if you were tophia what would you do to improve your appearance and life?

Losing weight for sure idc if I get saggy skin I refuse to be fat af like tophia but a little belly dont hurt nobody

Life? Job. Just something quiet and not public-facing, start putting some money away and not bothering the public, keep to myself for a while until I can start keeping my own place. And for the love of christ stop race-faking.

Appearance? Hygiene for a start. Wash that face, clean the boogers, start wiping. Walk to work, hit a gym. Wash that hair. Stay clean and take a slow, gradual approach to weight and health so it's easier to stick to than drastic changes.

Find dudes w weird fetishes to cater to

she's so hideous and her skin is so thick, I genuinely don't think plastic surgery would help. weight loss wouldn't improve her looks either. I would just get a job and pray I don't live too long

delete all my social media accounts and get a prepaid flip phone

I’d cut all the bleach damaged parts of my hair off and restart, I’d also delete all my social media

Get a job. Thats it. Everything else would fall in place.

Have a skincare routine, eat healthfully, actually shower, not play the victim, not go live constantly, take the help my uncle offered, get a job etc. Then I would go to school for something I could do and that's in demand, probably in the healthcare field

Even a part time job would be an improvement. Anywhere, really. I'd scrub my face and get all that crust off.

If I were her, I would find a job and not grift off my brother's death.

tbf, it's not even the weight issue because she still has a lot of features that make her look unattractive, so instead, I'd start with the rough skin and enlarged pores. I'd wash my face regularly, bathe, drink plenty of water, and moisturize. then i'd start taking better care of my matted hair, even if i have to cut it all off, so that healthier hair grows. and yeah, at that point i'd start eating better and exercising more, as well. it may not fix the other issues that are purely genetic, but it would be a start, at least.

and for life, well, obviously, getting a job comes to mind. it would be the top priority. earn enough savings to put a down payment on an apartment, and might as well get that two-bedroom now that it's just her and her mom. basically, become the sole breadwinner of the house, but at least it would be a start.

It’s genuinely as simple as buying cheap soap, dollar store skincare and haircare given she can’t afford the good stuff to start. Some razors, tweezers, brushes and combs suited to her hair type and texture BUT she also needs a decent amount of it cut off.

She doesn’t even need a gym membership, walking is absolutely free to help drop some pounds.

As for life? Swallow that pride and let shelters aid in providing care as well as job opportunities. Forget social media, internet fame happens to one in a million and is incredibly fleeting. Deactivate social media accounts, keep a private account and email for friends and family and also to keep an eye on the job market as lots of companies now advertise online.

No pets, can’t afford it. No new clothes, makeup or anything else that is a want and not a necessity; only buy new clothes after losing significant weight. She only needs like three pairs of shoes; one for work (sneakers), one for comfort (crocs, flip flops, flats) and one nice pair for things like interviews but obviously not heels she will never wear.

Being genuine?

IDGAF about the weight right now. I clean up - brush my hair, wash it, develop a routine. Trim my brows, get rid of my chin hair, keep my hygiene in check. Get clothes that fit me and aren't made for overgrown disney-adult type toddlers. The weight comes secondary to fixing my fucking hygiene. After I've developed proper hygiene habits, I go for daily walks. It's not a lot, but getting 10k steps in a day is enough to start losing some weight, which will help me when searching for a job - I won't be limited by my mobility.

As for life - I work to get my mom on disability or SSI. I get a job through Vocational Rehabilitation, work with a social worker to get therapy, and then get me and my mom a 1b apartment. I stay in the living room, she stays in her own bedroom. I make sure she gets a Medicaid Home Health Aide to come by to make sure she is properly cared for. I make sure to clean up every week, do the laundry, and save up 20% of every paycheck.

I still stream because clearly I derive joy from it, but I use my downtime to work. On the weekends, I go out to do my own thing. Whatever money is made from streaming can become spending money, because my paychecks from work go towards necessities like rent, bills, and food, as well as paying for the medication I am sure my mother and myself both need.

The life is harder than it was before, but worth it because eventually, I can live fully on my own and still do the things I enjoy.

(Half of this was shit I had to do for myself. I grew up in foster care and depressed as fuck and no one cared enough about me to help with hygiene or teach me how to live on my own. I failed a lot. I fucking stank a LOT in my teenage years - when you're depressed and have trauma relating to showering (and are also dealing with repressed SA trauma memories) it's hard to shower. And I didn't know how to care for myself. it was rough.

As much as I think she sucks, I think she can do it. If she gets over her own ego and greed and asks for FUCKING HELP. And I don't mean begging online for quick cash. I mean reaching out to social workers for help with getting her shit together. She's very OBVIOUSLY developmentally disabled (I cant fking spell that, I think I did right though), she very OBVIOUSLY needs help. but she refuses to seek actual help out.)

A paper bag

Clay mask. Good cleanser. Knock off St. Ives apricot scrub biglots. Knock off Biore charcoal micellar toner water from biglots. Xl cotton balls. Time and routine.

Ozempic. A trip to a hair salon. Community college. Drivers license... life.

Appearance: Buy some tweezers, a razor, and drink more water.

Life: Download Indeed and go to my nearest employment center to find a job

Get braces, lose weight, go to spas daily and talk to dermatologist

Lose weight, get a job, better hygiene habits.

-getting weight under control because that helps with PCOS symptoms
-actually taking a fucking shower
-drink water, sweet christ
-get a JOB
-get off of social media

For a while, I have thought a bit about what I would do if I had Tophia's hair. I never really came up with an answer, but I am very thankful that I do not.

Yes!
Here are 5 things!



1. Go to therapy to have my wake up call and Seek some
help and have validation to push forward

2.Job
This is really important
Having a job is the most important thing when it comes to success
No matter what the job is
Fast food employee or librarian I need to go there

3. Hygiene and going on a dermatologist
The dermatologist knows if your skins dry or not
Also
They will recommend the best hygiene brands

4. Start dating
That's the best step in a relationship
No matter if its tinder or real life that's the best step

5. Get married and have a beautiful family
This is also the most important

"no you cannot kill yourself" damn it, that was gonna be my answer 

I would buy hair removal products for that peach fuzz.

Go to therapy and doctors and get control of the pcos. Walk every day and eat as healthy as I can without buying anything except a weekly treat. Get online and APOLOGIZE TO EVERYONE. Then go silent while I get my crap together and get away from the online addiction. Get a hygiene routine down taking care of the pores and skin issues. Shower and do correct hygiene regularly. Stop here for a bit while I make this all habit. Then start getting hair products for her hair type and care properly for it since her hair would be gorgeous if she took care of it right. Get rid of chin hair and fix the eyebrows. Then get a part time job to get used to it while working with shelter services. Then move to full time. Start savibg all the money. Then get a place for her and Mamachu. Watch videos on how to sing, dance, do art, something. Then practice and make videos. Learn and practice making good videos. Find hobbies and meet people. Work with animals or volunteer. After I've worked on myself and got healthy mentally and physically and am caring properly for Mamachu, start dating.

1. Shower.
2. Get a job.

I read the title and was like: "Huh... Kill myself?" and then I opened the post only to find out I can't use suicide 😆

I would join the convent, since Nuns wouldn't kick me out so easily as that evil homeless shelter did!

First I would get a job and get off the internet. Second I would start showering, cleaning up the way my hair looks and start wearing eyelashes. I would save up to go get cosmetic surgery to have my eyelids corrected and my jaw shaved. And then I would go to the dentist and have them look at my teeth! I would also start wearing more flattering clothes.

Hire an exorcist to get rid of pesky old Pazuzuchu.

accidentally walk in front of a bus

definitely a job, one that keeps me on my feet so i can lose weight. id pursue online education so i at least have some kind of qualification under my belt for the future. then id definitely consult and eyebrow lady😭 maybe invest in some lash extensions, a gua sha, and save up money for at least a face lift. oh and id stop preying on asians who are freshly adults

Yo her looks are cooked, so throwing anything on her would be like throwing a set of new nice rims on a shitty beat up car. She could improve her health though and go to a gym, home workouts, or go out for walks.

Get a job

my first thought 😕

Get a job Lose weight get on hormones, learn self care learn to not be a stupid bitch

Eat less shower more and apply for jobs 

fix those eyebrows

I have something very mean to say but I'm not gonna.

Easy, what I wish to do when my body dysmorphia is particularly bad: get into a horribly disfiguring accident and pray the reconstructive surgery is an improvement 🫠

start wiping

Gastric bypass surgery