i genuinely believe tophia’s a narcissist
i’ve noticed that tophia only talks about brotherchu when she’s able to use it as an excuse to victimize herself. anytime she talks about him or marie, the words “i” and “me” are ALWAYS involved.
also, something disturbing i stumbled upon while listening to her stories (i don’t remember if it was on tiktok or instagram) was her starting to cry while talking about brotherchu, but she immediately stopped because she got distracted and started talking about something else. like i feel like this is literally just textbook narcissism.
i am solely convinced that she only really cares about herself.
i don’t feel an ounce of sympathy for tophia, i never have, but i really do feel for marie. watching your son die & getting brutally injured just to have your daughter talk for hours about a whole lot of nothing in your hospital room sounds like literal hell.
finally, her using the funeral funds on FOOD is wild. her gluttony and greed is truly sickening.
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Talking about it was “about time for some ribs” while her mom is in a hospital bed with a broken jaw and her brother hasn’t been laid to rest like WHAT
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So evil and so pathetically stupid.
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Laughing and giggling, well stuffing her face, thinking of what next to order and what she will do with the money. All well, her brother is where? And Marie can't eat. And claiming PTSD undiagnosed, nope 🙅♀️ I do believe today is my last day listening to any of her rants at all. I'll just convert my thoughts with you guys. That's it!
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the undiagnosed PTSD thing really gets to me too. it’s such a complex mental illness that she’s diagnosing herself with. like it’s 100% possible she could have it, but marie is more likely to have it than her.
her saying “i don’t need a diagnoses, i definitely have it” (or something along those lines) is so sickening. if she was so traumatized to the point where she has PTSD, i feel like food wouldn’t be a top priority for her rn. 😐
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Yup and as someone who has been diagnosed with PTSD she pisses me off so bad bro. Like that’s not excuse to not find work and be a lazy ogre.
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Why do people get diagnoses? In order to seek treatment and symptom relief generally. Her self diagnosis is so emblematic of her bevahior generally. She’s smarter than everyone. She doesn’t need medical intervention. And she’s going to be using her self dx as an excuse to not do anything ever. And if you care ask her to do anything you’re like victimizing the ptsd community writ large! Just like the most problematic thinking every step of the way with tophiachu
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TY! 🙌 Marie definitely has it. She's got to, and your Dr. Has to follow the DSM5. Her saying she has it does not qualify, and she only says it to get sympathy. You don't get sympathy for having it, and I don't wish it on my enemies
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Tophia very definitely has PTSD, just not the way she thinks.
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She’s a 100% a narcissist, she always makes any situation about her or tries to make herself also a victim. She made 9/11 about her 😭, she always talks about Bernadette like it affects her deeply(that’s Marie’s pain not hers, tophia wasn’t even a thought at the time), when someone passes she makes it about her, she makes Palestine situation about her too, anything and everything has to do with tophia 🙄. If there’s a tornado, tophia will find a way to make it about her and how “deeply affected” she is about it.
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I'm honestly surprised no one's mentioned Oppositional Defiance Disorder - or ODD, ironically enough.
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Yes very true. That’s another way of viewing her behavior patterns.
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If she doesn't give Donald the proper burial, his friends are gonna go after her. At least I hope they do. At this point it's like they're the only ones that gave a fuck about him.
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All she does is eat lol literally 99% of her money is spent on stuffing her face....
Meanwhile she could eat 20x less and probably still be over daily caloric intake recommendations
Tofupa fat fuck
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she’s the embodiment of gluttony
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I’m surprised she actually has the mental capacity to be a narcissist or even know what it is
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I feel bad for marie bc the wrong child was taken
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Please read the pinned Mod post regarding content that is allowed surrounding the shooting incident on 3/11/25.
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duh
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Definitely all she does is copy others. Not a single original thought is hers. But I’m not here to diagnose anyone but if I had those powers I would say bipolar narcissist. The way she treats her brothers passing is atrocious. My poor mom was a wreck when her brother passed and she ended up with a seizure disorder from the trauma. She supported for years until one day they stopped but working was her therapy. She still speaks of both her brothers passing almost everyday. No GFM to rely on.
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Yep, she definitely fits one or more Cluster B disorders
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Narcissist and she’s a selfish entitled 30 year old child. Her brother just died and already she’s blowing all the money on herself and using her brothers death to gain sympathy. But honestly if you know the tophia playbook by now you know this was completely predictable. Which is why i didn’t understand why everyone has been so incredibly defensive of her. I mean i understand having sympathy for her hell i did but these people have been defending her tooth and nail. All of us who have been watching this train wreck in real time knew exactly what time it was.
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Wait..he died?! wtf did I miss?!
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Where have you been for the past two weeks? Scroll down far enough and the story will be here.
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not surprised tbh. she doesn't care bout her mom at all or rlly any family members she treated em so badly she only needs em if she needs something from em. her mom would be dying in the back of her lives and the way she would get pissed off by that is sick. anytime her family talks in the background of her lives she gets so irritated. she spends all her money and never helps her family so i agree.
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As somebody who meets nearly the entire goddamn criteria for NPD due to my behavior disorder that’s progressing into ASPD - she’s 100% a fucking narcissistic cunt. I don’t care how mean that sounds. No normal person spends a GFM for funeral costs on fast food and tells people they’re weird for worrying about it and making the entire situation about themselves and THEIR feelings only.
The ending of that is worded weirdly but it’s mainly just me pissed off about how she has made everything about her in short, as always.
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I hope she ends up on the streets alone. Daniel Larson style!
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I don’t think she’s a narcissist. Narcissists care about how they appear others. Tophia is just selfish and dumb.
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she 100% does care how she appears to others or she wouldn’t go out of her way to constantly defend herself, deflect, and try to blame other people for her actions.
for example, she doesn’t want people to view her as lazy for being homeless due to her not working, so she blames the trolls for her getting kicked out of places instead of acknowledging that her own choices led to her current financial situation.
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I dont think she does. She openly admits to having hygiene issues, and has no problem filming in a disgusting environment with crosses all over it due to papachu’s schizophrenic delusions. There was also roaches on the wall or whatever.
She tries to cover up living in a car with a green screen, sure but I believe that’s against tos for TikTok.
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she openly admitted to having hygiene issues once and then backtracked & said she didn’t have hygiene issues (specifically talking abt when she got fired from dunkin).
as for the disgusting environment, it’s important to remember that she’s an idiot and probs didn’t see an issue with it. she did recently get called out for leaving her motel room a mess & she tries to lie and deflect on that.
i do see ur point & u are entitled to ur own opinion tho 💁♀️
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Yes, she lacks self awareness. I grew up with narcissists for parents, unfortunately.
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No. She admitted that hygiene issues got her fired from her job on YouTube, then backtracked on it by saying that her co-worker made up a “lie” about her hygiene to get her fired.
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Yes, I’m aware. I personally don’t think she’s narcissistic, I grew up with narcissist parents. But that’s my opinion. If others think she is, that’s fine.
But to be exact, these are the traits of NPD:
The evaluations and varies amongst each case of NPD. Still, the following areas should be carefully considered in the psychiatric evaluation of NPD.[32]
Appearance: The clinician should note the patient’s general grooming and fashion choices. Clothing, accessories, hairstyles, or tattoos that are provoking may suggest NPD, as there is a sense of grandiosity and attention-seeking behavior characteristic of the disorder.
Behavior: The clinician should monitor for disinhibited behaviors, grandiose postures, smirking, and scoffing. The context of the patient’s cooperation should be paid particular attention to, as it may vary greatly depending on who the individual interacts with (depending on their perceived status).
Speech: NPD may present with an increased amount of speech due to feelings of needing to prove oneself or brag about achievements and friendships, but there are no expected concerns with speech initiation, volume, or vocabulary.
Affect: Affect is highly variable but may fluctuate greatly depending on the conversation topic, particularly if the patient with NPD feels challenged or threatened by the interviewer. More lability is expected than usual, with more frequent irritability.
Thought content: It is essential to assess for delusions in patients with NPD. The level of grandiose thought may border between nondelusional grandiose thoughts and delusional (psychotic) grandiose thoughts. Although this distinction does not impact the treatment plan, it does help the clinician assess the severity of NPD.
Thought process: The thought process in NPD is generally concrete, with grandiosity being unchallengeable. Still, individuals with NPD have the capability for linear and logical thought, often used to achieve their initial accomplishments (higher education, careers, relationships of status).The mental status examination is completed in psychiatric evaluations and varies amongst each case of NPD. Still, the following areas should be carefully considered in the psychiatric evaluation of NPD.[32]
Appearance: The clinician should note the patient’s general grooming and fashion choices. Clothing, accessories, hairstyles, or tattoos that are provoking may suggest NPD, as there is a sense of grandiosity and attention-seeking behavior characteristic of the disorder.
Behavior: The clinician should monitor for disinhibited behaviors, grandiose postures, smirking, and scoffing. The context of the patient’s cooperation should be paid particular attention to, as it may vary greatly depending on who the individual interacts with (depending on their perceived status).Speech: NPD may present with an increased amount of speech due to feelings of needing to prove oneself or brag about achievements and friendships, but there are no expected concerns with speech initiation, volume, or vocabulary.
Affect: Affect is highly variable but may fluctuate greatly depending on the conversation topic, particularly if the patient with NPD feels challenged or threatened by the interviewer. More lability is expected than usual, with more frequent irritability.Thought content: It is essential to assess for delusions in patients with NPD. The level of grandiose thought may border between nondelusional grandiose thoughts and delusional (psychotic) grandiose thoughts. Although this distinction does not impact the treatment plan, it does help the clinician assess the severity of NPD.
Thought process: The thought process in NPD is generally concrete, with grandiosity being unchallengeable. Still, individuals with NPD have the capability for linear and logical thought, often used to achieve their initial accomplishments (higher education, careers, relationships of status).Cognition: General cognition and orientation are not expected to be impaired in NPD but should be evaluated to rule out other psychiatric conditions.
Insight: NPD is an egosyntonic disorder; therefore, a patient’s understanding of their NPD is generally poor. Accepting self-deficit is usually not congruent with NPD.(Tophia does not do well cognitively)
Judgment: The severity of NPD will impact a patient’s judgment. This can often be assessed by inquiring of the patient’s legal and relationship histories.
Impulse control: The underlying temperament of NPD is classic for high reward dependence and low harm avoidance behaviors, which generally results in poor impulse control. This can also be assessed by inquiring about past legal and relationship historyCognition: General cognition and orientation are not expected to be impaired in NPD but should be evaluated to rule out other psychiatric conditions.
Insight: NPD is an egosyntonic disorder; therefore, a patient’s understanding of their NPD is generally poor. Accepting self-deficit is usually not congruent with NPD.
Judgment: The severity of NPD will impact a patient’s judgment. This can often be assessed by inquiring of the patient’s legal and relationship histories.
Impulse control: The underlying temperament of NPD is classic for high reward dependence and low harm avoidance behaviors, which generally results in poor impulse control. This can also be assessed by inquiring about past legal and relationship history
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She would pass a cognitive functions test though esp one through the courts to assess competence and other issues
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When I say cognitive, I mean intellectually. I think she is learning disabled/low iq.
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Tbh, she holds herself as a high achiever and will flaunt the most stupidest shit to seem above anyone and seem like an amazing person who doesn’t need to work. She genuinely doesn’t see anything wrong with her actions, and defends herself greatly even though the shit she’s been caught doing is disgraceful. I still live with my mother who has NPD - she and Tophia share behaviors unfortunately
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That’s all she cares about but copies others behaviors because she doesn’t know who she is. She doesn’t really know her father. She was raised without much direction. She could have developed ODD along the way esp with the way she viewed her Dad in the legal system like it was so unjust arresting him.
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The way she named off like ten restaurants. I knew her big ass was just eating tons of food spending lots of money.