Grieving
i know grieving is different for everybody, but the way she talks about donald is very… strange. to me, at least. she is very much emphasizing his loss of life in a way to benefit from it and garner sympathy.
from experience, it’s hard to actually say those words when you lose someone; death, dead, passed, even changing present tense to past tense is hard, but she is constantly trying to nail it in.
what do y’all think?
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i think you hit the nail on the head tbh
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she’s being a little performative
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Like always
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Shes using the situation to garner sympathy but not for emotional support but rather financial gain. She wants to get money from people. She will never change.
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I mean I could see this coming from a mile away if I’m being honest, a couple of days ago when Donald Jr died, I felt so bad for her, but deep down I knew that she was going to use this too her advantage, do I think that she is traumatized? Yes wouldn’t anyone be given this circumstance? I would never recover from seeing my dead brother in the passenger seat, I feel like social media is her way of coping because she has literally NOBODY too go to because her mother is in the hospital, her brother is dead, and her father is a schizophrenic off of his meds, so realistically the only place she knows to go is social media, when really it should be the LAST place to go during this time, I really thought a little sliver of hope that maybe this would turn a new leaf for her, nope. It’s incredibly unfortunate what she was gone thru these last few days and I feel so incredibly bad for her but at the same time I’m so upset and saddened by her behavior and using her brothers death like it’s a medal showing it off and using the victim card, getting clueless people who don’t know much about her to send her money it’s all just a stupid little cash grab to her, obviously her brother died but the fact that she’s using it too her advantage to con people out of there money to spend it on a whole lot of nothing agitates me on a whole other level, shame on her for disrespecting Donald Jrs death like that.
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It’s like an episode of black mirror, it’s so strange
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Her mind is just so poisoned by social media that she is will finally be able to say anything the blame it on his passing. Idc what anyone says. It’s been what? 2 days? and she’s already saying I’m saying these things cause my brother died… It took me about a whole year to get over a family loss and i’m still grieving everyday and I cant for the life of me imagine blaming my actions on such a fresh tragedy. I don’t know why people are still deluding themselves into thinking this will be a changing moment in her life when clearly it changed nothing!
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I think she’s saying what she thinks everyone wants to hear instead of how she actually feels, not that she isn’t grieving but I think she’s equally as afraid of saying something wrong than not being on the internet at all. I think she’s being honest when she said she feels guilty when she isn’t crying for him.
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Two things can be true! 1. She’s very traumatized idc who you are witnessing something like that would be terrible, let alone being your brother. And then not knowing what’s going on with your mom is terrifying! No one can say that she’s not grieving.
BUTTTTTT…. 2. She’s gonna cash in like she’s never cashed in before and she knows it. She always played the poor me card and this is her golden egg. She can miss him but she loves the attention more. We all know she’ll waste it tho so it’ll be short lived.
I seen this coming i should be ashamed to say it was my first thought after hearing what happened is she’ll use it to he benefit -
She used to talk about Donald Jr like he was her husband and responsible for taking care of her. Donald prob hated it too. But Marie prob told him off too. Marie only cares about Tophia.
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No one can convince me she isn't devastated. Some of the reactions I've seen to this news completely lack empathy, there's a huge disconnect because she's a lolcow. Do I think she wants money and attention? Sure.
Should you send your money? I won't myself but I wouldn't criticize you for doing it NOW of all times.
I guess what I'm saying is I don't understand the level of investment out of some users. I've enjoyed her antics but I'd never expect a mentally ill homeless woman to make rational decisions with money, especially navigating through grief.-
No one should send money whatsoever. Tophia needs to be like everyone else and provide for herself. If everyone went online and e-begged or expected handouts then no one would try anymore. She needs to use her resources instead of online hand outs.
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Of course. [Tophia is a histrionic personality.](https://www.reddit.com/r/tophiachutiktok/comments/1hsqsj4/psychology_of_tophiachu/) Everything has to be about her, all the time. She is pathological.
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I think maybe she's a sociopath at this point.
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i dont doubt she had genuine grief & sadness, but i feel lule she got over it privately almost immediately & turned to using it to garner sympathy/money because brotherchus friends probably arent giving her the money since they're genuinely using it for his funeral
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They prob planned on giving her what’s left over. I guess they don’t want Donald sr buried in Arlington either. Really sad as the son of a vet, they could bury Donald jr in Arlington and then his father with him later on. Free for the ashes and the burial. Not one person looked into it. I’m sure they told tophia(social workers) as they are very aware of it.
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It seems as if she is rather sad that she has lost a source of income and taxi driver for herself and her mother
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We knew this day would come but we always thought it would be Marie’s passing not the other way around. One day Big T was going to have to get a job either way. Big T lives in denial.
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I really think she’s a narcissist or sociopath. The way she even said she’d get her Marie dying. She ain’t all there.
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i’ve never been a fan of the way these terms have been tossed around in this sub as someone suffering from the personality disorder. i do not think she is someone with a serious mental illness such as previously mentioned; she comes off, to me, as someone who was just raised poorly, and is now stuck in their entitlement even through tragedy.
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Seriously, though. We already have a good idea of why Tophia is the way she is... I'm so over seeing these little comments slowly popping up about personality disorders yet nobody will point at which one they think she has. Oh... it's because she doesn't have one nor never claimed to be diagnosed with any... alright.
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I don't think we have the right to tell her how to grieve. What may be weird to us is genuine to her especially since we know she has a lot of mal adaptive behavior.
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I agree, it's disturbing to me. I feel like she is milking the tragedy already
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I think she keeps saying it because she doesn’t fully believe it. It will take a long time for her to process it and understandably so. We all cope and grieve differently.
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When I lost my mom, and i had my little gaggle of followers on instagram, i never really blamed them for her passing or saying that the sympathies came too late.
But everyone grieves differently ig😂🤷🏽
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She is clearly addicted to social media. Can’t go an hour without checking her phone. Even posting on her story right after the tragedy occurred. I believe that’s why she won’t get a job - it’ll keep her from constantly being on/checking her phone.
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Right now she's grieving the loss of her brother, and processing the trauma she went through, and trying to use that for extra sympathy/ attention/ money.
I think when she works through all this, the part that will cause the biggest devastation will be the loss of a provider. Donald didn't have much, but he was the only one working and providing the car(s) to live. When the effects of that really start to hit her, I'll think we'll be seeing something closer to the "true grief" people were expecting
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Nope this is the real her. You’re right she’s grieving the loss of a “provider” not a brother.
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All she seems to understand is social media. The only way she can express herself in any way is through social media and garnering her image. I genuinely think she’s horrified of this situation but she also has this green light in the back of her head of how much money she can make off this and how far she can drag this for her benefit. And she can prob go pretty far tbh