how tophia and the people who are defending her keep using her trauma as a shield for her being a shitty person.. someone told me that we shouldn’t judge her and that we don’t understand what she’s going through and deserves some grace. after her family member died and having to see them. the not understanding part pissed me off because my 15 year old sister and my junkie mother died 5 days apart and i found my moms dead body. plenty of us have been through what tophia went through and worse. it’s no one else’s job to feel bad for you and send you money and let you play the victim for the rest of your life. i’ve learned that being a victim gets you NOWHERE and no one actually gives a a shit about your trauma. we’re all responsible for ourselves. sorry if this is harsh but the “at least my mother is alive” comments very much made me lose most if not all empathy. tophia take this and make your life better. no one is going to coddle you. this is the real world awful things happen but we have to keep moving. the world doesn’t owe any of us anything.