Does Tophia have depression as she claims?

i think tophia is a textbook narcissist who will weagponize anything including depression to gain sympathy from others and i genuinely have stopped buying it.

I used to feel pity for her but now it's like depression or no depression none of it is an excuse to mistreat others

One thing she has for sure is a victim mentality. It’s never her fault…it’s always the internet, Angie, or some other random person. Sadly this is something her own mother enables in her and has been doing for quite some time.

Hot take - I don't think she's intelligent enough to be legitimately depressed. I think the mental capacity of her caveman brain caps out at like "me no have borger, no one donate me, me sad 😔".

On the subject, when she got bored of crying and desperately trying to garner sympathy and donations last night to laughing and singing fucking Darude or whatever was unhinged. "I'm such a gemini 😂" no ur just fucking mentally undeveloped

Yeah I don’t doubt she’s depressed look at her life dude lol but she’s so delusional she tries to convince herself she’s in control that’s why she fakes confidence and her personal relationships

I honestly don't believe she has feelings. You can't do some of the shit she does with a conscious.

I think it doesn’t matter…and I say this as someone with depression and ADHD who also had to deal with burnout from caregiving and the loss of both my parents in less than three years span, plus some chronic illness just to make things interesting. And I think this is relevant to Tophia and a lot of other lolcows who claim mental health, trauma,  neurodivergence, or other excuses.

I went through a lump period where I struggled a lot and a lot of stuff got away from me. I was on meds for depression and had therapy, but it was a lot to deal with. The thing is that there are a lot of lifestyle factors that help with a lot of things, including ADHD, depression, and even trauma. And while it wasn’t easy and I don’t want to pretend it was, I basically managed to start making myself do those things, though it was hit or miss until I found what worked for me. Things like nutrition, exercise, journaling, using planners, meditation, forcing yourself to stick to personal hygiene routines (I’m feeling pretty awful tonight but I did my skincare and just dragged myself into the bathroom to brush and floss), focusing on breaking tasks down into manageable things and learning to prioritize and get quick wins where you can, sticking to routines (it doesn’t matter how bad I feel, the pets insist on being fed), focusing on cleaning and improving your environment, working on your sleep, etc. That’s by no means an exhaustive list, but I’ve been feeling pretty rough lately. I made mysled do a short workout and meditation yesterday morning, plus some reading and finally got back to having morning tea and it made a major difference on my mood. I also like having positive interactions with people and feeling like I’m doing things that help (I’m one of those pro bono lawyers Tophia gets and no, I will not take on her deferrmation case). 

I know that was a long list, but I included all of those things because they’re specific, concrete things that we consistently don’t see Tophia or other lolcows doing. How often had Tophia ever said, “I want to eat X, but I’m going to get Y because of the effect it will have on my body.” And this doesn’t mean always eating the healthy thing, because things like chocolate can be mood boosters, but it means being aware of how foods make me feel. Or when has she done something actually based on the impact it will have upon n her mental health? How many times has say said, “I want to rant about trolls on the internet, but I feel worse after doing it, so I’m going to go for a walk instead.” As far as hygiene and things like skin/hair care? Even *if* she’s showering regularly, she isn’t doing any kind of meaningful personal care. She’ll our on makeup and nails to look good on TikTok, but she basically relies on that and filters to cover the evidence she doesn’t take care of herself. 

And the truly sad part is that, while I feel like a lot of her issues come from her past and not just being taught any better, she had a real, meaningful chance this year and she blew it. I think it’s pretty obvious she slipped through the cracks and didn’t really learn much from Papachu and Mamachu growing up, but she had access to resources that could have started her on the (admittedly slow age and difficult) process of getting her life together, but because she would have had to put in work and wouldn’t handed a house and taken care of for life, she just refused.

And that’s why I think that the diagnoses, if any, of Tophia and other lolcows are irrelevant. Whether she’s suffering from depression or neurodivergence is kind of irrelevant because she still would have to be doing the same things to get her life to a better place and she just refuses outright. If she has depression or ADHD, it might be harder to do those things and her life might be a little easier with a dx and meds, but meds don’t fix everything. At best, they make it easier to do the other work. And therapy? It often helps, but anyone who has done it knows that it isn’t just talking about yourself for an hour. It can be painful and sometimes utterly exhausting, especially if you’re dealing with difficult things. Which is why Tophia wouldn’t do it. Like a lot of lolcows, she has a major aversion to temporary discomfort, even if it’s going to improve everything in the long run. 

At some point, she’s going to have to realize that she does have some control over ger life and make choices to do hard thing. She’s never going to make 6 figures a year, but she’ll can avoid living in a car and bring cheap entertainment for trolls. 

I mean I wouldn’t be surprised if she does, if you think about her life over the past few years she lost her father to mental illness, she became homeless, her brother died, her mother was shot, and the internet, which she for some reason decides to base her entire life around, bullies her constantly (disregarding the fact that she deserves it). Pretty much nothing has gone right for her and depression seems likely to follow.

But regardless of if it’s real or not she still shouldn’t be using it for sympathy and as an excuse for why she shouldn’t get a job, like its 2025 who isn’t depressed constantly and yet we all get up and go to work everyday

NO SHE ABSOLUTELY DOES NOT HAVE DEPRESSION

I mean yeah probably but she’s just saying stuff to get people to send her money

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