After nearly two weeks of watching how she's handling this situation, I officially believe Tophia is thankful this happened
I think Tophia was in shock and sad the first day or so after her brother's death but seeing how she's been talking about the incident ever since then, I cannot help but get a really gross feeling that she's lowkey thankful this happened.
It hasn't even been two weeks and she already acts so detached from the whole thing. She's using terms like "my dead brother" which just seems so callous to me. When she talks about what she saw that night and says stuff about how his eye was popping out or whatever, she doesn't sound sad or traumatized by it. It sounds like she's talking about someone she didn't even know. She was talking today about how great she's been sleeping. She doesn't seem to be taking any actual steps to lay him to rest and I think she's just counting on his friends to handle all that.
It seems like all she does is sit in that hotel room ordering food constantly and gossipping about celebrity drama. Between getting a hotel room all to herself, all the money she's received in "donations", and all the sympathy she's receiving, I think Tophia is actually very satisfied with how things are right now. She definitely sounds like she is. The only time she ever sounds sad about this is when people are calling her out for her shitty behavior lately and she turns on the waterworks to deflect and garner more sympathy. Besides that, she seems perfectly happy and even thankful that she's benefiting from all this which is why I think she's kind of thankful it happened. This is the most financially free she's ever been. I mean we all know it won't last and she'll be back to begging in a little bit but Tophia thinks she's living high off the hog right now. The hog other people bought. She seems... excited?
Comments she's made about the money and sympathy she's received sound braggy instead of grateful. "You guys are just mad people feel sorry for me" "You guys are just mad I'm getting support". Right after bitching about trolls she goes on to say "I'm gonna go relax and order some ribs" and smacks her lips in a taunting way.
It's just very weird vibes from her right now and I can't imagine acting this way after 1 of only 2 people I had in my life died, especially in such a violent way.
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It's really insane how she gets mad about people calling him "brotherchu" now and says "His name was Donald!" but she literally never calls him by his name and instead just refers to him as "my dead brother".
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She’s acting like this is a telenovela and not a tragedy
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My dad's been gone 15 years, and the way I speak about him, people think he's still here. Tophia is out making sure we know he's Dead!
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Same! I talk about my grandpa and grandma as if they’re still alive. They’re my favorite people and I miss them so much, it’s hard to talk about them in past tense. I don’t know how tophia does it, there’s something SERIOUSLY wrong with her.
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My son was murdered in Maryland in 2015 I never say my dead son or anything so disrespectful
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I am so sorry. No parent should bury their baby, and I completely understand. I don't know why Tophia has to make it obvious
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I miss him everyday some days are good some aren’t good but I go on
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Personally, I would never go on the internet and constantly refer to my family member as “my dead _” .. I never understood doing that. My aunt passed about 13 years ago, I still refer to her as if she was alive. I don’t go scream “MY DEAD AUNT” but idk 😭
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Just a little while before it happened she was saying that she would never mourn her family when they died. Hell, just a few weeks before her brother was killed, she was bitching and moaning about him and saying that he doesn't do shit, he wastes his money on cars, etc. She was also upset that he was always telling her to get off TikTok and stop sharing all their business.
Imo she's *ecstatic* that he died. She gets to binge on fast food and smirk about it, and he can't tell her that what she's doing is putting them all in danger.
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She keeps saying *"my dead brother"* bc she's farming for sympathy. She has to keep reminding everyone that DJ suffered a fatal tragedy, & her mom was gravely injured, but she's the real victim here. Tophia is the one with the dead brother & she'll keep reminding us of that fact.
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Honestly she better be grateful this was a very cut and dry case of what happened to him, if there were any suspicious circumstances she would for sure be looked at as a suspect
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That’s like the “big BLACCCKKK dog “ that attacked Hershey. With the pronouncing black emphasis on the K.
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Remember, when this sympathy wears off, she doesn’t even have a car to go home to. she will be very homeless on the streets.
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I can’t wait for this to happen
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Happy cake day!!
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I’m sure they’ll give her resources but she’s on her own to seek them out
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Yes and will she take the resources she seems “too good” for them, which is confusing in its self. Also some places require you to have income or do things to stay there, she isn’t willing to put the effort in.
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I truly wonder if she thinks about that. This time she won’t have her brother to rely on, and she’s so against shelters…Being homeless is dangerous but as a woman the risks of a potential assaut are so high. I’m truly concerned for Marie, Tophia can’t give her the care that she needs…
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Marie and Tophia need to get out of Marie's way so that the hospital can arrange an appropriate placement post-discharge. Her mother is elderly and very ill with no home to go to. I can't believe they'd discharge her directly to a homeless shelter. They need to scream "unsafe discharge" to the high heavens if the hospital tries to send her to a shelter, and stick to it until she facilitate an appropriate long-term placement for her.
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Homeless, once again vulnerable to random acts of violence... I recall that she used money from TikTok to buy a wireless charger. I wonder how well that works but eventually it's going to be harder and harder for her to maintain an online presence. What if her phone gets robbed or it breaks?
She's walking slowly into hell. She'll be one of those people in the peripherals of Albuquerque, pushing carts, sleeping in a tent.
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I don’t think she’ll end up sleeping in a tent. She doesn’t have the foresight to buy one and she’s far too lazy to put one up. She might drape a dirty sheet over a tree limb.
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Right and her stay at a hotel is not long term.It’s not going to be funded forever.So what money she has now….Better hold on to it.But We all know it’s not realistic
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I am excited for that, provided Marie is not with her
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I really hope Marie goes into proper care. Tophia didn’t care for her mom In the first place, God knows she won’t know how to constantly care for a gunshot wound.
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I actually think all of these resources she keeps talking about are for Marie and she’s actually on her own because she’s you know a 31 year old able bodied woman
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eh just because marie is old doesnt mean she deserves sympathy. youve heard not only all the racist shit shes said, but just raising tophia to be the way she is.... something is wrong there too.
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Oh I only said that because I want Tophia completely alone and unable to use her mom as sympathy
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Exactly. She's 64 years old. That's obviously getting up there in years, but people talk about her like she is 80 or 90. She isn't even old enough to collect full social security retirement. She could be working as well
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I say this all the time! Like Marie’s an able body! Yet she sits around and does NOTHING! Not to mention her WHOLE life is nothing but homeless shelter to homeless shelter or motel rooms an a bunch of other bullshit non stable living situations. Tophia wrote for a Mother’s Day post “I’m proud of you mom, for getting us out of the homeless shelter” a said it was when she was young. So Marie’s been an unemployed, degenerate to society her whole life too it sounds like smfh.
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Exactly! She might very well be permanently disabled now (or even some time before violent incident), but that doesn't change the fact that she spent more years than Tophia being lazy and unemployed
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I hope so.
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I truly wonder if she thinks about that. This time she won’t have her brother to rely on, and she’s so against shelters…Being homeless is dangerous but as a woman the risks of a potential assaut are so high. I’m truly concerned for Marie, Tophia can’t give her the care that she needs…
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This is so odd for people to talk about a mentally disabled woman like this lol is this the new the view for housewives?
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*bites rib* “you guys really should’ve donated sooner yknow?”
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The way you can hear her eating and it's a black screen, like swallow the food and quit talking with your mouth full 🤮
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Where did you see this?
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Literally wanted to throw my phone just imagining her doing and saying that. AGHHHHHHHHH FUCK I HATE HER VOICE
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Her telling us about the food she ordered and that shes been sleeping good just shows what type of person she is. The day after he died, she went straight to talking about GFMs and money. She never mentioned any memories she has of her brother or how much she misses him. She only ever thinks of herself and her gluttony.
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She was laughing and having a good time yesterday, and then today, she tried saying people were stalking her. That's how they know about the food. BSFFR, you were laughing it up and having a good time yesterday 🤦♀️
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Genuinely how mentally insane do u have to be to immediately start talking about money and how good you’ve been sleeping. I hate that bitch
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It’s crazy to me she’s never even posted pics of him but yet the week leading up to his death she was posting a random celebrities death to her ig story daily. She does not care
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I believe it. This is the first time she had been able to sleep flat in a bed for consecutive nights in months. An actual pillow, bedding, sheets. A shower whenever she wants at the hotel (even if she’s not big on bathing). Access to hundreds of dollars for delivery (she loves hot meals, like she loves to call sandwiches not a meal bc it’s not a hot meal). All the fast food she’s been fantasizing about. A toilet when she needs it. Steady internet access. No Marie cough in the background, she’s the hospital’s charge now.
This is like the Four Seasons for her. Because the material conditions are comparatively so good to her months in the car, I think despite her brothers death, her current surroundings are so good she’s like a pig in shit. Hence all the gooning to crazy shih on main. She’s comfortaaaaable. Smiling, finger lickin and everything. She thinks this is her come-up
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Days before the incident she was still in the parking lot watching people walk out of McDonald's and talking about their food. 👀🧌
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# this
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This is so damn accurate it’s scary.
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I have a background in psychology. I actually went to school for it and am continuing my degree. She is absolutely devoid of human empathy. She exhibits a lot of narcissistic sociopathic behaviour. She has already said if her mom died she wouldn't mourn her, so I don't know why anyone expected anything better from her when her brother died.
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Yeah she basically said she’d just move on because that’s life. People mean nothing to her
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She is a bleak hole of take, take, take
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i clocked her farming mamachu's passing for as many sympathy points as possible a few weeks before the incident. wrong person, but the outcome is exactly what most people expected. she's insane.
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She really just doesn’t care and it’s gross, it’s obvious her mom loves her (sacrificing comfort just to be with her daughter) but tophia, instead of staying by her moms side and making sure she’s okay after getting shot in the face, is inhaling fast food and arguing with trolls online…
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Let alone in the same damn hospital room as Marie. Tophia is truly a fucking weirdo
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her smacking her lips and singing "finger lickin'" yesterday really just confirmed it for me that she's glad this happened. she'll be able to live lavishly living by herself like she always wanted to and ordering whatever she's craving. i'm patiently waiting for all that money to disappear (which lets be fr, it wont take long) and for her to go back to dry begging and using the death of her brother for people to feel bad enough into sending her money and food.
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I do think she’s very happy about the situation she’s in even thought it sounds sick to say, she’s always wanted to be in a situation like this. She always tried to make herself a victim in other situations and now she is actually a victim. She has always wanted people to feel bad for and to send her money. She has always only cared about getting money or some type of gift she has never cared about anything else.
She may have felt bad the first day but then she saw the next day how she was getting money, how people were feeling bad for her, how in a way people were on her side, and how she can utilize them for her own greed. She’s also prolly happy Marie’s in the condition she is in because she thinks she’s gonna get disability & more money for her to snatch. In Marie’s case I hope she’s put into some type of home or care away from tophia because tophia could care less about her and more about her cashapp getting filled like her stomach.
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shes a professional victim and got handed one of the worst possible news.
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I didn't know she got herself a hotel room. Wow. Well, the money won't last forever.
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You managed to actually write out what I was thinking lol, I feel so dumb for thinking she’d actually see this as a horrible situation and not something to gain sympathy from
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If it was my brother I'd be rocking back and forth still heartbroken.
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I could not agree MORE with this!!!! There is only one thing I think she WOULD have changed though, and that being, for Maire to have been killed that morning as well. That way it would've been DOUBLE the profit & sympathy attention. Tophia has seen what sympathy gets her, and how she can use it to her advantage. THAT IS NOT GOOD! Then I think, actually, Tophia will need to use her mom's death later on to gain more money, once she's blown through all the donations she's been getting. She will try to cash in all over again off her mother's demise as her next financial opportunity.
Her live today was nothing short of braggadocious. Same theme with a lot of the other ones as well. She sat there going through ALL the food she has been ordering in. How "she deserves some finger lickin' good ribs right now" an how she's laid in bed all day watching movies. It's like she's throwing it in peoples face like "LOOK WHERE IM AT NOW HAHA" type thing. She keeps saying "It's funny, it took my brother dying for you guys to help" and "Now we're getting everything cuz my brothers dead"
I don't think I have heard her call her brother by his name once since he's died. It's always "my dead brother" this and my "dead brother" that. Like Jesus Christ, HE HAD A NAME! but she's worried about us calling him brothechu?
Lastly, I am totally for helping people. Especially if someone's loved one passes away, and they need financial help funding a funeral. I get that 1000% even tho Tophias EXACT words one day on a live were "I hope ur parents don't have life insurance for u!! I hope your parents have to make a gofundme saying HELP US!!, help us raise money to bury our loved one cuz we can afford it!!" Even after that! I still would've understood people helpin Tophia out, by makin a gofundme, so Donald could have a proper burial. MY PROBLEM IS, when people are getting mad at people for not wanting or believing they should be taking care of a FUCKING GROWN ASS WOMAN who REFUSES to get a god damn job! That they should be funding her lifestyle, of lounging about all dam day (in a motel room she didn't pay for) ordering out for every meal, while watching movies and aimlessly scrolling through/ making TikTok brain rot! She is PATHETIC and we will hear about her "dead brother" being dead, as long as it makes her a dollar. She will ride this wave for as long as possible! pocketing every single penny she possibly can! An right as she feels it start to dry up, she will bust out the fake, on que tears, to garnish some more pesos. AND WHEN THAT FINALLY STOPS WORKING it will be ALL "the internet's fault" again somehow.
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It’s always blown my mind how she really thinks that random people on the internet are responsible for supporting her lazy life.
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As I will keep screaming to the mountains. She doesn’t care about the situation. She only cares about being an internet star.
If you kept up with her you’ll notice (to my knowledge) that she only made ONE post about her brother and that was on Instagram about how it was their last family outing. She really hasn’t spoked about him outside of that. Like your brother just died girl. Most people would be sitting here reposting pictures and telling stories and here tophia is talking about other people/drama and ordering food like her only provider didn’t just die. And she never bluntly spoke on her mother’s condition either but I bet she’s buy all that food for herself while her mother is eating that hospital food. That’s if she’s eating.
Tophia is 31 and will never change. Stop donating money, stop feeling bad for her she is taking everyone’s kindness for granted and once again using everyone who has ever donated to her. I pray that she doesn’t get ahold any of that money that her brothers friends are gathering. Or at least they can manage it for her because if she gets some of that money tophia will be sitting here bragging about all her make up kits and temu junk that she splurged on. Hopefully they find out who tophia really is before even making further plans with her.
She’s going to be milking her brothers death for the longest time and genuinely it’s starting to PMO. At first this was all fun and games but tophia isn’t seeing the severity of her situation and I don’t care for any of her family members but her mother in the state she is in now, doesn’t deserve to be stuck with tophia.
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She can milk this all she wants, she’s never going to see the same level of sympathy and donations again. People definitely felt bad at first but the donations and well wishes fell off quickly because she showed exactly who she is. Most people who watched her hoped this would be a wake up call. Now that’s it’s clear it’s not, she’s really on her own and she has no idea because she’s far more concerned with getting ribs and whatever other trinkets she can buy.
It would be in Marie’s best interest to go to a long term health care facility, but I’ve a feeling she won’t because she won’t want to leave Tophia all alone. The next few months will be interesting.
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The next few months will be interesting. I can’t wait for her defenders to go back into hiding. They came out at the worst possible time. Tophia deserves to see the truth of her situation- she doesn’t need to be cuddled like she has been these past couple of weeks. And to see everyone switch up on her was something she didn’t need and a little hypocritical IMO.
Call me a cold-hearted Bitch, but I can understand having sympathetic feelings for her and the situation- cause honestly we can’t feel those feelings she had when she went through the situation but Tophia is someone if shown an ounce of compassion she’ll abuse it. Everyone should have tastefully kept telling her to stop being a dingleberry and fix her situation. There’s no reason for a person like her- and her mother in that condition to be on the streets in the worst part of town. She’s LUCKY her mother made it out alive in that situation and if that was me I’d count my blessings and start fixing the situation at the root of the problem.
But for some reason, tophia can’t see that she IS the root of their problems. I heard things about her having a disability but having a disability doesn’t 100% stop you from getting a job and being responsible. And I’m not sure if she even graduated middle school because I remember her going on rants about how if she worked 2 full jobs she would only bring home 600 bucks a week because I guess 2 full-time jobs equals 30 hours a week. Have no clue where she is getting this math.
All this hate and stuff could have been avoided if she had just gotten a job and been more hygienic. She’s so blinded by the hypotheticals of having a job and having her trolls call it up to get her fired to see that if she did get a job people would leave her tf alone. I mean she would still have some haters but I feel like for the most part if she tried people would leave her all.
But all this boils down to Her mother and Father. I feel like they have a major roll in this. They have failed at parenting big time. They have enabled and molded tophia into the person she is today. Her dad is mentally checked out there was probably no relying on him ever but her mother could have done better. I’m pretty sure she’s been attached to tophias’ hip her entire life. And her mother would rather be on the sinking ship than just tell her daughter the truth. Seems like her brother was doing ok- despite his alleged (says alleged because I don’t know the full story between him and Angie except for the threats) violent behavior, and the underaged situation (I do not condone PDF’s but I won’t speak on something I don’t know about). But it seems like Donald was working hard and honestly he may have had a better chance out of their situation if Tophia didn’t drag him down with her.
In all, it is pretty pathetic on tophia part that DJ’s friends are doing more for him than Tophia was ever going to do. If she had 100% control of that money she would have done the cheapest funeral or cremation and then pocked the rest. Her mother is going to be way too traumatized to do anything about Tophia Mismanaging the money. And she’s just going to further enable her because now Tophia is her last living child.
Just whew. As I said before my rant. I can’t wait to see how all this unravels.
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If Marie needs physical therapy then she may have no choice but to go to a nursing home after being discharged.
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And I can bet you, that Tophia won’t be visiting her mother in that situation. She’s going to get online and state that it’s our fault that her mother had to a home and how it’s our fault she can’t see her. She’ll cry some fake tears about how she’s alone And she’s start milking that situation.
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Ive lost all sympathy for this woman 😭
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I agree. I think she was only in a little more actual shock because she assumed it would be her mom to go first and they would still have a car. I think she thought it would be her brother caring for her until she (Tophia) died. She’s thankful she has a reason to beg for money and “call out” people that are trying to hold her accountable. She wanted a valid reason in her mind to be helpless and demand funds
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She’s gonna crash so hard when the support trickles out.
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i just wanna know what she's gunna do when the sympathy wears off and pple will stop paying attention to her.
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She's gonna be thankful when the GFM $ dries up and the authorities stop giving her free motel rooms with her not having Donald to keep her up. It's gonna be glorious to see how she handles that reality.
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This is why I can’t find a bone in my body to feel bad. Just waiting for those pity donations to run out. OH, but we’re getting her and Marie a house so don’t worry guyz! 🤪🤪😋
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I’m going to give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she is very heartbroken about losing her brother, but all the money she’s spending stuffing her gut (as she says) is most likely more important than dealing with her brothers loss, or her still very injured mother
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I believe when she broke the news on TikTok that he died, I believe those were real tears.
HOWEVER. I think it dawned on her really fast “hey I can use this for money, they’ll send plenty of donations”
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Where does she talk about his eye popping out
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it was on her insta story yesterday
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So it’s not offensive when she says her “dead brother” but when I say “he had a scheduled meeting with Jesus” it’s offensive … go off queen
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Is she going live lately? If so on where because I can’t find anything. Or is this on her insta?
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This post needs unlimited upvotes and to be pinned to the top of the sub.
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I agree she gets to chill in a hotel room. Stuff her face with whatever food her fupa desires and she doesn’t have to share it. She goes and sits with her Mom she claims. She “takes care of her” but she definitely doesn’t the Nurses and Doctors do. She stuffs her whale like body in a chair and just sits there.
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It just feeds her victim complex even more. My first thought after the shooting was that she has another reason not to work now 🤷🏻♀️
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I know what I say is gonna sound evil and cold but I believe tophia has been wanting to be on her own for some time and I know what happened to brotherchu was tragic I believe if mamachu is forced into rehab/nursing home tophia will act like she doesn't want it but deep down she will let her go then she will have what she always wanted to be independent get that one bedroom apartment and do her tiktoks happily ever after
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ANY situation that she can turn around and victimize herself for over and over is a good one.
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Her brother's death is the best thing that's ever happened to her
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Please read the pinned Mod post regarding content that is allowed surrounding the shooting incident on 3/11/25. Repeat offenders will be banned.
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This!! Like it wasn’t even a week and I think someone posted an image of something she said in a Youtubers comment section, basically saying how her brother “passed” and that Donald loved the youtuber, etc. She talks as if Donalds death was years ago, it honestly doesnt sound like coping or grieving at all
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omg wtf when did she talk about his seeing his eye popping out and all that?? has it been posted on here yet cuz i can't find anything
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her insta story yesterday
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I agree
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I already didn’t like her, but I’m absolutely disgusted now..If seeing her brother die in front of her and seeing her mom injured didn’t give her any motivation to turn her life around.. NOTHING will. She’s truly a lost cause and a waste of a life.
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Idk if anyone ever noticed this cuz I did. Whenever she cried about him, she would cry and then she would suddenly stop? And act normal or be snappy/angry. Then kinda push herself to cry again? Am I off my rocker or is that some sort of disassociating or part of the grieving process?
When my first pet passed away, I just couldn't stop crying. I couldn't snap back to normal, everything around me made me cry and it would made me spiral.
Idk if it's the same for a loved one when they pass but grieving is still grieving, right?
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She should be off social media and taking care of her brother’s funeral stuff and mourning. her being on social media being as active as if nothing even happened - is super odd. idc what anyone says about “pEoPlE gRiEvE dIfFeREnTlY” or “ shes on here because were all she has”. no she doesnt. she obviously has close people. Shes milking TF out of this situation. Hope she enjoys the money while it lasts because itll never come again and shell have to figure it out after that because no one is going to keep funding her lifestyle.
I agree. She really emphasizes the “DEAD” in “My Dead Brother.”
He’s still your brother tophia, dead or alive. “My Brother” should still be the proper wording.