I can’t stand tophia anymore
I saw tophia latest insta story and fully listened to what she had to say but it really annoyed me to the point to respond back to her story explaining why she in the situation she is in with her family . She had so many opportunities and chances to change her life and actually go work and not let brotherchu be the only responsible adult who actually worked his ass off to provide for his mom and tophia and now that Donald is unfortunately gone , tophia has the balls to say that if we helped her sooner her brother would be still alive 😭?like hello you overbuilt school bus we tried helping you so many time with shelters and health insurance and even housing help and you keep saying that you don’t need help from us and that you will get a house soon with TikTok live money , I now don’t feel any sympathy for tophia expect for Marie who I hope recovers well but tophia is a lost cost at this point .
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Bro don't feed into her delusions man you'll just make it worse I promise
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I’m not feeing into her delusions, she is finna milk this for as long as she can and mfs already feel bad for her because of the TT comments/awareness pages, this sub and the one on KiwiFarms. She will get money because of pity. People in here were even offering to help pay for the funeral or donate to her and they hate her, you think strangers that hear about this aren’t gonna feel bad?😭
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You're mostly right. I just feel like she's going to pocket all of the money for her brother and just drop his body in a ditch on the side of the road.
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If she didn’t comprehend it before she won’t comprehend it now. Constantly repeating yourself is a waste of time. She is grieving right now and although I do think it’s extremely inappropriate to send messages like this to someone while they’re going through this process, I do hope maybe she’s starting to understand that this isn’t a game it’s a matter of life and death. Her mentioning that she plans on getting a car and license now gives me a small glimmer of hope. Unfortunately Donald is no longer here to be the sole provider so I’m sure she’s aware it’s either she steps up or she loses everything. Overall, I don’t think any message you send to her will compare to her having to sit next to her brother while he was bleeding out right next to her. That within itself probably set reality in. Not really sure why people are still trying to be logical with a grieving person, when the last thing in her mind is logic.
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while i agree this is inappropriate to send, i see op’s pov. and yes tophia wants a license and what’s to learn how to drive but expects us to pay for her car and her living expenses until she is able to. if people start doing that, then she’ll realize she can just keep living off of the people who are being sympathetic and make no changes. tophia is traumatized. and i get every grieving person grieves differently, but she’s starting to put the blame on us for what happened. this isn’t our fault and it’s not her fault either. it was a freak accident. we all see that. but her brother shouldn’t have been the only one working. i think she’s still going to use social media as a job bc she’s still posting on social media, yk? i do hope she will do what’s best and ik she can never get over from this, but learn how to navigate her life despite the tragedy she had to see.
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I can see where you’re coming from. I don’t feel blamed bc i didn’t do anything to contribute to her demise I’m not sure why other people feel blamed either, unless they were apart of the groups that were actively calling and harrassing her family and sending threats. I don’t understand why some people are taking the things she says so personally when we know it’s not their fault. Maybe I’m just a naturally unserious person, but half the stuff she says I don’t take to heart and just laugh off bc we all know at the end of the day whose fault this is. If anyone is donating that’s on them and if she uses this situation to continue to make irresponsible decisions it’s also no one’s fault but her own. Shes controls her own fate at this point. I feel like she is in the anger stage of grieve and so she’s trynna to put the blame on someone, but that isn’t a problem exclusive to just Tophia because many humans go through the anger and blame stage. They start to blame God, their friends,family, even themselves. Idk, the way I see it is if any other random stranger on the internet was actively causing their own problems and then tried to blame their followers whether they were famous or not I would just laugh it off because like okay? We all know if she chose to get a job and make money they wouldn’t had to have had to lived in the street and if she can’t see that at this point then I’m not sure she ever will.
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i don’t think anyone is taking what she says to heart, but they’re baffled she’s blaming us instead of the person who pulled the trigger. shes asking for money to buy a car and live in a home all while blaming her “haters”… she thinks the people who are trying to see her better herself are the haters. the ppl who feel blamed for what happened are the ones that just disliked tophia bc everyone else did or the ones that bullied her for things she can’t control… like her looks. i really hope this is a wake up call for her. i don’t like tophia but can we imagine her mental health? i mean look who raised her… you learn from your environment. i just hope she can overcome what she was taught and realize the world isn’t out to hurt her, we ultimately want to see her better herself. and if this isn’t a wake up call for her, then maybe there is no helping her.
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I agree with you 100%, but I don’t see why people are shocked by this behavior if this is how shes always been. Maybe it’s just high hopes that a situation this bad would finally get her to realize she needs to do some deep rooted change. A good chunk of us are just trying to get her to do better for herself . You can lead a horse to water, but can’t force it to drink. I wanna give her some time to see how she’s handles this situation in regards to working and I pray that if she does find a job people will let her have it without calling and getting her fired. However, if she still decides she’s not gonna change her life for the better I think people need to completely disassociate themselves from her and just understand that not everyone can be saved. Some people genuinely don’t want better for themselves..
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She probs got an influx of texts since her brothers death and you think she's gonna listen to you??
What ever happening to stop touching the poo
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just leave her alone jfc yes there’s misplaced blame (normal when grieving), no we weren’t responsible to get them off the streets we literally all know this, but sending her paragraphs whining about her Instagram story at a time like this is genuinely so crazy to me. There is absolutely nothing this girl could say right now that could get under my skin enough to contact her 3 days after her brother was murdered right in front of her.
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Fr. Leave the girl alone for a while
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Right!?? Like some people are kinda being out of touch just bc of who she is? Most people start to blame others when grieving. The first story’s she ever posted she blamed herself and now she’s blaming others. This is expected.
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Now really isn’t the time man you should have just left it alone
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Say it louder for the people in the back
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You know working is good therapy. It gets your mind off things of only temporarily.
I’m interested to see this play out because I see either of these happening:
- someone gifting her a decent amount of money due to this situation
- her profiting the money from his friends and cremating brotherchu opposed to a funeral to keep more $ for herself and mamachu
- her profiting off BOTH GFMs
And I wanna see what happens and how long she’ll have said amount of money. I want to see if she’ll either fuck it up due to financial stupidity and go back to begging or if she’ll genuinely do right.