Bruh.
I just watched her latest instagram posts and this girl is really unbelievable. It’s actually sad.
People have been showing their support and sympathizing with her, hoping that maybe this situation would open her eyes to wanting to do better for herself and her mom but of course not🙄 she is immediately blaming us saying we should’ve helped sooner? Bitch helped with what? It’s none of our responsibility or concern to provide a fucking house and car for her like seriously get a grip.
She’s on there crying talking about all these “expenses” saying there’s funeral costs, costs to get a fucking car so she can finally learn to drive, somewhere to live and god knows what else she expects other people to pay for.
It just really pissed me off listening to that because for once people are trying to show her support and be there in her time of actual need and she’s really going to turn it into a “yall should’ve helped us out before now my brothers dead” like girl FUCK YOU.
No one at all has to help you with shit, you’re a grown adult that has chose to do nothing with her life and just expects random people to spend their hard earned money on her while she gives literally nothing in return. My mom passed away a few years ago and I didn’t have it in me to ask anyone for help when it came to the finances and I quickly got my shit together so it’s kind of baffling to see how she’s already going about all of this.
And before anyone says anything, sadly no it’s not really surprising she’s doing this but it is kind of fucked because you’d think this would be the situation that really made her stop and think for once but this really just shows the type of person she truly is.
And to anyone, I’m including myself in this, that showed any sympathy for her and was in this group defending her when it came to certain things -fully don’t feel regret that you felt bad for her. Our hearts were fully in the right place and it’s still not okay to say she deserved for her brother to die and for her mom to be hospitalized, but it does suck that she’s too much of a money hungry asshole and makes you instantly regret ever feeling sorry for her.
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u didn't lie at all. pple GIVE HER money left and right but everytime she gets money she spends it on shit she doesn't need doordash, makeup, comic con and so many other things. she could've saved up a lot in the last 4+ years by now but she decided to blow thru it. she had SO much help.
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and she would still have hundreds of dollars left over to actually support her family
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I don’t understand how she’s upset people didn’t send funds before. why do we have to work our jobs to send money to support her life? why can’t she work too?
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There's something really fkn wrong with how she thinks.
When she stunk at work, she came to the conclusion that her bosses were lying about it. SO, she didn;t do anything to try and remedy it, and instead, got fired, FOR STINKING.
Because her clothes were washed! And they told her her clothes stank, and she knew that was A LIE, because they had been washed!
...Now Big T, MAYBE they worded it as "your clothes stink" because that sounds slightly kinder than saying< "Hey, Tophia, YOU stink"? And maybe, if it is as you say, your clothes were clean... maybe it was your fat, unwashed STANK body that stank? It is a VERY uncomfortable conversation to have with someone, telling them about their problem smelliness. Bosses simply aren't out there telling employees they smell bad when they don't. If someone is telling you you stink, TRUST, you smell bad. Probably all the time, probably very bad. Probably noticed by every single person, and the first thing anyone says about you when they mention you to anyone else. "Hey Tommy, you know our co-worker, Tophia?" "I think so Billy, you mean the girl that smells like hospital eggs and old, used tampons and rotten butt, right?" "Yes Tommy. Well..." And even her father has straight up told her he can smell her armpits stank from 10 feet away before ON STREAM, like, there's a whole lot of first-hand reports that she stinks... and she chooses to not believe them? Rather than the normal, BEING MORTIFIED and doing whatever it takes to remedy it? Just one more example of like, ways she thinks. that are just so wrong, so far removed from how EVERYONE ELSE thinks. I know she is slow as molasses, but there's something beyond just stupid in play here too, idk what it is. Her brain is broken though, for real.
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im crying. not hospital eggs and rotten butt.
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Slow like molasses😭
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She has all the support and resources right now especially as a crime victim. She needs to take advantage of it now more than ever. Donald was the only one bringing money in and now they’re out of a car. These donations are only going to last so long and I HOPE she doesn’t blow it off on dumb shit and actually helps herself and her elderly mother.
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100%.
I really do hope she’s just ranting right now but actually puts the money she’s going to get to actual use. She can easily for a cremation spend a couple thousand and then maybe use the rest to either get them back in a hotel or a cheap ass apartment. But like another commenter had said, this will end up showing if she’s an actual POS or not.
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No as a discharged vet Donald can his son buried in a plot and later Donald Sr can join him. It comes with a headstone. Pls spread the word. I know this from personal experience as we did this for my grandpa and my grandma was buried with him and paid for by the govt. she’s been told this I’m sure.
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That is a great suggestion! I don't think people realize just how expensive a plot, stone and burial is. I wasn't even aware they paid for anyone else but the vet. So is the first person buried in a coffin and the second cremated ashes on top? Or is it 2 separate plots?
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They don’t and she’s not even considering it. She planned on letting everyone else come up with the money.
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Where I live the veterans spouse only gets to be buried for free with the veteran being buried with them at a later date
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She will not rent at all
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plus no one will accept her to rent in abq
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Not ideal but they have pauper graves the county can help with for free or very minimal cost
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See my above comment
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I obviously have no idea how much things cost in Arizona but in my city there's a place that literally does cremations for 400.00
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Y'all seriously expected much difference? This the same woman who said she wouldn't grieve her mother if she died and abused animals. She's always been and always will be a sicko.
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Exactly they was on here attacking people now they wanna backtrack. Everytime something happens to popularize her people want to show hella compassion knowing she won’t appreciate it.
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People getting attacked for saying her brother deserved to die and her mom being shot is fully warranted. There’s literally nothing at all wrong with feeling bad for someone that just went thru some crazy shit.
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Exactly. We weren't ignoring their past, but someone just died in a tragic way.
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Donald DID like lil kids a little too much 🤣
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I’ve been seeing both YouTube and the Reddit say otherwise it’s been hostile in here on all angles 🤷🏽♀️
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What’s your point.
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Now I’m confused. I wasn’t talking about people who said her brother deserved to die and I don’t know why you think I am. I’m literally talking about those who wanted the previous history to be ignored. Not anyone who specifically called to leave her alone for a while. These same people are turning back to troll her because they switch up easily. I’m not going to screenshot those fucking comments 💀💀💀
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There were many opinions about the situation and no one was really saying the same thing. I don’t know why it’s such a morality battle virtue signaling from a private account is still virtue signaling
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In case anyone forgot, she talked about people’s dead relatives not even a month before all of this shit 💀💀💀💀💀💀🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
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One of the many reasons I will never shed a tear for that girl. She said in her recent story that gun violence is horrible but was threatening us not too long ago with said gun violence.
It’s all cute and whatnot when she’s the perpetrator of violence and hate.
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Bc she doesn’t think before she opens her loud ass mouth 😂
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Well 🤷♂️
Poetic justice
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wrong n loud ass mouth lol
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Yup,I remember that n someone needs to play that back for her.She needs to eat crow
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Did you see the one where she said “you’re lucky I wasn’t concealed carry or someone would be carrying you in a long box down a line “ (I don’t know who it was in reference to /about. I think maybe the door dashers or ANG, I don’t know . While she (or anyone else ) deserves to ever be in this situation , she ran her mouth about this exact thing. It’s sad , but I believe social media is hurting her more than helping , she preaches from her soapbox about radical racial injustices, and holds onto so much hate /grudges . She should find peace offline , take care of her mental health and living situation , and her mother .
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nah literally.
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15 days ago, to be exact, she was wishing death and saying she would never donate to anyone's GoFundMe and would drive past their funeral and laugh. Then less then two weeks ago she said she was going to dig a (☠️) person up
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I mean she says a lot of that shit to people who are also saying insane shit to her. 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
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The dildo of karma rarely arrives lubed.
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Fuck thats what imma start sayin
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That is literally theeee best line right there! I ss it, and will be using it as much as my life conversations will allow 😂😂😂
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Everyone grieves in their own way but I really think someone needs to take either her phone away or her ability to post. She’s just sounding more and more like a complete ignorant asshat.
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its because she is, trauma didn’t really give her IQ or a change of personality
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Yeah her being advised to stay off social media was for a legit reason and this is why.
I get she might feel alone and wants to go online and vent but when you’re also in the middle of a traumatic event it can make you say dumb ass shit in the moment.
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She needs to really take a hiatus from social media
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She needs to really find a job after things settled down like after her brother is put away and Mamachu is getting social services and assistance living
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Tophia can easily get that kind of stuff too. Claim she’s homeless bam that’s easy to get snap, Medicaid, and if she wanted to TANF. Like there’s so many resources. It’s not like she lives in a rural area. If it was a different town in New Mexico and was smaller then she would have a different situation.
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Im sorry to say but i was saying this from the beginning while i feel horrible her family is going through this tophia is going to milk this dry and use this as a excuse for the rest of her life on why she cant get a job she is going to take that gofund me money and use it to live off of maybe get a motel and just use it till it runs out and when it does she gonna come back on tiktok like she already doing and start her crying again and people will feel bad enough to donate cuz she lost her brother and itll just be a cycle unfortunately she is never and will never change
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Honestly yeah I can see this happening too . It’s crazy how social media can be wrapped around some people’s brain like this . Then the fact that she’s still on TikTok reposting every 5 minutes nonstop is kinda crazy , we all know that money isn’t going to go towards good use . She’s gonna play the guilt card with us then on top of it probably blame us some more . She will for sure use this card for a minuteeee
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She does it with everything else that happens in her life losing Hershey her dad going to jail even her sister being a stillborn she milks every tragedy in her life and sadly this one will be no different nothing will make her change as a person she is a
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The fact that she was reposting things to her story too, just a few hours before “crying” on it. When my grandpa (aka my favorite person ever) died, I didn’t touch my phone for a little over a week, not even to respond to texts. I 100% wouldn’t have been reposting shit on social media or even scrolling.
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My grandpa past away aswell im sorry for your lost i know how it feels to lose your favorite person i was heart broken
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Unfortunately this is the case. I hope atleast a social worker may be able to get her set up on disability and maybe section 8 housing. She’s not gonna work. It doesn’t matter how bad it gets she’s just not.
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No fully, like it’s not our job to work actual jobs then send her our money.
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A true testament to her laziness. Lived in multiple car for months, did not learn how to drive lol she’s an absolute waste of oxygen. She expects the world to take care of her and people over here will still send her money 😂
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Why did it take her brother passing away for her to finally learn how to drive . This doesn’t make ANY sense to me . She had so much time to learn how to drive . This woman is 30!
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There’s a GFM for his funeral by her brothers friend. I don’t know why she has to make a new one or wants people to donate to her directly for the funeral. I’m sure her friend will give her whatever’s left over once it’s all said and done.
As for medical beels, it’ll be covered by the state insurance so beels will be minimum, if any.
It’s clear she wants the money to go to herself so she can spend it how she sees fit. It’s clear as day
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I hate to say it but I think we all know EXACTLY why she has to make a new one for herself…regardless I hope that they’re able to put Donald to rest in a dignified way
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Oh trust me WE KNOW WHAT THAT MONEYS REALLY FOR
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Yes like make up stuff and concerts and childish things and fast food. Instead of using it for a place to live and going to job interviews. I feel bad for her in her time of bereavement but she’s a pathetic LOWCOW who refuses to work yet expects people to just give her money directly instead of for her own brother funeral expenses and helping mamachu.
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I’ll say this. She’s not getting enough for an apartment, which she doesn’t want anyway cos she’s against renting. You have to make 2-3x the rent, plus first and last, security deposit, proof of [stable] income, utilities etc. An apartment is unrealistic, even when they lived in that 3br, 2ba was weird cos she claimed it was only $800 and the rent would go up if she worked. So I’m assuming it was section 8. That’s out the window.
Her best bet would be an extended stay hotel but even that is a stretch cos mine specialized in that and it would be $700 for a studio, A WEEK. For a suite, it was close to $900 - $1000 a week. Again, I dunno how she got an extended stay hotel for $200.
She squandered all her affordable options and she knows it. That’s why she “refuses to rent”. Anyone with a brain knows she’s gonna collect the money and go back to making her and her mom live in an car again and she’ll be back to screaming at people again and wishing death in no time
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And they’ll end up trashing the place again
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Thank you. People like you make me feel like I’m not out of my mind
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1600 bucks for 31 days at an extended stay. Obviously this is just a full bed but I didn’t take that much time to explore more options.
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Funnily enough I used to work for em 😂
They could actually get it for cheaper. They would just have to make an effort and talk to the director of sales, but we all know how much she hates to work
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Can she stay with relatives?
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Oh geez,NO!! They would make her clean up their mess
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Yeah this just PROVES she's a grifting asshole even during a tragedy. They are INDIGENT. Mamachus medical bills are all paid through Medicaid be so for real
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Her personal gofund…..That 600 dollar camera
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And patty melts. Bro… we all know
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what’s up with the patty melts? lol i was catching up nor pay that much attention during that time 😂
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It’s her favorite thing from Whataburger
She had a meltdown at the motel cos she was starving and had nothing to eat. She was craving patty melts but Marie clocked her and said they had burger patties to eat lol
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https://www.cvrc.nm.gov/for-victims/cvrc-application/#:~:text=Awards%20up%20to%20a%20maximum,burial%20expenses%3B%20(%246%2C000.00%20maximum)
Don't do it...but if any of you "broke ass bastards" want to, pop off, I guess. Just know that you're paying for her to go see Kendrick in Vegas. We already KNOW how she is. Since Donald was murdered, and they were all homeless and victims of this crime, they'll automatically get help from the state program. They'll more than likely get food stamps, Medicaid, and any other assistance they've needed.
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I tell people if they continue to donate at this point, put that pay on automatic for monthly payouts and mark Tophia as a dependent for next tax season.
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well, you notice one of the bullet points, you have to 100% entirely comply with whatever they ask/want or you aint qualified.
who knows if that wont somehow become a problem for them
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Would her and mom even be eligible for payments?it says pain and suffering and property damage doesnt qualify and with them both being adults,I wonder
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Honestly, I thought she would be enjoying her door dash and shopping on her phone while she was in the hospital with Marie with all of the sympathy donations coming in. I figured this would come a little while later, like a week or two when the sympathy donations stopped. She got what, $4k last month, and it’s still not enough she needs people to give her more of their money they earned with a job.
People would have been sympathetic and understanding of anything but yelling at The Internet People that they weren’t donating enough. Like, most people would have given her the benefit of the doubt that she’s no doubt grief stricken and just emotion dumping. But this? This just turned off the good will she had 48 hours ago and her donations are going to be minimal now
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I fr think she saw that Donald’s friends raised 4k on that GFM and wanted it so then that’s when all the talk about only donating to ones she’s approved of or just giving her the money came in.
Which is funny because tbh had she just shut up for once people I’m sure would’ve, and probably have been, just sent her money on their own.
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All she had to do was start a live, update everyone on Mamachu. Let people know she’s fucking awful but she’s trying to get shit together and talk to people about resources. Donations would have been coming in left and right judging by how many people here on reddit feel for her right now.
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Yeah, tophia really squandered the opportunity since she's really not going to be in a situation that merits as much sympathy as she was getting. Unfortunately, she is lazy, greedy, and stupid, and is going to turn people against her pretty quickly.
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DAMN SKIPPY. I felt a WAVE of sadness for her these couple days and from hearing about that ig story, I’m slowly starting to regret it. It absolutely DISGUSTING for her to blame us for not helping her and use that as a reason why he’s dead. Instead of blaming people for not wanting to use hard earned money to provide support for some one who has SCAMMED PEOPLE IN THE PAST, how about being there for your mother who you treated like trash before the incident. I understand that what she went through is difficult and I empathize for her but… really? Blame the internet? She had opportunity after opportunity to get out of the situation she was in and didn’t!! She put the burden on her brother. I’m heated this pisses me off
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I'm gonna be so real, this isn't shocking. I mean SHE'S BLAMED US BEFORE when they got kicked out of the motel and even their old apartment, and it sucks because people here have been supportive of her recently instead of being rude and trolling her. But like people have actually been nice to her so for her to blame us... just wow. You would think she turned a new leaf
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And you thought her victim mentally was bad pre-tragedy you ain't seen nothin' yet.
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I wanna give her grace its hasn't even been a week since the incident but damn
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It hasn’t even been two DAYS
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No forreal I genuinely thought she’d atleast take some time offline but I guess not
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She's just hopeless at this point. She's too connected to social media to actually grasp the reality of the situation. Even when her brother is shot and killed, she still doesn't bother changing or doing anything different because in her eyes this wasn't a wrong place wrong time thing, she believes it's the people who have been telling her to get a job and take her family somewhere safer who are the cause of all this
It's like camping by a volcano, getting angry when people tell you its not safe, then blaming those people when the volcano erupts
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I think it’s a vicious cycle. If people stopped talking about her and paying attention to her in any fashion, nothing she does would matter. That’s how feel about it personally
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If she had no one paying attention online she'd just do the same shit she does now but with strangers who pass by
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What’s the issue with that?
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There are millions of people who operate like her on a daily basis. Some are worse I just don’t really care what Tophia does. She’s not worth my energy to that degree. Sure I’ll keep by reading what’s happening, but I’m not affected in any way. Like she doesn’t anger me and I don’t ever feel inclined to “give her a piece of mind” it’s pointless
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Did I give you the idea that I was pissed off at her or smth man I'm just giving my idea of what she'd do in that situation
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Not at all, I tend to be very flat in my responses, my b I’m a monotone person overall
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Nah its fine I was just flabbergasted for a second I thought you were beefing with me
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am i crazy? bcuz it literally sounds like she’s saying i wish WE could have gotten help sooner. idk maybe im mishearing it
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She could’ve been using we as like, them. But I took it as “if yall would’ve helped us sooner this wouldn’t of happened” but I also could be misinterpreting it.
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I’m sorry I was on your side until I hear the story, are yall missing the context ??
“As if life wasent beating me down already, I kept telling EVERYBODY it’s not safe out here. Help, help. Why did my brother have to die for anyone to care”
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not the story i was referring to. She says “i don’t know how to do things without not posting on social media, like the financial stuff. You know, i wish we would’ve gotten help sooner.” maybe we took things differently bcuz i thought she meant like just getting aid instead of living in the streets
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Ooh my bad
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yeah I thought she was saying that she wished that SHE would have gotten a job or looked for help before it was too late
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that’s what i’m saying but ya know ppl are quick to jump hee
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Her mother can file for state Medicaid and I’m sure the hospital will help her file so they can get payment!!
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Social services will pay to have him cremated they were homeless she has to apply or her mother for this !! A lot of people chose this route bc the cost of a funeral plus the cost of a plot to put them in
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That’s why we cremated my mom, it was insanely cheaper and I also just wanted to be able to still “have her” around.
I hope someone leads her in the right direction with all of this.
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Wtf did people expect truly, some of y'all villainized people who saw right through her & weren't gonna coddle her now look. Ofc she wasn't gonna change LMAO
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Exactly. She DID not deserve what happened to her. But still its the reason why we kept telling her to get a job and figure out a way to get a place.
I am sorry for her. But I can not donate to her. She will take the money and potentially use it for her own wants and not needs. She has done it before. She needs to learn how to pull herself up. I feel bad for saying this, because I got myself to a great place in life because of help from my friends and resources. I had help, too. But I am forever grateful for that help. I got a job. I grew up. I learned how to live on my own. Survived without eating fast food so often.
Like as an adult you will miss out on things you want sometimes and Tophia needs to understand that.I don't believe she will be grateful if we donated to her. If we donate to her it needs to be a from a 3rd party we can ensure will use the money for its intended purposes. Ex: She wants a new car. And someone makes sure every red cent of that donation money goes into that car.
Idk... im rambling. Im just... not surprised but still frustrated that she doesn't understand that she really needs to shape up right now.
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It’s okay to receive help, as long as it moves you forward and not into a perpetual victim mentality and need for everyone to solve your adult problems. I’m a big fan of helping people that want to be helped, I won’t donate either for the same reason you said.
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I fear it will get worse. Her updates only care about money and blaming others. I haven’t spoken much on this because I think it’s horrific what happened but Tophia needed to do better. She has had plenty of time to make changes and get a license. She was content being homeless…. She bragged about it. She bragged about having no job and never working. Not all of us were raised in perfect situations but many try and that’s all that matters. It’s time for her to grow up and start doing the bare minimum so she isn’t left isolated and trapped.
Her comments about dead relatives are vile. I lost a parent in a horrific manner and I’m going to keep to myself what I would say to her today.
Sure she isn’t the fastest… but she has made zero attempts to better to life and that needs to be acknowledged. She doesn’t get to cry now about her being unprepared and out of funds. She can cry about her brother, what she went though, etc. To cry and blame others about a situation she did nothing to fix, it’s a no from me.-
She bragged about being homeless and living in her car because she had the freedom and she wasn't tied down by anything. She literally wanted this and now it's a problem that we didn't help her? No she can fuck right off all the way to hell
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Exactly this.
I understand people struggle and things happen but she never tried to better her situation once. So I simply cannot feel bad for her situation she created. If she was trying, it would be different
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Guys in all reality she’s going through it. Being in that state and how she is already is just frustrating for everyone. And you guys are allowed to be mad and feel that way but I mean now I think we just gotta turn away and let her deal with it. Stop giving her attention and don’t donate. It’s sad and harsh but you can’t help someone if they’re not gonna help themselves first. Period.
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I’m kind of torn on this one bc I totally see what you’re saying, and I think given her history it’s what is expected honestly. But I also want to give her benefit of doubt that she was just emotionally ranting and saying she wished they were helped sooner…not necessarily blaming anyone. But again I get why it would be perceived that way.
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Yeah I very well could’ve taken it outta context, it was just my immediate thought when I had first heard that. I think it more so irritated me because she has had countless opportunities to put herself in a better situation and chose not to but now wants to say they should’ve gotten help sooner.
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I think this is a situation where we will need to just wait and see what happens. It’s going to be revealing of her true character to an unimaginable extent
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She makes me feel stupid for even feeling bad for them.
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I felt the same way when I saw the Instagram story. Why is it on us to have helped them to get them into an apartment?! She could've just worked a full time job to secure a place to live, why is she blaming people that are helping her?!
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She has always relied on social media to support her and her family. This isn’t new. Her and her mama would laugh at how they don’t have to work and they’re not going to work. If she has no ambition to help herself, why should we? 31 this year.
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Tophia literally blaming her viewers for her brother's death due to them not giving her money earlier...this is a new low. She will NEVER change.
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Inorder to get a car and register it you need a license at some point. She’s gonna get a car and do what with it? And a place to stay she doesn’t make enough to pay rent, utilities, food, hygiene products etc. so her one option is motel which is where she should’ve been in the first place.
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People have been defending her saying the circumstances have changed. The circumstances have changed, yes. However Tophia has been met with changing circumstances over the past few years, and this page itself is a testament to the fact that she hasn’t changed her habits. Not only that, but she refuses to change her habits. No matter how bad off, no matter how well off she was her habits have stayed the same. Tophia nor her family will get a single red cent from me. But I truly hope she comes out of this for the better. This is her make or break moment, her come to Jesus moment, etc…. Her entire future depends on every. tiny. little step she takes from here on out. And I don’t believe she will choose right. Hell she already has not chosen right. She is a vindictive, narcissistic ass with a victim mentality that can not be overrode, sadly no matter what happens. She will continue to spend her money on frivolous shit and junk food, and will continue to e-beg for money from hardworking strangers with jobs while refusing to get one herself. While she may be worthy of pity to some of you, she is not and should not be worthy of your hard earned money.
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💯 Handing money to someone like Tophia is no different than giving money to someone who’s an addict (and I would know as someone who’s been sober now for 13 years)—they are not going to use it to better themselves in any way. There are many Tophia’s in the world, but they just don’t have the social media following. There are also plenty of other causes & tragedies I’d rather give my money to. She will never be one of them.
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What's crazy to me about Tophia is that she thinks people will and are able to help her, when in reality there's only so much we as her "audience" can do. We can only donate so much to her because a lot of us might be struggling financially, but Tophia also can't be trusted with money. I do feel bad for her, especially since I lost a close family member to unfortunate circumstances, but there's only so much that can happen to help her since she's so untrustworthy and ungrateful.
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Everyone was telling her to move stay in a homeless shelter but no she chose the carchu life because it was more convenient despite being far more dangerous. They make their chose and now they have to live with it. Sad situation all around but it’s nobody fault but the shooter and to a small degree their own for choosing to sleep in a car in a city with higher violent crime rate. Only a matter of time before someone can across them sleeping in their car and deciding to take it from them.
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And that’s why I didn’t spend a single drop of sympathy on her azz. She’s shown her true character too many times. Bad things happen to bad people. Sorry not sorry; It’s the truth. 🤷♀️
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someone tell me i’m thinking too much into it but she will never get her license. where i live you must have a driver who is 25 with a license to go w you to get ur permit then to take u to get ur license at the behind the wheel. she now has no one to do all of that.
but also it’s insane how much she does not want help unless it’s in cold hard cash. my mom is a literal social worker who offered resources and a no 💀
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I’m from Mass and that isn’t a thing here. I got my permit twice (16 and 22) and didn’t need anybody with me
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they hate us in cali i guess so mb !
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Yes, in almost every state everyone with a drivers permit needs someone over the age of 21 to accompany them while they’re learning to drive/getting their hours after they get their permit. So, while she doesn’t need someone with a license & over the age of 21 with her to get the permit itself, she will still most likely need one in the car with her while she’s driving around after getting it. She will also have to have a car that can pass all the safety inspections and stuff in order to take the driving test at the DMV/MVA. Even someone as simple as a car horn not working can disqualify a car from being deemed acceptable to take the test, so she won’t be able to use some junker she bought off Fb market place.
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my sister didn’t have a headstone for a year because we were saving for it never asked anyone for any financial help it’s insane how people are so entitled to strangers money
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She is gonna profit off her brothers death tremendously, probably will raise around 50k with all the internets help. Her mom and her will blow through that money within 6 months to a year and will be back in a shelter in no time. No hate just honest
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Fully agree with you
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Some things just never change
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She's not using the resources Albuquerque and the state of New Mexico provides. Albuquerque is also one of the poorest cities . Tbh Albuquerque is a fantastic city free public transportation. Rent I have seen max is like 820$ sub 1000$
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she has to realize SHE is her own person and SHE has to help herself!!!!
she has spent loads of money on comic con while living my in a car, she could’ve put that money towards an apartment, or a motel. or a hotel. literally ANYWHERE
she’s just picky as shit, she wants a 3 bedroom knowing damn well that’s completely out of her income range. i’d rather live in a one bedroom apartment with my family then in a car??? she was already living in a motel, u don’t have separate rooms other than the bathroom so ?? what difference does it make?
i just find it absolutely ridiculous, im trying to give her some grace because she saw her brother die in front of her, but it’s really hard when she acts like this. i felt so bad for her these last couple of days, and i still do, but woah.. imagine blaming the internet for a death that had quite literally nothing to do with the internet
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The way she was trying to get people to donate to HER GFM - for HER EXPENSES — Donald’s friends should be the only one donated to. She never once said that she has funeral expenses she specifically said ‘ALL OTHER EXPENSES’, I’m sure that’ll be thrown in the donators faces when she goes and blows it on something dumb.
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am i shocked? nope. this is the same person who only cares about her self. she treats everyone like shi and also makes fun of other pples relatives dead or alive. she's constantly asking for money and also makes fun of jobs she's been selfish forever why would it suddenly change? what do u expect?
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Exactly. I don’t even care if people send her money because the truth is that is a dead end. She will be an endless money pit and those dumb enough to donate will soon realize that.
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What next? It's our fault she didn't learn how to drive??
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Oh, lol. I understood it as “I should’ve gotten help sooner”.
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Im still sad about the event, but my opinion on her has never changed. I stood on it then, im standing on it now🤷🏽
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And I got downvoted into oblivion because I pointed this all out at the beginning too.
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I know everyone cries differently but she sound so fake and needy 😐
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It’s kind of infuriating how people are donating to the gofundme bc knowing that family, they’ll either do the cheapest funeral/burial possible then spend the rest on junk food and Comic-Con or just something that wouldn’t get a roof over their head or help them in the long run. I’m just glad it’s not under tophia’s name bc I have the strongest gut feeling that if it was, she’d blow through it so quickly on things that aren’t the funeral or Marie’s medical bills.
I do feel insanely bad that this happened to them, regardless of how awful they are, no one deserves to be killed that way or witness that. But her blaming us for not helping and that’s why this happened is fucked up bc no one but the murderer is at fault (unless you think that her not helping them to get off the streets makes her/them at fault).
And unpopular opinion.. I don’t wanna sound mean but watching her story, it doesn’t seem like she’s actually upset about it - like her crying sounds almost fake and as if she’s doing it because that’s what she knows the normal reaction would be. I seriously feel like she’s unable to care for others or feel any emotion/remorse that isn’t solely about herself.. but who knows, everyone handles grief and trauma differently so I might just be a bitch for saying this.
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As harsh as it might sound I had zero sympathy for this family. They put themselves in the situation they’re in and while random acts of violence are always unfortunate, they were only in that place because of the decisions they made. Had they been trying to better themselves I might feel different, but that’s not the case here.
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the way I thought that she wouldn’t take advantage of this situation..I’m so stupid for that. She’s too much of a fucking narcissist. Of course she blames us first and of course she immediately goes back online to complain. I feel bad that I ever felt empathetic towards her in the first place.
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It’s crazy how she’s blaming us for everything that happened, even though she never put in the effort to find a real job or use the money she did have responsibly… ridiculous
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See I simply felt bad as I normally would when a life is lost, but all Tophia will get is my condolences, those are free. Beyond that is not my problem.
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Didn't her brother literally abuse and stalk his ex to the point she moved twice.
I dont sympathize nor do I allow myself to feel sad for a dude dying but he did evil shit (like his scheming ass sister and father.) while he lived. Sorry. Y'all look like actual inbred cavemen.
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I was so disappointed to hear her say that. I understand she’s going through a LOT and I wouldn’t wish her situation on my worst enemy, but we also have families, we have bills, we have monthly expenses and some of us are BEARLY scraping by. She also has to do her part😕
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Yeah I don’t understand how she expects to just magically get off the streets because of the tragedy she has to change something in order to get results
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Honestly disappointing but not surprising.. no matter what other misadventure happens with Miss T, she just never learns. I thought she was gonna finally wake up and consider turning her life around but no. Guess i was wrong and I should’ve guessed that this would happen. Anyway, may God help her atp cuz she’s all on her own now 🙏🏼
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you really thought someone who had something incredibly traumatic and violent happen to her would change her life around…. in 2-3 days right after the event happened???? really???
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The absolute last thing I would of hoped for was her to use this situation to victimize herself. Unbelievable that she actually has the audacity to use this situation to guilt people into providing her. I knew she wouldn’t change, and I don’t regret feeling bad for her, but how could you act like this after your own brother’s passing?
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It’s not even that she refused to work and expected her online “supporters” to fund her life, it’s that she continuously talked down on workers (esp fast food workers). She really thinks she’s better than people with jobs. It turned so many people off. Who would support and send her money after listening to her talk that mess??
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For those saying "Well how else are they going to pay for the funeral, etc. without any (donated) money?" 👇🏻👇🏻 Like this. Exactly like this, and I'm SURE the advocacy group has already been in contact with tophia. These bills along with temporary housing or whatever they need will be covered. I know this from EXPERIENCE.
https://www.cvrc.nm.gov/for-victims/cvrc-application/#:~:text=Awards%20up%20to%20a%20maximum,burial%20expenses%3B%20(%246%2C000.00%20maximum)
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Well I hope this is her lesson and a push for her to get her fat ass up and work. Now that it’s just her and her elderly mother…. Living in a car has proven to not be sustainable.
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Exactly. I was watching her Instagram story, and I felt so bad until she said, "I wish people had helped sooner." When I heard that, I audibly said, "Fuck you, Tophia," because that's AWFUL—implying that it's half our fault. I don't have any sympathy for her at all anymore—only for the situation that happened. But for her? None.
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I honestly don’t expect anything positive from Tophia, she’s shown multiple times on social media how terrible of a person she is. She was always so quick to bring up people’s dead relatives and said herself that she wouldn’t grieve her own mother. Yes, I do feel bad that her brother died but it’s irresponsible for her to try to blame us for her own mistakes like blowing money on comic con, concerts, and makeup instead of rent. In addition, she’s been refusing to work for YEARS after being told more than enough times to get a job.
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Online people giving her money is only going to keep her terminally online. She needs counseling/therapy and maybe some medicine, I don't know.
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Yall are sick for this, it hasn't even been a week and yall are back to your regularly scheduled hate. And to all the people telling her to get off social media, it's literally all she has left right now.
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I just saw what she said. and I'm genuinely stunned. Some tried to come through and offer her a golden opportunity to see that not everyone loathes her and wishes harm on her or her family. And this is her mentality.
and I'm not going to say more than that. She took her one chance and burned it to a crisp.
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And you are surprised bc?
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As bleak as it is, she needs to donate his body to science if she doesn’t wanna worry about funeral/cremation costs. Knew a girl whose mom had to be donated after she passed since they didn’t have the means.
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She pissed and shit all over every motel they been in until they got kicked out, fid you think she would change??
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She also refuses to get a job. Maybe this whole 3/11 situation wouldn't have happened if she had a job and helped pay for a home
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her brother literally got killed in front of her… and she still the same. i still have some sympathy bc of what happened, but this is crazy! i have no words
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She had for a FACT OVER $600 that could have literally went towards a down payment on a one bedroom apartment… if not that, groceries or for a motel ATLEAST & she chose to spend it on fucking comic con. But that’s OUR fault?! We should have sent money sooner or helped sooner!?! THATS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY NOT OURS!!!!!!!!! I pay MY OWN bills to have a home & food for me & my family & I WORK JUST LIKE THE REST OF US IN ORDER TO HAVE THAT!!!!!! I’m not donating. I was going to… but now I’m not. I am however praying for them. I’m praying that they get out of this situation. She has my support. But as far as money goes, not happening. & for some reason I really feel like she spent more than 600 on comic con. Tbh it was prolly at least 1k & she is just telling us she spent only half of that on it. We’re not stupid. I hope she takes this seriously & finally steps up. But after hearing this, my doubts are getting higher unfortunately. Our responsibility is not to help her, we have to help OURSELVES. Plus, she got money sent to her left & right. She just chose to blow it.
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I’ve been thinking she would act like this. She doesn’t seem to understand or appreciate that people did try to help her. But she wasted all the opportunities.
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I knew this shit was gonna happen. When the news of Donald came out, I sent condolences and that was it. I knew for a fact she was going to use all the overly sympathetic people to try and get money.
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I think ppl forget she genuinely has an intellectual disability and truly isn’t capable of taking care of herself or seeing past whatever impulses her brain tells her she wants in the moment. Not saying that as a diss or anything, but not even a tragedy can override the capabilities of someone’s brain
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I feel bad for her losses but at the end of the day she is a grown woman and can figure it out on her own.
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I fear she is going to blow this money and expect everyone who has donated to help purchase a home in full for her so she can drive around in a brand-new dream car with Gucci sunglasses on
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I hope nobody is donating to any gofundmes, yes it’s sad Donald is gone but I don’t believe any should donate. NONE of it is going to go to funeral expenses, Marie, or towards shelter if tophia is involved
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Yo, she is honestly just so, so STUPID among other things for that take of hers.
But yeah, that same thing stuck out to me...
"Oh, you all wanna help NOW THAT MY BROTHER IS DEAD AND MY MOM IS SHOT, but where were you three months ago, when that help could have bought us a house and prevented all this?"
SO, seriously Big T?
As you'd put it, "Let's be so fucking for real,"
You truly think people SHOULD have given you all the money to afford an entire house and all relasted expenses, three months ago, all because, what.... because you wanted that? And because random internet people should see you, see that you are living in a car after being kicked out of multiple places for misbehavior and/or non-payment, and they should think, "It is ON ME to pay for this large woman and her family to have a better place to live! Forget my retirement fund... someone who refuses to work is living in sub-optimal conditions, I HAVE TO FIX THAT!"
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Let's be so fucking for real though.... Big T is literally fucking retarded.
And just so she knows, in case she reads this... I was straight up going to give her a few bucks, too. Couldn;t do it instantly, but I had money coming, and I was going to give her a little something this past weekend.
But after watching that video, I was like, "What was I thinking?"
"Of course she doesn't deserve it, not even now."
Specifically because she thinks she does deserve it, and is entitled to it, and is so deluded enough to come out and say as much.... damn, just damn.
If she had just put up a crowdfunding link and SHUT HER MOUTH i'm sure she could have pulled in so much more than whatever she did get. But she can't help herself.
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The fact she finally takes learning to drive AFTER her brothers death after HE was the one working and driving her bum everywhere....i dont have my license but im getting my license unlike tophia whose 30 and having her brother do it all cause she thinks she shouldn't have too
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Please understand that she's going through some serious grieving right now. She is going to want to blame everyone. Let her. Let her grieve in her own way. She deserves at least that much.
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i disagree. she was set up to fail, genuinely. poverty and homelessness followed her her entire life. with an unstable father (and sole financial provider until donald jr stepped up) and enabling disabled mother, there was no way she couldve amounted to anything. there was no one in her life that was strict and disciplined her behaviour. no one in her close life that broke the truth to her that in this life, in her socio economic class, she should be getting a degree and getting a job to provide financial and housing security, not only for herself, but for her disabled mom as well
i don’t like the greed that this woman excudes, with being lazy and begging for gift points on tiktok live, but this is the first time she in 3 decades has to fend for herself. she has no father, no brother, no grandparents (for all we know), no extended family in which she has good relations with, and on top of that, her enabling emotional support mother is in the hospital
i dont blame her for going on social media to beg for money, because the reality of it is that she has no other way to get money in her current state, being in shambles and homeless with no education as well as being a woman whos black. does that mean that people should be donating to her in the masses? i dont think theres a definitive answer to that, but to have grace in this period of time would be the most humane thing to do
she should definitely figure her shit out, mental illness be damned, because if she doesnt, shes going to realise that she cant freeload and depend on other people for her and her mother’s survival for more than a week.
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She’s grieving, anger is a part of grief, she’s also saying that in a way that she just wishes this could’ve been avoided, what happened was an accident. Can yall have at least an ounce of sympathy to brush past this one comment of a grieving person no matter what the situation is
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this is what i’m saying ????? people are so fucking weird it hasn’t even been A WEEK!!!!!!!!!! I was wrecked and blamed everyone and myself when my cat fucking died and i cannot imagine how much it would be if it was a member of my family died in such a violent way
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You’ve heard of the boy who cried “wolf”. She’s the 30-year-old girl who cried “donate”. Like girl people have tried to help you multiple times they gave you ample amount of cash linked you to resources listed out opportunities and sources of assistance…… it’s not *OUR* fault people don’t trust you anymore because you blew money on stupid shit in the face of a dire situation. That’s 600+ dollars you blew on comic con this year could’ve gone towards groceries or towards buying an outfit for an interview……