the gofundme situation is not that deep
just imagine you lost half of your family in the most horrible way possible and on top of that you have nowhere to go, no one to confide in that u actually trust enough. ON TOP of all of that, you now have to possibly worry abt medical bills accumulating every minute that passes while still in extreme poverty.
THEN its brought to your attention that the ppl who actually want to help you are getting scammed by trolls who are making fake gofundmes… so you make it aware to ur supporters NOT to send money to random gofundmes but instead DIRECTLY send money TO THE PERSON WHO NEEDS THE HELP…
then ppls immediate reaction to that is “all she cares abt is money where is ur mom”….
lets use our brains for a second INSTEAD of immediately finding something to attack tophia for.
idk if yall think she got rich overnight and is now trying to con ppl out of money bc thats most certainly not the case. she is still broke :) she is still struggling financially ON TOP of her mother being shot and her brother murdered. yet when she wants to come out and say how to PROPERLY financially support them then yall wanna turn around and say “all she cares sbt is money”. LIKE SHE IS LITERALLY WARNING YALL TO HELP YALL NOT GET SCAMMED AND SOMEHOW SOME OF YOU HAVE TURNED IT AROUND TO PAINT HER AS THE SCAMMER. make it make sense.
tophia needs financial support more then ever right now, and her correcting and calling out the wrongs of other ppl who are literally taking ur money is all of a sudden her scamming ppl?
her fucking mother is in the hospital and yall rlly think at this time, tophia is thinking of ways to scam us. yall are worse than the ppl yall call out.
but if she didnt say anything then ppl would ask “where did all the money go” NOT TO HER BC IF SHE CALLS OUT HOW YALL ARE BEING SCAMMED THEN IT MUST BE HER SHE IS THE SCAMMER. in yalls eyes, she cant do anything right.
also, she doesnt owe ANY of us an explanation on HER MOTHERS status. just bc someone puts 80% of their life on social media doesnt mean we are obligated to see the 20%. she will update us abt her MOTHER when SHE wants to. maybe one of the reasons she doesn’t want to say anything else abt her mother is bc of how FAST yall judge and over analyze EVERYTHING she does.
if u have a problem with tophia making sure she gets proper financial help in this time when she needs it the most… ouu diva that says more abt u then it does her.
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exactly, this is my exact point. like trust me i get it, tophias past with money isnt good, but also the circumstances they were under are completely different then they are now.
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Yeah personally my logic is, if you want to help donate for funeral costs then Donald’s friends gofundme is probably the better choice. If you wanna help Tophia herself then donate to her but also be aware that you’ll have no control over how she uses that money.
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I think it's better for the money to be sent for a 3rd party that will then assist the family with what they need.
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insane that this 3rd party must be random car meet guys who knew donald but, i trust them immensely more 😭😭 their post seemed very genuine and only got backed up by tophia today
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tophia has been given money for years. she hasn’t used a cent of that money to better herself, her family, or her situation.
she rubbed it in our faces how we have to work minimum wage jobs to provide for ourselves and our families.
any money given to her will not be used in good faith nor for its intended purpose, just like it hasn’t been this ENTIRE time. the go fund me created by friends is the best chance since we know what tophia does with money.
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yeah but this kind of tragedy can change anyone, even Tophia. Tophia is far from perfect but this WILL be the wake up call for her, yeah she spent the money she was given to selfishly in the past but shes still human and has deep down love for her family even after treating Maria poorly in the past which im not justifying but she will hopefully set her priorities straight and provide her family what she needs after such a tragedy
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you have a lot of faith in her thinking this will be a wake up call for her.
the most likely thing this does is show her she doesn’t need to get a job, she has people willing to give her money out of sympathy for her situation. her brothers death brings a lot of eyes to her and most will not know of her history.
she‘s shown us the kind of person she is. we should believe her.
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yea and her mother wasnt shot, her brother wasnt dead. like yall are acting like this situation isnt gonna change her. yea lets keep holding her to this standard and NOT help her just bc we think she is still a scammer. take ur feelings out of this, its not abt u or how u feel. if u dont want to give her money then great dont, but dont make it out as tophia will STILL scam ppl when her fucking family just got attacked.
she is in a horrible situation right now and ppls response to her getting help is “well she is a scammer the money wont go to a good place”
absolutely disgusting.tophia literally has nothing right now, and neither does her mom. before when she WAS scamming then yes i would agree. she literally has nothing right now, making sure she gets some help isnt a bad thing. yet yall would choose to NOT help her just bc u think she would scam us instead of helping her a little and possibly have it go to actually helping her or possibly it not. at the end of the day tho AT LEAST u had the intentions of helping her INSTEAD of letting her suffer just bc u feel she wont use the money correctly.
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she’s STILL broke, which proves she cannot make financial decisions that benefit her or her family. she is incapable of prioritizing her needs over her wants. she’s always had nothing and has felt no sense of urgency to change that.
she literally left shelters because she felt she was better than what they could offer her.
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She will never be self sufficient because people keep doing this . Once that money runs out and she STILL refuses to work, we will see what’s going to happen smh. And we will see what everyone says then
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no one said she was a smart person 😂 she can mishandle money but still need help. like 2 can be true at the same time. helping her is a choice, acknowledging her situation she is in currently and wanting to help a little bit is a choice. acting like we all need to give the bitch a dollar is insane but its how yall are acting. dont wanna help her? cool dont, but dont automatically assume that bc she needs financial help now that she wont do it.
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she literally misused funds given to her to help keep her family in a home on tickets to comic con.
bettering herself, her situation, and her family has never been a priority to her. she sat in that car and belittled viewers, saying she prefers the car, it gives her freedom.
she has never had the intention of using money on anything but her selfish desires and wants. she’s needed financial help for YEARS. what does she have to show for it?
many people who need help DON’T misuse funds given to them in good faith. they use it for its intended purpose. she never has.
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She literally will scam people, what do you not understand? Tophia is mentally challenged, I don’t think she even understands how to manage money and that’s why she is so bad at it. She needs a care taker because her mother is too old to do it and tophia is mentally incompetent to manage any money
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When she ends up being the same Tophia as always in 4 months, don’t change up your tune . If you want to give her money then do that but don’t criticize others for not feeling comfortable with her getting a personal go fund me or her receiving money directly .
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she’s never gonna be the same again. idk what that’s gonna look like but having lost my younger brother myself in a similar manner, your whole entire life is changed after something like that. she will never be the same person inside again before all of this.
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the way yall are criticizing ppl who want to help her? the way yall are criticizing her for warning the ppl helping her that they are getting scammed? if she ends up being the same tophia in 4 months than okay. at least u know u were a good person with good intentions and TRIED to help her.
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Do whatever you want with your hard earned money . But it’s not like people are pulling this out of thin air . She has shown in the past that she will not put donations and money given to her to good use . When I see someone for who they are, I believe them . Help her all you want but don’t come on here complaining about her in a few months when she tells everyone that she will not work and that she has no money left .
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You’re contributing to her not being self sufficient but then will complain later on that she’s not self sufficient . Make it make sense
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i am contributing to her fucking mother not having to worry abt returning to the streets with nowhere to go when she gets discharged. atp fuck tophia, her mother doesn’t deserve to return back to the streets all bc ppl dont wanna run the risk of tophia using that money towards something else. no one is saying to from here on out donate her money every week. NOW tho, it wouldn’t hurt to help her.
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Idk why ppl are acting like donating to a group not even managed by Tophia herself to bury her brother is donating money directly to her so she can go spend it on herself like 😭 there’s such a big difference and it’s not rocket science. It’s not like ima donate to her every week, it’s solely to help funeral costs bc I know they’re expensive
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right, like a one time donation isnt a fucking lifetime subscription. have SOMEWHAT of a sense of logic.
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I’m not donating to someone who talked down on 9-5 workers, talked down on homeless shelters, scammed people, and said she wouldn’t help contribute to get a apartment for her family’s security. Its unfortunate that handouts are always given to the most ungrateful people.
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omg its almost as if no one is forcing u to send her anything :0
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I surely hope to spread awareness and dissuade people from donating directly to the wrong person and not be as gullible like you!
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You might have a point—if it weren’t already well-documented that she created a fundraiser a few years ago to prevent her family from being evicted, only to take the money and spoil herself at a Comic-Con instead. She still ended up evicted, and in the process, subjected her mother to horrible living conditions while completely neglecting her father’s needs. She made no effort to get him the medical care or assisted living support he needed to manage his mental disorder.
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again—don’t let this tragedy distract you from who she really is. She has a history of taking money, no matter the intention behind it, and using it for her own personal gain. If she couldn’t even bother to get a part-time job to help keep a roof over her head before, why would anyone believe that this tragedy will suddenly make her responsible?
The most important thing right now is to send her resources—not money—that can help her get into a stable living situation. But let’s be real: she likely won’t take those either, and at this rate, she’s either going to step up (which I highly doubt) or become a ward of the state.
Her mother needs to be transported immediately from the hospital to a medical or assisted living facility where she can be properly rehabilitated and receive the care her daughter is completely incapable of providing. No elderly woman should be urinating and defecating on the sidewalk next to a car parked on the streets of Albuquerque.
Sending her money won’t fix anything—it’s been done time and time again, and every time, she’s taken advantage of people’s sympathy for her own selfish needs. This tragedy doesn’t change the reality of the situation: she’s a 30-year-old child with no financial stability or planning skills.
If you want to help, send her something that can only be used for necessities. A grocery store gift card that’s only redeemable for food—not cash, not Temu, not makeup kits—is a much better option. If she wastes it on junk food instead of actual groceries, that’s on her, but at least the money wouldn’t go toward more frivolous purchases.
The priority should be connecting her with state and community resources that offer temporary housing and real assistance—without handing her money that she’ll inevitably waste. Helping shouldn’t mean enabling.
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Exactly. We are talking about a person that was okay with her sick mother sleeping out in a car during freezing temperatures . She would rather sleep on the streets than work and pay rent on time like a normal person. Why does anyone think it’s a good idea to hand this woman money?
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This tragedy has made some people feel guilty for stating the truth—something they’ve been saying for years: Tophia is an immature adult who refuses to grow up. Instead of using common sense and realizing that giving her money is the worst possible thing they could do, they continue to do it anyway. And now, they’re trying to shame people who suggest providing actual resources instead of direct monetary assistance—resources that would prevent her from abusing or misusing the help she’s given.
But the moment you bring this up, they get angry, as if her brother’s tragic passing somehow erases the fact that she has let her sick, elderly mother live in squalor for years. Most recently, that meant her mother urinating and defecating outside of a car on the street.
Let’s be real—she could have gotten a part-time job when they were in the motel. It would have covered their stay with no issue, allowed her to sit online all night doing TikTok live if she wanted to, and given her insurance benefits to help her mother. If she had done that, people wouldn’t have been on her case nearly as much.
But instead of looking at the situation objectively, some people are using this tragedy as an excuse to waste more money on someone who has proven, time and time again, that she will not use it responsibly.
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Giving donations is not something that is sustainable if she refuses to work . People won’t be able to donate forever and the money will eventually run out . And what will tophia say then? That she won’t work because she doesn’t have to . And then we are back to square one.
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Everything you said is 100% true. People are using this tragedy as an excuse to ignore reality and facts, just so they can justify giving her money out of guilt for the things they said while trolling.
Her current situation is entirely her own doing—not the result of her brother’s passing, but because she refuses to grow up and take responsibility like every other functioning adult has to. It’s not anyone else’s job to take care of her—she needs to step up and do it herself.
At some point, the donations need to stop—she’s had every opportunity to turn things around, and she’s squandered them all.
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> It's not anyone else's job to take care of her
THIS. I'm so sick of people saying that Tophia needs a caretaker. No, she doesn't. She's a grown woman. She has common sense, she just refuses to use it. She's dug her hole so deep that she's just hitting the rock beneath with a shovel. She's irresponsible with her finances because she CHOOSES to be. People make excuses for her saying, "she's not all there mentally". Okay, that doesn't matter. She's there enough to know right from wrong.
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Adding my two cents here and I hope this doesn’t sound too insensitive. But I 100% agree with you. I seriously hope she doesn’t continue relying on the internet for money. Like I hope she gets enough for her brother and to hopefully help her mom, and etc. But people on the internet cannot continue being her means of living. Her brother was the main bread winner since motel era, but now she NEEDS to step up for herself whenever she can. Get into a shelter and hopefully an actual job. Because after a while donations won’t be flooding consistently. But of course since all of this happened just yesterday, I hope she gets all the help she can get.
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There’s nothing insensitive about stating facts. People who have been following this situation from the beginning already know exactly what she’s going to do. That’s why the resources given to her need to be controlled—to keep her off the streets and ensure they’re actually being used for what they’re intended for.
She also subjected her sick mother to homelessness in a car, despite the fact that her mother has serious medical issues that require proper care. She needs to be placed in a facility where she can receive the treatment and support she deserves.
It’s understandable to feel empathy for someone who has lost a loved one under tragic circumstances. But the reality is that she has never been capable of taking care of herself, let alone her mother. That’s why any help she receives needs to be monitored and controlled.
At the end of the day, she’s a 30-year-old woman who has completely abandoned the responsibility of caring for her mother. There’s no reason to feel bad for stating the truth.
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Whoever donates to ANY of her GFMs just needs to take a potential L if the money is not used as designated. She has not had a job, and dry begged on the internet for ppl to give her money and it was never used in good faith
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They better get ready to support her forever because we all know she is not going to work once everything is settled and she has taken time to grieve .
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Yall are so slow like how does her begging for money for a patty melt in any way connected to her wanting money to bury her brother 😭 idc anyone who passes away should get a proper burial
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Apparently NM can pay up to 6k for a funeral. I assume there are a lot of new ppl are on this sub and don’t know how much she has misused funds in the past to help her and her family and I don’t blame anyone for not wanting to donate to her directly
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Oh I know, I’ve been following the lore since 2019 but there’s a difference between begging for some money on dumb shi and having to bury ur own flesh and blood. I’m not blaming anyone either for not wanting to donate but why yall gotta criticize what other ppl do with their money fr
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Then you go donate then!
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yeah we’re still not donating
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Then don’t 😭 I’m not telling yall too but the correlation isn’t there. I’m not donating shi either
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and thats fine, u have every right to that. at least ur open to what i am saying tho. many ppl just see things thru their own echo chamber and refuse to see things from other ppls perspectives.
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That’s very true that’s the beauty of not really being a hater, I’m just fascinated that we’re all here reacting and observing such an individual, the only lolcow I hate truly with a passion is Andrew ditch for very personal reasons.
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if tophia didn't have a history of scamming people or any of that, we wouldn't be hesitating to donate. tophia is a known liar and scammer. she has done it time & time before, it's not our fault for being suspicious about it. she isn't trustworthy. she has begged for money multiple times & wasted it on useless stuff. it's better to donate to the gofundme made by the car meet group.
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no one is saying its anyones fault, u can acknowledge her negligence with money in the past while also acknowledging that right now, financially helping her isnt a bad thing to do.
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i never said it was an inherently bad thing to do but most of us are hesitant because we're worried she's gonna blow the money on concert tickets or whatever. i don't trust her and never will, she got kicked out of her motel and everytime she begs for money, she STILL does the same things again & again. it's not worth it at this point, i have better things to do instead of getting ripped out of my money.
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im not saying u lol, i would rather send her 30 dollars with the intentions of helping her and it having a 50% chance of actually helping her and instead of not sending anything and having her mom end up back on the streets and worrying abt something bad happening again. like if i send her 30 and it goes towards a hotel then amazing, but if she uses that 30 to NOT help her situation.. im still a good person who tried to help, and she just doubled down on her bad behavior and now ppl will definitely know not to help her.
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I absolutely don't think she should be given money directly. That money should go straight to pay an apartment for a few months and a card to buy food and necessities. Tophia will go through that money in a few months and be back on the streets with her mother. I am sorry for what she is going through, but that does not change the fact that she is incapable of managing money.
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i can see it now
people donate > she misuses the money > people are upset (and we'll probably see a ton of posts about it) > "well you donated the money to me! (insert more justifications)" > more thinkpieces
its a little funny that people seem to think that because some people feel like she is incapable of properly handling finances after years of documented events means we have no sympathy for her. i feel bad for her and her mom, but if i'm going to send my money to someone to waste it on stupid shit, i may as well go to sephora or ulta off my meds. mamachu is an enabler but even if she wasn't, she's pretty much at tophiachu's mercy, so i doubt she can intervene much.
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and i agree with u, it would be better if money went directly towards an apartment or a hotel room etc. but honestly giving tophia a tiny bit of money just to get her on her feet isnt a bad thing. especially if it will also go to marie.
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If she can hop online quick to discuss a go fund me, she can inform the worried people about how her mom is doing. Especially when money is being donated for her mother as well. No one expects her to owe anyone anything but people are genuinely worried.
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okay but its not abt us, if tophia wanted to tell thousands of ppl (most who hate her) abt her mom then she would. if she doesnt then okay thats fine. she will never NOT tell us. but automatically expecting her to update us abt everything isnt cool nor respectful. its HER mom, when she wants to let us know abt HER mom then she will.
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Yesterday in a now deleted Instagram story she said that she was advised not to speak on their well-being. The police and detective and maybe even hospital staff probably told her not to talk about her mom
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actually she doesn’t owe anybody that and i’m sure she’s still in a state of shock and trying to process the very tragic and traumatic experience that she just had.
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I will not donate. I cannot trust her to not spend the money on important things. I dont send money to cows, period. I feel for her and it sucks but she now needs to earn it for herself.
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I call her a gorilla bec she has the toileting skills of one
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She can just go stay at a shelter. She's done it before but didn't like the food. Now she really doesn't have much of an option, but shelter isn't actually a problem. Living on the street was Tophia's destiny, now the timetable just got moved up. She isn't going to gofundme into enough money to do much more than like a week or two in an economy motel. No reason to throw that money away when she can sleep in a shelter for free
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so in ur mind, giving someone who is broke and just lost a family member and mother in the hospital just a little financial help is “throwing money away”? thats pretty nasty
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No, I just think individuals giving money to tophiachu are throwing their money away.
She's going to remain broke. I sentence her to living in a shelter. Now watch as my divine words come to pass
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Yes but she's probably scared to death and feels unsafe. She needs to be housed while she mentally recovers from this traumatic event.
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Lol no. Being someone that walked away from a crime with zero physical injuries is not going to make the state catapult her into section 8 housing. She's not going to gofundme her way into even semi permanent housing.
Her life will be wandering around Albuquerque and sleeping in a shelter. Godundme isn't changing that. Accept what you cannot change, grab some popcorn, and cackle as her life gets worse.
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Im kind of tired of being blamed or told off for simply continuing to not support tophia. I never comment on anything, I leave her be. I think what happened is horrible. That being said, she’s an awful person and I won’t be donating. I think this is what the majority of people are going thru rn with her situation and we’re being somehow pitted as evil (?). The takeaway is most people feel awful about what happened, however still don’t feel comfortable to start financially supporting this person. End of. She herself said there’s tons of people sending money rn…just won’t be me.
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a hit dog will holler. i am talking abt the ppl who are painting her as a scammer right now for simply warning ppl to not get scammed. i am talking abt the ppl who are attacking her for wanting to make sure she gets financially helped. no one is blaming anything on anyone. BUT if u feel offended or attacked then u are probably who i am speaking to.
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Im the hit dog hollering? You’re the one frothing at the mouth arguing with every comment on your post. I’m pretty neutral…what you seem to be failing to understand by people calling her a scammer is more about the fact that she’s quite literally got an intense and debilitating intelectual disability. Sending her money rn is not as important as hoping she gets help from a social worker and her mother gets help as well. They can’t function independently in society and need supervision. That’s what people are confused about. Tophia doesn’t know how to handle money. She needs professional help. She also needs to get off the internet for a while and lock in with the real world.
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who ever said it was a necessity and u NEED to send her money. all i am saying that her being worried abt the money going to a bad place isnt a big deal as yall are making it. u felt blamed, sorry? not my problem. and its my post who tf cares if i respond to comments on my post. yall find the weirdest shit to harp over and let bother u 😂 u were frothing at the mouth thinking u were being attacked. cope, like idk what else to tell u big dawg.
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Yeah sure you don’t have the capacity to understand the bigger picture and keep ragging on w the 13 year old lingo. Go send tophia a cash app big dawg.
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omg diva its a social media app 😃 touch some grass? i am in college and am abt to graduate for an econ degree, i have free time to argue abt BASIC human decency with reddit dwellers and situations judging professionals (such as urself) which slay ig, u having this moral superiority over tophias situation then getting so offended by ones opinion is actually insane. then coming for my wording and verbiage… ON A REDDIT POST? pls. find u something better to do bc trying to have a logical adult conversation isnt possible with u.
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Ur studying for an econ degree and ur this slow on the subject? I’ll repeat my point one more time: TOPHIA IS FINANCIALLY ILLITERATE. SHE NEEDS REAL HELP FROM REAL PROFESSIONALS AND REAL RESOURCES. Ofc I want her to get help. She just doesn’t need cash app, go fund me or any of the sort at this moment because she has severe intellectual disabilities. Is that clicking for you are am I gonna get another “slay diva touch grass 😂😂🥴 cope big dawg” answer?
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The car that she was living in is no longer available she needs to be able to go to a motel. I personally am not donating but I am not going to freak out about her mentioning personal payments to her PayPal or whatever. She went through a traumatic event and deserves some respite plus she's probably scared to death to be on the street right now.
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People are acting like she's going to buy another Betty boop makeup kit she literally needs a motel room.
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when marie gets discharged, they are back on the streets, the very streets that landed marie in the hospital. giving them money for a hotel based on that alone isnt a bad thing.
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the thing is nobody is scamming anyone. the gfm made by her brothers car friends are being posted by them and stating that they money is going directly to her/her family for the funeral costs. they are offering to do tattoos to also help raise money.
there’s been way too many of these posts lol i feel like yall are doing this for upvotes and a internet pat on the back because these people in here that are weary WANT to send her money like what are you talking about? THE PEOPLE DISCUSSING RHE GFMs WANT TO HELP HER WITH FUNERAL COSTS AND A HOTEL.
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People can do whatever they want with their money. I personally will not donate to Tophia personally. I don’t think she is scamming now, but eventually will. I think eventually she will see all the money and think “ooooo time to treat myself hehe”. She might take a little here and a little there at first.
It would be nice if there was a caretaker or someone who can be in charge of the financials and help them that way.
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I agree with the part about not telling about the status of her mother. What we know is enough - that she’s stable and alive in the hospital. There’s a multitude of reasons why Tophia might not be able to talk about her mother - maybe the police told her not to. Tophia seemed genuinely guilty and distressed that she left her mother in the car during that situation. I don’t like Tophia at all, but in general, this situation would deserve some grace about the status of her mother, Tophia or not.
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Tophia has endured some of the worst hardships imaginable, and the pain she’s experiencing right now is truly immeasurable. However, as someone who has quietly observed her situation, I strongly believe that any money sent directly to her may not go toward what she genuinely needs. There’s a real possibility she might use it to cope rather than address her essential needs—but of course, that’s just my perspective.
I would be more than willing to donate to a trusted third party or someone who can ensure the money is used for a meaningful cause. Time and time again, Tophia has shown that she struggles to manage money responsibly. While this is undoubtedly a tragic situation, I can’t help but feel that donating directly to her raises a lot of questions—will she secure a motel? Will she spend it on food and necessities?
At the end of the day, everyone is entitled to their own opinion (though some may be a bit naive), and ultimately, it’s their money to do with as they please. Personally, I feel it might be wasted, but I can’t control what others choose to do. That being said, my heart truly goes out to Tophia. This is a heartbreaking and unexpected turn of events, and I sincerely hope she gets the help she so desperately needs.
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It's what she does, she blows her money on stupid stuff
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we’ve seen what she has done with money that was supposed to be utilized on family. yes, this is a senseless tragedy, but i—and many others—do not trust her with money. very sorry.
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and that is totally valid! its not an obligation to help her. u can 1000% acknowledge her negligence with gfms and money BUT also acknowledge that right now, she needs financial support now more then ever.
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when my sister died gofundme was the last thing on my mind
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were u homeless and broke?
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people literally make godundmes for every little thing lmao 😭😂 everyone is so entitled to strangers money and tophias been like this for years it’s sad what’s happened but tophia created her own financial mess and she’ll always be in it the money that’s send to her will probably go towards next years comic con 🤷🏻♀️
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when marie gets discharged they are gonna be back on the streets, so would u rather not help tophia and have them both back on the streets or would u rather run the risk of tophia buying a fucking patty melt BUT ALSO them being somewhat safe with a roof under their heads?
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maybe now they will actually go to a homeless shelter which they should have been done and take the resources that are given to them even though the homeless shelter doesn’t have patty melts 🤷🏻♀️
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ur sitting on a reddit saying what someone should of done and shouldn’t of done. them not taking the resources is their choice, their family being attacked and murdered wasnt. them now needing financial help more then 3 days ago isnt their fucking choice. and u not understanding that just shows how much of a selfish outlook u have on this. “well she didnt do what i would’ve done so fuck em they dont deserve the help”. morally, we are not the same. hopefully one day u will understand the point instead of just going based on ur feelings.
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it’s not based on feelings lmao but ok
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i was broke and didn’t have family members hahahah 24 hours after your literal SIBLING dies money should be the last thing on your mind
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when u are broke and dont know if u will have dinner tonight or dont know if u will have a roof over ur head then money will be half of what u think abt. when marie gets out of the hospital and they dont have anywhere to go then money would be on ur mind. but hey ur in her situation so u know what she should think abt and what she shouldn’t.
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she never said anything g about her brother besides the face that he was dead and right away she wants money it’s sick
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my sister didn’t have a headstone for a year never asked for money from anyone 😭 lmao
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When my brother passed away from suicide, and members of my family knew we weren’t really in the place to afford a funeral, they set one up right away so we could afford to bury him and give him a proper headstone. Everyone’s situation is different.
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the go fund me she was calling a "scam" is so clearly organized and run by donald jr's friends and car meet community and was clearly stated to be for funeral expenses.
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she said there was 2 gofundmes that were a scam but her brothers friends one was legit. did u even hear what she said?
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she said the friend one was legit after people corrected her and told her to actually speak to them 😭 in her initial post she was calling everything not run by her a scam.
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Some people on this sub are ridiculous lol. Why do you think she is obligated to tell people how her mother is doing? You people are not even part of her family, just strangers on the internet. Some people have no common sense on here.
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My thing is, if you don't want to donate then don't... How much could she possibly make from this if she is scamming? It wouldn't be nearly enough to live off of. People are more than aware of her internet presence, if she scams after this no one will fuck with her again.
But this is an extreme circumstance. It's like people are uncomfortable with her making money from this and possibly actually ending up with a better life without doing the work and "getting a real job". Trust me, y'all will be fine lol, she won't be able to live off of the donations for forever. Not in this economy 😞
Tophia won't be more well off than you, Ash Trevino makes more money from scamming and look where she's at. Let Tophia have her redemption arc, or let her fail.
Stop micromanaging how others grieve. We all use the Internet to escape reality when life is insane, the Internet is her reality, and her escape. It's not crazy to post stories, to laugh and cry when you're grieving.
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for real, like say u donate money and it doesn’t go to help her, AT LEAST u had good intentions and at least u tried to be a good person. its not the donators fault if the money goes somewhere else. but to gatekeep helping her just bc u think its not gonna go towards helping her is wrong. dont wanna risk it? then dont donate. but dont automatically paint tophia as a scammer so that NO ONE will attempt to help her.
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After someone has been thoroughly dehumanized trying to defend them even slightly is seen as an act of treason or something lmao.
It's okay to mistrust her, and to tell people about her trolling scamming ways, but to actively be pissed at people for helping is just odd. I've never said anything terrible about her so I don't feel as passionate as others when it comes to the status quo of hating Toph, I don't know her and she has no power.
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I’m actually kind of proud of her on the front regarding her mom. I know it’s only been like a day but like that’s a huge improvement for her. she’s starting to learn that it’s OK to not share every detail about your life, especially regarding her loved ones. maybe she will improve after all. But my heart hurts for her still.
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This argument is so old by now, she shouldn’t worry about medical bills, Medicaid will cover it. How tf do you guys think her mother went to the hospital like a week or so ago.
People will hand her resources. It’s up to her to actually ask for help, you can’t be helped if you don’t verbally ask for it. The problem with her is that she is still trying the “your payment didn’t go through” scheme for her PayPal. Now, I use PayPal pretty frequently, the receiver DOES NOT receive a failed payment notification. It makes zero sense, if you receive money you don’t see anything unless you actually get the money sent. Also how do u guys think people who don’t have an online presence handle situations like that? They don’t go and e beg. Tophia is the same old Tophia. She doesn’t care about anyone but herself.-
she was talking abt cashapp not paypal. some of yall just refuse to listen to what she is actually saying but instead hear what yall want to THINK she is saying. eh its kinda odd. plus when she asks for help then ppl say she is begging and cant provide for herself.
ppl just want to hate her or villainize her for any reason they can. also expecting her to completely change her personality in less than a week after her fucking family got viciously attacked and killed is very out of touch with reality on ur end. telling or expecting someone to handle a situation in a certain way is weird. “she doesnt care abt anyone but herself” who does she have rn other than herself?. some of yall are so glued to social media that u cant understand that ppl who post on social media are actual ppl. constantly criticizing and over analyzing ones behavior that is already not normal and on top of that, is going thru losing a family member says a lot abt u. but hey reddit situation judging professionals know it all i guess.-
She was talking about both cash app and PayPal my guy. She is a textbook narcissist, and yall are easy to manipulate.
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she said the CASHAPP was bouncing. she might be a narcissist but ur just ignorant
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What medical bills? They literally qualify for both Medicare and Medicaid. There won’t be any bills, and even if there were, you honestly think Tophia would actually put ANY money towards them? I won’t be sending her a dime, but if I did choose to donate, I would go with her brother’s friends’ GFM. That’s how untrustworthy Tophia is, and she’s done this to herself. Just like how some of you keep saying how “just because they are bad people, it doesn’t mean we can’t feel bad for them”, well, it works both ways. Just because something bad happened to them (something that unfortunately happens every day to loads of other people around the world, btw, and even worse things as well), it doesn’t mean anyone should feel obligated to send their own hard earned money to someone like Tophia. Do what you want with your money, but I think it’s important that any new people just learning about this family/person knows the full extent of what type of person they’re actually donating to.
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dude what makes u think ANYONE is saying we are obligated to help them 😂 like huh. its ultimately ur choice. no one is also obligated to know tophias past in order to want to help her for THIS situation. yall seem to forget that this is deeper than social media, it is deeper then “oh well she said this and did this 4 weeks ago” like okay? her brother is dead NOW. her family is in worse condition NOW. u wanna help her? good then do it. u dont wanna help her? then dont. but constantly pointing out shit she has done in the past to prevent her from getting help now is fucking disgusting work. also cool if they dont have medical bills lmao its deeper than medical bills as well. there is other shit that they will have to consider financiallyz
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Don’t care. If you’re going to actively promote & encourage people to contribute to her, then there should be nothing wrong with people putting all the facts out about her history with donations. I already said donate if you want, but don’t be upset at people for calling a spade a spade. Her brother dying sucks & is sad, but it still doesn’t change anything else I said either. 🤷♀️
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u do realize that it just shows how miserable u are right? like someone doing something u dont like makes u feel comfortable enough to STILL try to be a pain in the ass to her in a time where she lost a loved one, like she literally saw her brother die in front of her and saw her mother ride off with her brothers killer… but hey, she isnt good with money. bc thats whats rlly important right now. lmao if only u could hear how ridiculous u sound.
i am all for calling out ppls bad behavior, but i am also mature enough to know when is the time and when isnt the time. making it ur mission to point out HER issues with money when ppl are trying to help her bc she just witnessed something that no one should witness is more telling abt U then it is her. but if ur constantly on social media judging ppls lives snd choices then ofc u would feel entitled enough to think u have a say on how she should grieve and receive help.
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I really don’t care what you think of me. In fact, didn’t bother even reading anymore than the first sentence. 😂 You’re arguing with strangers for a person who doesn’t give one f*ck about you, even if you do donate to her. Again, you don’t know me, and I can assure you I do more for my own communities & actual charities than you probably ever have or will, but here’s your superior morality points & a pat on the back since that’s what you clearly want. Unlike Tophia, I don’t put my whole life online, scam people repeatedly, e-beg and still expect everyone else to pick up the pieces once my life inevitably falls apart again. Her situation has BEEN bad, and she still refused to change. I’m one of many on here that has said this, so why you feel the need to write me paragraphs is beyond me. You won’t change my mind, and I won’t change yours, but I most definitely will keep putting the warning out there for those who are prone to feeling sorry for her & sending money that most likely won’t be used for what it’s intended for.
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THANK YOU people are losing their minds over her story but it really isn’t that serious. MANY people have expressed interest in donating, even users here, so of course she’s gonna let us know that if you choose to, don’t get yourself scammed by trolls. if you don’t wanna send her anything, then don’t; you aren’t obliged to donate to anyone at all
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ppl for some reason are acting like if u support her now then u will have to support her forever. like no divas, supporting her one time isnt u signing a contract to forever give her 30% of ur income. like bffr
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Exactly. Why are Y’all worried about her pockets anyway she’s dirt broke!
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It’s crazy how some people on here hate her so much that they want her to stay broke and struggling after this horrific situation. I agree the gofundme should go straight to immediate family!
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while i definitely don't deny some people want her to struggle even more and stay broke, i think some people are just really worried about her not using the money the way THEY intended it to be used. i can agree that they family should receive some of the money - i think at the very least a burial/cremation for donald should be a priority, unless they want to donate his body or something.
i think that if they want to donate to tophia's family, they should accept that she will use the money however she sees fit, whether thats going to comic con or buying a patty melt or getting a motel room. its a double edged sword ig.
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Personally I don’t see a problem in her confirming which gofundmes are legit but I can also see why ppl are feeling hesitant to send any money directly to her considering how she handles money to begin with.
I think it’ll also cause a lot of problems if she ends up saying the gfm created by her brother’s friends isn’t legit since she’s not directly in charge of the money. Personally I’d rather donate to them over her but 🤷🏻♀️
Also her choosing to not give updates on her mom, I agree that she doesn’t have to do that. Honestly I think she’d be better off if she didn’t give so much personal info on her and her family to a bunch of strangers online to begin with. She exposes way too much and is then shocked when ppl use that info against her.