do y’all agree with this?
i see
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I think it would be weird if she was someone who has only made a few mistakes or wasn’t someone problematic at all. People really don’t want to be associated with her or be seen as a supporter of her and rightfully so, so I could see why people are clarifying they aren’t defending her or don’t feel like she’s a good person
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Exactly, she deserved a wake up call and not this. You don't have to like an angry, vindictive creeper to be sympathetic to a tragedy and you don't have to be associated with an angry, vindictive creeper just because you're being sympathetic. It's fine and normal imo to separate the two sides of this.
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i pointed out we are sympathetic of her bc she can’t control this situation but we don’t support her bc of her past and bc of the situations she can control like racism and transphobia. but ig the commenter is saying it’s disrespectful to hold it against her at this time? or it seems dismissive
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It’s been conditioned into people on this sub that if you don’t clarify that you don’t like her then people will jump down your throat about how you’re a tophia defender. So even when something like this happens everyone almost unconsciously types that out before saying anything else
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you always try to spin it about her being problematic but its about her losing a family member right in front of her? how hard is it to show a little empathy? you must be truly heartless and don't act like you are morally superior by mentioning her mistakes for you to not be a decent human being.
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I didn’t realize you knew me or kept tabs on me. I’ve been sending my condolences to Tophia since day 1 and I’ve been calling out people being insensitive about the situation.
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And we also don’t have to have empathy or sympathy for her either.
As long as we can all agree on this fact, then all is well.
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I agree. You are allowed to feel any way you want about it and I don't think anyone should take issue. You feel how you feel about it.
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Fr there’s too much arguing going on between people who all have reasonable opinions
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nah LMAOOOOO
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i mean, kind of?
two things can be true at once i think.you can feel sympathy for her and what she just went through, and also not support what she has done and dislike her for it.
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i’m asking if y’all think it’s disrespectful to point out “i don’t like her but i feel sorry for her” bc i low-key commented something along those lines “i don’t like her but she didn’t deserve this at all” and i don’t want to be disrespectful
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oh ok i’m sorry i read this wrong!!
i rlly dont think it’s too disrespectful.i think what is truly disrespectful is saying she deserves it, and things of that nature. or that bc u hate her, that u don't feel bad for her at all.
i guess it depends on who you ask though.
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no you’re good! i realize i didn’t put any context i’m sorry abt that. thank you for your input!
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How is that disrespectful? She's a very disliked person and she still didn't deserve this tragedy. Just stating facts.
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No.
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short and to the point
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people say it cause ppl are quick to call you a tophia defender.
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Dumbass statement you can dislike someone and still have empathy. They're not mutually exclusive
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You can genuinely dislike someone & not wish bad on them. Wild concept 💀
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I don’t think it’s weird, maybe worded a little weirdly but not the sentiment. They’re basically saying they don’t know why they feel bad for her when she’s been so terrible (basically feeling empathy).
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yup exactly, because as much as we don’t like her, the least we can do is be respectful about the situation. although somehow i have a feeling that she’s never going to change ever, knowing the type of person she is
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Most likely not people think this situation will make her change while I think the opposite it’s gonna have stay the same or become even worst.
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She doesn't need empathy. She needs to snap out of her delusional BS and do the right thing for her and her family. She won't
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tophia just went thru something traumatic. she witnessed her brother get shot in the head. she deserves empathy even if she is shitty. it doesn’t matter who it is, that would make a normal human sick to their stomach knowing someone is going thru that. did you hear her story right after it happened? it was heartbreaking. i feel awful for her. you can lack empathy, but i don’t. she did not deserve to go thru this no matter how shitty she is.
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Considering there's people getting a little bit bothered about anyone expressing empathy i do not find it weird. You can dislike her and still have sympathy for this particular situation.
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Nah I don’t agree with them. They don’t understand that when the majority of ppl online hate you it’s for a reason. Expressing your dislike for her but still being sympathetic is not wrong, you can’t force ppl to like you. Also those same ppl will forget about her in a month and move onto something else.
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I understand why people provide the clarification because you provide someone empathy for a bad situation and they act like you are condoning their behavior. Life isn’t black and white people.
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I’ve seen people get their ass chewed out for just saying they feel bad. “i feel so bad for her” gets followed up with people rushing to tell them why they shouldn’t because of what kind of person she’s been so i think people prefacing their empathy is their way of avoiding that.
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No. Those tiktok people need to sit the fuck down somewhere.
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Can’t have empathy for someone who can’t see their own wrong doings and it’s blaming everyone else but refuses to self reflect she said people got them kicked out of their home when it’s clearly documented it started with her father not paying rent and then moved to them not paying rent
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yeah i just saw her most recent video… i’m appalled.
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I do not agree. Empathy doesn't even have to be shown. We crap on her here... obviously we don't like her.
We feel bad but she would be celebrating a trolls family's death the way tophia always does.-
welll… just bc tophia would do it, doesn’t make it right, yk? but yes i agree empathy does not have to be shown.
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Doesn't make it wrong either.
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to celebrate someone’s death? that’s wrong 💀
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No one is celebrating anyone's death. That is what she would do.
I'm sorry it happened but I'm not going to change my opinion because something bad happened. You can act a certain way because this tragedy happened but not me.
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right i was just pointing out that just bc tophia would celebrate someone’s death doesn’t mean we should have that mentality towards others. not saying that you do. but yes you’re free to your opinion
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i feel like people say it to be like “hey i’m not a defender… but”
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the need to clarify it is a little weird to me and so unnecessary (it’s backhanded af to me). but a lot of people instinctively say that so maybe people aren’t thinking it thru.
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i’m assuming it’s their way of saying that they don’t condone what she’s done, but still feel empathy for her. i don’t think it’s that weird to clarify that.
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It's a fear/anxiety response. People are so terrified that random strangers on the internet will dislike or reject them if they don't throw out that disclaimer, so they always have to attach it before saying anything remotely positive, nice, etc. Happens with literally every single controversial person when someone terrible and out of their control happens. People are too attached to online communities.
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I don't like tophiachu but I do like mamachu
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after what she said last night, i don’t feel bad for tophia anymore..
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i dont think its weird, its just people saying that they dont have to like her to feel empathy for her