Suicide Support For Tophia
Is there any way to get Tophia mental health resources or have someone by her side in case she attempts self-harm?
Tophia just lost her entire family today:
- Brother was killed before her eyes.
- Mother driven off, shot, and hospitalized.
- Father arrested and taken to jail.
This is on top of all that she currently deals with:
- Homelessness
- Abject poverty
- Racism and sexism
- Hateful attacks from people online who hate her because??? And take their daily frustrations out on her.
This would be enough to push a lot of people to really dark places. While a lot of people are here following what a quick trend, this is someone’s actual life. And it has been fucking rough for a long time. There is going to be unimaginable guilt for running away and potentially being an only survivor. There is going to be PTSD when she tries to sleep at night. There will continue to be financial hardships.
If you guys want to continue being shitty humans then this post is not for you. But for those that have some degree of empathy, could you please help me identify mental health resource in or around her area? Wellness checks would be very helpful. I am personally going to donate 1-2K to the situation but honestly I think the mental/emotional toll is the heaviest burden here.
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Totally agree with you mate. I am going to do exactly this: buy things from an amazon wish list, gift uber credits, maybe put toward a hotel fund that I see going around.
Appreciate the concern and helpful suggestion, truly.
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You are an absolute angel.
Genuine kindness can do someone a lot of good .
Hating on her and being mean will not bully her into being a good person.
I'm holding on to hope this situation will change her
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You’re incredible for doing this. It’s very intelligent too. If I had access to proper funds I’d have helped but all I can do is boost the actions of the benevolent .
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your intentions are great but donating 1-2k is honestly a lot
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They’re not donating anything lol. Just karma points farming.
If you’re gonna donate, you’d just do it. Not weirdly flex about it then crash out when people don’t care
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They’re not donating anything lol. Just karma points farming.
If you’re gonna donate, you’d just do it. Not weirdly flex about it then crash out when people don’t care
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Depends on your income. For me, it’s not.
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i could not fathom giving money directly to somebody with her history of scamming, all while i don’t think she deserved what happened obviously.
if you want to donate an obsene amount of money that badly, go give it to her brothers friends trying to give her and her mom a proper burial.
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Give it to me then lmao. I'll buy weed and pizza huts out the ass until it's gone, but yk what? At least I'm honest about how I'd spend it. Mark my words, any money she gets will not go to a funeral or therapy or counselling or rent or ANYTHING useful. It'll be taco bell crunch wraps.
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fr, if you got money to burn, imma roll up at your expense lmao, I could understand donating to a 3rd party to organise the funeral, but giving them money directly is about the dumbest thing you could do, honestly
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Like be fucking for real why does this person think tophia would pay for a funeral instead of splurging on random shit to ignore how she feels?
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that’s good to hear then
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Hey man, it’s your money and I think it’s very generous of you OP ❤️I wish I could do more, tophia has always baffled me but no one deserves that.
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Glad to hear good will. I may delete that part of the post because I just need resources people may be aware of that she can use and not attention on what I’m doing.
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Geez, if 1-2k isnt a lot to you, what do you do for work?
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yeah good idea, go a head, it wooooon't backfire atttt allllll
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Donating to someone evil, couldn’t be me. Go right ahead
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There’s no way you got 37 downvotes for wanting to donate omg
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Do not donate!!!! You don’t know her either and she has also shown what she does when she gets money. She never puts it into bettering herself. She is like a drug addict when you give them money - they will buy drugs. Best to give her food MAYBE but do not waste your money on her.
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I mean, I could say the same about you. I bet you have an hourly job, if that, a small home, no advanced degree, and you spend some amount of time online. Why don’t you better yourself? If I gave you the same money, you probably wouldn’t do anything productive with it. So why would I listen to you? Lol
I’m not idiot. I’m going to help get her an Amazon Wishlist and grab things from a list for her and send them to a safe location where she can get them. I’m not just going to hand some stranger a wad of cash.
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Speaking like Tophia yourself and assuming things. You two fit like a glove, or a rose toy.
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You’re a weirdo, dude. Did you just come here to shame people with less money or something?
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Is that you in the profile pic? Lmao Sounds like you are projecting. You be safe.
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It’s Joji, but ok.
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why would it matter if it was? also their bio clearly says “male, black” and that’s not a black male but ok you really had to just get that in there huh
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Are you slow???
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Ooh not you crashing out
Those door dash orders are waiting to be picked up. Get to it please. Folks are hungry
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You know funerals and heath care is expensive right?
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There are resources available for homeless people lol. No one will just leave them to rot. That’s the issue, why is she already e begging, bringing up her PayPal scam again. She will never change unfortunately.
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You don’t know that. Things like this change people and makes one open their eyes. Give her some grace, she just lost her brother, her only friend probably
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And you also don’t know if she will even change at all. It’s best to wait and see after a while what she does but again - their situation was not our problem. Countless of people tried to help and tell her what to do to better herself and she constantly refused. This is her karma and is her wake up call. The internet has nothing to do with this and she needs to be an adult and figure this out on her own. Thousands of people lose loved ones in the same way and are in her situation who need the money more - just cuz she was a tik tolerable doesn’t mean she deserves the money more.
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Being homeless and an internet lolcow was her karma. Her brother being murdered in front of her is a tragedy. I personally won’t donate, but I can understand why others would under these circumstances.
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She’s absolutely an adult, but she’s also an adult with clear intellectual limitations. This does not excuse her actions, but it’s a reason as to why she is the way she is. She did not have the necessary support system to help her progress as an adult, because yes there’s a lot of adults with incapabilities that still have jobs and so forth. So yes, despite her being an adult and doing wrong things, I feel bad for her. I hope this situation brings her the necessary help she needs for both her and Marie. Social services, housing, and or counseling. I can’t even imagine what her brothers death will do to their already warped mental health
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u got 0 empathy
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Wait and see until what? Until she is also dead? "Their situation was not our problem" yes it wasn't, and it still isn't. But this kind of thinking and selfishness is why the world is the way it is. There's NO HARM in supporting Tophia financially through this. If she blows all the money on patty melts who freaking cares anyway?? Her brother just died jfc. Id buy her 100s if I could just to keep her on this earth for another day because if this happened to me I simply would not make it
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Nobody is obligated to financially support and maintain another adult.
Being coddled is how she got here in the first place
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That lol. So many people go through tragedies and don’t feel entitled to beg for money online. She is quite privileged as in she has an internet presence. There are also so many resources available for homeless people. No one will leave her to rot trust me. That’s how communities are. Instead of trying to scam people again with her PayPal, she should be looking for free resources.
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And she’s still grifting instead of looking for resources that I’m sure the hospital and police (along with her viewers) have given her, evident by her latest story.
Some are gonna say she shouldn’t look into anything right now cos she’s grieving but clearly she isn’t too distraught to post on instagram to continue to scam people.
They’ll see.
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This is her karma tf she lost her brother. Thousands of people lose loved ones every day. Wow you have a cold heart. I hope you never experience what Tophia is going through.
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No one deserves to be murdered but he was also talking to underage girls. And he abused Angie. The more I remember about their antics, the less I feel sympathy.
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She just made an update video talking about money instead of, idk, an update on the life altering shit that just happened.
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Wanting to help her is good, but Tophia is absolutely notorious for spending money on things that don’t matter
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Wait, what? You dont know why people hate her? She's a pedophile (proven multiple times) and animal abuser (also proven multiple times). The video of one of her family members beating their dog literally keeps me up at night. Not everyone deserves empathy.
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The entitlement, laziness, and racism are probably what get me the most
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Just Google “mental health resources in or around Albuquerque” tf
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If you don’t want to be helpful just say that. I have Googled it. I have a list of those things. Now how about small, on the ground resources that don’t pay into SEO because they’re tiny?
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Google that too then. Honestly I think you just wanted us to know you’re giving her 2 grand 😂
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Spam comments. Reported for being intentionally unhelpful and argumentative.
Stay blessed.
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Lmfao mad bc you know I’m right
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You’re mad because they’re right? All of this information is readily available to you.
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You could put $2k towards his burial. His friend has a GoFundMe.... Why would you give someone who is financially illiterate and has put bullshit over her own family money directly?
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Spending 1-2k on someone who don’t know personally is insane wprk
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Like bro what are you trying to prove?
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that he’s ballin
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Definitely not balling
People who flex online almost never have it like that
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STOP donating directly to her people she is neither responsible nor mentally capable of using that money wisely. Rent a room for her or directly donate to the funeral home. She is already making posts about her cash app.
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Do not send her money. She has a history of misusing donations for personal wants instead of actual needs. She once ran a fundraiser to avoid eviction, then spent the money on a convention instead of keeping a roof over her head.
No matter how tough things are, giving her money is a mistake. If you want to help, send her info on resources—but she’s refused public assistance before and prefers to spend all day on TikTok live, e-begging.
People have shown her empathy, but they also see the pattern. Time and time again, she rejects real help while misusing donations—she was even scamming on Cash App for double cheeseburgers. It’s not about lacking empathy; it’s about recognizing reality.
Even when facing eviction, she still chose Comic-Con over housing for herself, her elderly mother, and her mentally challenged father. At some point, it’s not about sympathy—it’s about accountability. She’s an adult who refuses responsibility, and no amount of donations will change that.
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Hell no, she's a nasty pedophile who finally got the God-Smack that was coming to her.
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Insane take.
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Normal and in fact, Biblical take actually! 1 Kings 18:26-28 for more information
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Isn’t there a version where the children get their father drunk and have s3x with him
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I don’t know. We should ask her crackhead father but he’s in jail at the moment
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Watching teen Asian porn featuring adult actors doesn’t actually justify what happened to Tophia and her family.
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Oh yes it does.
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I think it’s time to log off, spend some time in the real world, and start understanding nuance.
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No nuance for pedophiles, sorry! I'm starting to think you might be one too since you insist on thinking she doesn't absolutely deserve this.
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The actors were absolutely not adults, keys
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and you know they were adult actors how? did you also watch the teen asian porn video?🤔
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I’m making an assumption based on the fact that “teen” is, unfortunately, one of the most popular genres of legal porn. Viewing this objectively and in context doesn’t equal endorsement of Tophia’s actions. Being a creep doesn’t mean you deserve to see your family shot in front of you.
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where did i say that she deserved to see her brother shot?? i’m talking about her watching actual asian teen porn. she was on x videos which is infamous for being poorly moderated, and there is a much better chance that it actually teenagers than adult actors. stop giving creeps the benefit of the doubt.
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People are so gross it’s disgusting makes me think that they have no one who loves them
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She has to accept the help. I’m sure she knows some of these resources. Remember she chose to live in a car instead of using her city and state’s resources. She also refused to move to a different city or town to a place where they weren’t blacklisted.
I do wonder if they get any benefits through Papachu or even the state like SSI.
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I know you’ve heard this a bunch but if you do end up donating to Tophia directly. There’s an extremely high chance that money will be used and wasted on everything that isn’t what listed.
My advice would be to wait until someone trustworthy comes and is able to manage the money for her thru a gofundme or if you’re really desperate donate to her cashapp.
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I think it's really important for someone to get her some mental health resources, maybe try reaching out to aunt karen since it seems like she is in contact.. She is very likely alone for the first time in her life and that is not good when you're dealing with all this.
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I’m shocked she doesn’t have a social worker already. Either she doesn’t know how to navigate poverty (which is hard, there’s not exactly a handbook) or she’s refusing the help. I think if she doesn’t know how to go about poverty the best you can do is try and navigate her towards resources. 211 is the number to call for some of these resources or at least some direction, but you can’t make her call.
I don’t think she’s able to care for herself, she’s shown that (I don’t think her ridiculously spending is just because she’s a bad person — I don’t think she has the capacity to manage her own funds) but I don’t think she’s actually been diagnosed with anything which could make becoming something like a ward of the state hard. My uncle struggled like Tophia but he was also an alcoholic so eventually he became a ward of the state and they were able to get him housing, a little job, etc. And he was okay. Not on the street in anymore. I don’t know if Tophia qualifies to become a ward of the state as of right now, but she honestly should be.
It’s your money and she obviously needs help, I’m just not sure if she’s going to be smart with that money which is why she really needs someone to be in control of it because if not the cycle is just going to repeat and she’ll be on the streets forever.
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She has refused all help I've tried talking to Marie directly as well with ALL the resources available and a game plan with a social worker but she refused. They want to do it themselves.
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getting her to accept the help is a whole other thing fr. just donate so they can have the money for a funeral
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Tophia i feel is incapable of the thought of suicide, it’s just not her
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Are you still trying give Tophia $2k?
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It’s OPs money to do as she pleases and well she’s in hospital aside from bills it might be nice to have a lil grocery money well mamachu is hospitalized
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She is not suicidal, she just used that for attention in the past. People who are actually suicidal don’t announce it to the world
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saying she isn’t suicidal after what just happened is honestly insane to me
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Not always, this comment is really insensitive. You do not know what Tophia is going through no one does. But to be so harsh saying she is not suicidal she has used it for attention. It’s just not a right thing to say or even think about regarding someone. Someone who has experienced such a traumatic life event. Shame on you
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and you’re not her, yes she baited but the recent events could have her genuinely considering it
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Oh so now you guys wanna care about her and her possible suicidal ideations? 😂 community switches up real quick when just last week I’m sure everyone was wishing the worst to happen to her
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Gross generalisation of people
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because we knew it was empty promises/threats based on her past behaviour? like? how is that hard to grasp, she baited multiple times and we knew she’ll never do it, but now that this life-changing tragedy has happened to her she might actually go through with it
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nope, just saying anyone would be suicidal after what happened to her. sorry you can’t realise that 🤷♀️
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would LOVE for you to show where i wished bad on her, genuinely
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Now don’t blame other people. You yourself are being horrible now.
She lost her goddamn brother.
He was shot in the head.
In front of her.And even then all you think about is that she will not use the money to better herself? If I were in her position I probably wouldn’t, too.
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not even last week. literally up until the moment she posted that first unfortunate IG story. and not even then! because people thought she was lying, lol.
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She’s a narcissist. People like her will never do that, she already baited people so many times. It just gets tiring hearing it.
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That lol, she also never actually cared for her mum or brother prior to this event. She only cares about herself, I hope she has realised how anything can happen but according to her “if my mother died I would just move on”…
She is unredeemable until she makes the effort to improve her situation and get help.
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Going to report your comment as I believe it intentionally spreads hateful information about another person. You stay blessed though.
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Going to report your comment as I believe it intentionally spreads hateful information about another person. You stay blessed though.
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you're a subscriber. and that's good. i'm glad yall are coming through for her.
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I don’t subscribe to or follow her at all. But I have seen posts come up in my socials and learned of this SubReddit through that. I’ve always been disgusted by the people who leave nasty comments to other people and they seem to follow her like mosquitos.
Hope people who do follow her are looking out.
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She has wished death and made death threats against people. Educate yourself before thinking she is "innocent".
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And she is an animal abuser lol. I was sad when I found out about this tragedy but then I remembered what type of people they are.
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I can’t tell you not to donate if it’s what’s been put on your heart but I would recommend finding out how to directly pay for her needs. If you’re donating for her brother’s funeral costs, pay a funeral home directly. If you’re paying for her to have a room, find out how to pay the motel itself. Uber/Lyft gift cards or some kind of bus pass if you want to pay for transportation, or maybe finding a way to get her clothes, hygiene things, etc. My advice isn’t out of ill will, just Tophia’s track record of lacking the ability to effectively budget money.