is not to be held liable for Tophias financial insecurity, she is very entitled and selfish. I don't know how people defend her on that part.
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Those same ppl that defend her have probably never donated a dime to her and they’ll forget about her in a month.
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She blocked me cause I asked this guy to do an impression of her. It’s not that deep. You didn’t do anything wrong. She doesn’t want to hear the truth, right now she’s in delusion to protect herself from trauma though I can argue she’s been like this for a long time. Her whole life is traumatic but instead of getting help she just plays victim.
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Living in delusion is her *default* state.
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Absolutely agree. I’m just tired lol trying to be easy on her without being too easy. The way she now keeps saying the word trauma to garner sympathy is wild, even though that doesn’t negate what she is going through. I just don’t know how I feel and I can’t stand 10 toes down on anything right now. I still dislike her strongly.
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I wish her followers would @ me. I aint no kid. I got plane money
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Her followers might as well let her stay at their place tbh😭🙏. I’m also sorry for your loss. Tophia needs to realize that we have our own stuff going on too and can’t expect to spend paycheck to paycheck on her. Eventually that money is going to be gone and shes gonna have to find another way to make money. (A job)
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That money is already trash spending
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let them fools support her if they want lmao. theyll fafo.
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Being blocked by her is a badge of honor.
Don’t trip over getting blocked by her, she blocked me earlier this year despite me never following her cause her vids would pop up on my fyp and I’d always tag LinkedIn, Indeed, and Zillow in the comments.