Mamachu
How likely do you think Marie will end up in a home after she gets out of the hospital? I do understand that this world hates homeless people so its also very likely they will just stick her back out on the streets but then again there could be a mandate by elder protective services? I hardly feel sympathy for Tophia and I could not careless what happens to her but Marie is a sick old woman who is barely even competent.
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that family is like truly doomed dude
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Brotherchu was the glue of the family and now that he’s gone, it’ll be a downward spiral unless Tophia grows up and gets a job.
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The thing is that she won't. It really is like a dumpster fire. Even after her brother was shot and killed right in front of her she still hasn't change. She will live like this and die like this because of her own choice to stay this way. She is choosing hardship.
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I am ashamed that I gave her the benefit of the doubt
I am ashamed that I thought that maybe this situation would change her a little bit to be a better person.
I am ashamed that I thought she could use some help.
But in those moments, I was blinded by my big heart and empathy I have towards others.
The only thing I still stand by is, Donald didn't deserve to go out like that, for his crimes of trying to get with teens, he should have did time in jail.But she to her core is ungrateful, feels entitled to live off everyone else's dime while she sits on her ass filling her face with food and spending money on literal junk.
She is mentally disabled in some ways, but she does have the mental ability to at least try . Its her ugly attitude that holds her behind.-
Do not feel ashamed for giving a person grace. There are people who will always try to take advantage of your empathy coming from a super emotional social work student. You did what any good person would do especially considering the seriousness of the situation anyone would give her the benefit of the doubt. Now this only cements how terrible of a person Tophia is.
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sadly she’s never going to grow out of her tween small minded mindset. It’s such a shame…
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He was the only one even trying to work.
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Reminds me of a comment someone left tophia on a live a few months ago about how her family is facing generational karma and she went on a rant about it.
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they really are though. what is there to rant or defend about tophia? sadly she will never wake up out of her dream world
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She went on a rant about how that can’t be true because she has “rich and famous family members “ 😭 she just doesn’t get it.
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LMAO SHE IS DELUSIONAL!!
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At this point, it really depends on what the hospital and elder protective services decide. If they determine Marie is unable to care for herself, they could place her in a nursing home or assisted living facility, but that usually requires either family cooperation (which Tophia is unlikely to provide) or a state intervention. Given that she’s been living in a car, severely ill, and unable to advocate for herself, there’s a strong case for social services stepping in.
However, the sad reality is that the system isn’t built to save people like Marie unless someone actively pushes for it. If there’s no legal intervention and Tophia insists on taking her back, they might just discharge her right back into homelessness. And considering Tophia’s track record of neglect and selfishness, Marie’s condition will only get worse. If Marie were to be placed somewhere, Tophia would likely fight it not out of genuine care, but because it would mean losing access to whatever little resources her mom brings in, (which means enabling her and emotional support).
Long-term? It’s a toss-up between Marie being forced into state care due to her deteriorating health or being dragged along in whatever downward spiral Tophia is on. Either way, it’s not looking good for her.
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I agree with you 100 percent I stand by from a nursing Background.
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I think that’s what the doctors will recommend, like a rehab nursing home facility but I see her signing herself out against medical advice to be with Tophia. And she’s not equipped to take care of her. She doesn’t know how to do wound care, doesn’t have a clean place for Marie to live and finish recovery infection free. Tophia will be the death of her. Literally.
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Tophia: "Quit saying I can't care for my mAAAm. I've been feeling out paperwork." We have seen her spelling. I feel bad for the paperwork
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i was a caregiver for my mAAAm when she was undergoing cancer treatment and recovering. tophia is in for an extremely rude awakening. i just turned 20.
not to trauma dump, but for context: caregiving became my LIFE. my immediate family COULD help but they refused to, claiming it was their way of "coping" with their "trauma" about my mom's diagnosis, essentially leaving her in the dust and avoiding any responsibility. so it was just me. she is mistaken if she thinks she can livestream while being a caregiver! caregiving is around the clock care sometimes but i imagine ESPECIALLY with marie's injuries! i had to wake up, get my mom and i ready, give my mom her medication, made sure she eats, kept track of her appointments, help her shower and more. if tophia had a full time JAWWB, she would HAVE to quit! there's absolutely no way!!!!!
you ever fought with a 60 year old lady over drinking water so her kidney doesn't fail because of chemotherapy???? I HAVE!
sorry for ranting, i just hate when ANYONE acts like caregiving is easy (because lets be real THATS WHAT SHES DOING) because they are very very very wrong!!!!!!
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I am in-home care, but caring for your family is much more complicated because it is your loved one 🥰 I am so glad your mom has been in remission congratulations
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Caregiving is definitely not easy. I am glad your mom had you. Tophia wouldn’t take care of Marie like you did your mom. Marie would try to take care of her own self and the thing La she couldn’t do on her own she would neglect. Caregiving is a tough job when your mind and heart is there. It’s underpaid, under appreciated job it’s hard work and most caregivers neglect their own needs to take care of others needs.
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Your mom is very lucky to have you. Caregiving is not easy at ALL. I am glad to hear that she is in remission and I truly hope things only look up for the both of you.
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Tell your mom she’s a badass for sure
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She’ll give her Mountain Dew to subdue their coughing
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Omg, when she said she was giving her soda for it 😭 in what world and chocolate for her cold? omg
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LOLLLL
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ur so right its just sad becuz mamachu was the only one I really felt bad for.
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She’s going to get disability now + GFM money. Tophia will be balling out in a motel with Mamachu until GFM runs dries. Then full circle again.
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Then she will truly fade into obscurity because no one will put up with her bullshit anymore. SO MANY people have tried to help her even before she was homeless. Its so sad and more pathetic if anything.
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AGREED! 100% i feel so sickly and sad thinking about this poor elderly woman. I will say she’s not completely innocent (none of the family is) but in this situation she needs to be put in a facility that takes better care of her than her own 30 year old daughter with a 14 year old mindset. :(
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14 year old mindset? You're being generous 😂😂😂
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Exactly. I wonder if Tophia ever has moments of self awareness. Does she ever think, "Damn I am 30 years old, jobless, broke, homeless and still living with my elderly mother and I have amounted to literally nothing." I doubt she does. Its amazing how much she lacks self-awarness. Mamachu will die if she goes back to a motel and not a long term care home.
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I don’t think Marie is going to have a quick recovery. She was already in such poor health that a shot to the face is not something she’s going to bounce back from for a long time if ever. This is life changing. Tophia is going to be on her own for a long time and she needs to realize that. She keeps saying she’s waiting for her mom to get better before she does anything like get real. She’s going to be last year’s charity case before that happens so she really needs to think about herself and only herself.
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Hopefully she does some reflecting during that time. If she would just get off the damn internet none of this would have happened. Its so easy Tophia is the only person making it hard for herself.
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It’s all speculation because we haven’t heard from mama yet. How do we know she hasn’t thought long and hard about her situation. We don’t know her state of mind, or what stage of grieving she’s in. Maybe it hasn’t affected Tophiachu much, but maybe her mom has had a change of heart 🤷🏻♀️
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I hope so. Hopefully she realizes her daughter is not equipped to take care of her.
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Ok in Florida if two people live together and one is on Medicaid, they pay 15$ hr to some families for elder care usu the daughter. That’s Medicaid anyway. They may set them up for something low income medical housing for seniors and Tophia can loss be pain to care for her??? Pls any social workers correct me bec it’s been a few yrs since I’ve known of anyone doing that. I heard it was stilll a thing.
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Im a soial work student actually and it just varies from state to state, honestly. They could likely get someone such as a case worker to help them manage that kind of money. I believe Mamachu if she was not already on it can be put on SSI or disability and even get SNAP and TANF benefits but that is if she does not get put in a home ofc.
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I don't think Marie will leave Tophia's side. I think she will refuse. She's probably afraid Tophia will be murdered or raped if she's living alone on the streets. I mean, there's nothing Marie could do stop it, but still.
Mamachu doesn’t want to be separated from Tophia, so the only way she’ll be in a home is if Tophia is with her.