The lady clocking Tophia makes a response to Tophia's new TikTok, saying Marie needs safe housing and therapy among other advice.
Its 10 minutes long sorry yall, go on tiktok and watch in 2x speed 😭💔💔💔 but also idk what tag to even put this under bc drama isnt rly right but it isnt tophias tiktok. Anyways, as someone who went thru what tophia is going thru, i think she should actually try and take some advice here. The shelter w 2 beds is meant for family and couples, it specifically is made NOT to separate them. Theres also a room with 4 beds, its own bathroom, and its to keep families together (thx disc). So tophia couldve went with her family or attempted to go, but she refuses to go back to the shelter bc theyre too strict about cleaning. Its one thing to deal w what you gotta deal with, that doesnt mean you get to lie and paint ppl out to be horrible when they're tryna tell you the truth bc sugar coating will never get her out of any situation. Its important for her to actually figure things out while marie is still in some type of stable "housing" (the hospital). She didnt afford herself the privileges of being able to rest and focus on herself during emergencies, its very harsh and terrible but its true.
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not to mention my younger sister died 5 days before my mom did 😐😐 life sucks but u have to get with the program and try to move on the best you can
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fr. i'm sorry about your mom and your sister, i hope your situation has improved 🫂
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painful im so so sorry — life does suck but im sure youre rocking at it. sorry for such sad loses.
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I’m so sorry not only losing 1 but 2 relatives so soon. My grandma and grandpa lost a son to an untimely death when he fell off his motorcycle and then his brother committed self unaliving less than a yr later and they both had to go back to running the restaurant within a few days of that. It’s what responsible people who care about their family do. And she’s up here blaming us. Someone in AZ offered to help them and they wouldn’t leave Albuquerque. So they set themselves up to be victims all the time. The mother is no better. She sits there like a slug for past 4 yrs. I’m guess g from her untreated thyroid. Tophia is lazy and entitled and this proves it.
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Im sorry you had to go thru that, i hope you've had time to heal since then :((
She said the same thing when marie eventually passes, she said she has to just move on and what do ppl expect her to do, be sad? Her brother has been telling her for years now that diff things are her fault and to get off social media. He even apparently planned on making her get a job bc he was gonna get his own place soon. I rmr writing a post here shocked that she doesnt thank or feel bad abt her brother paying over $1000 a month to keep his mom and her in a motel he cant even sleep in. I honestly feel like even if she tries spending the donation money correctly, she literally wont be able to bc of how... uneducated she is. She thinks $100k buys 10-20 houses. I honestly cant imagine the stress thatll come with her having to suddenly be forced into independence tbh
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New character unlocked in the chuniverse
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This tiktoker actually has a great point. Marie does need a toilet. I use to work as a PCA for the elderly and UTI’s are common in women. Even more so in elderly women. A UTI at Marie’s age as well as her health isn’t great, would be catastrophic if it’s not taken care of. Believe or not you can get sepsis from UTI’s. So Tophia if you are seeing this, please at least get your mom somewhere clean and safe.
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Not only sepsis but a lot of “altered mental status” and “dementia” is just unchecked UTIs
People really underestimate them, especially in older folks.
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Marie and tophia do t believe in using soap to clean their private areas and when we tried to tell them they laughed at us like we were uneducated out here. I love their confidence with I had that confidence.
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My mother in law actually did get sepsis from a UTI and passed away so yes,it most definitely can and does happen
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Oooh tophia is not going to like this
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It baffles me that Tophia has the most smoke for ppl giving her very practical advice 💀😭 she hears the word job or shelter and it sets her tf off
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She hates constructive criticism.
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She’s giving solid advice that could really be beneficial to Tophia but sadly Tophia will only see this as an attack on her because she knows she should be doing these things. That they should’ve been done a long time ago
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This lady is being so nice, patient, and giving good advice and the defenders are attacking her like wtf
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that's the chu defenders for ya 🤷♀️
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Enabling losers 😭
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“It’s non of our business to have an opinion on what she’s going through right now” what time would be best? these opinion have been around before the incident happened and not change was made, I’m tired of these virtues signalers likely doing this to pat themselves in the back
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also, to add on to the last part of my post: having a stable income, housing, knowing basic division, being financially literate, being able to drive, and not spending $684 on comic con helps significantly in emergencies and losses. Now she has to worry about how she and marie can even go anywhere bc she needs to learn how to drive AND get a car, find safe housing (which tbh shes only rly mentioned getting a new car, not housing), getting a job after barely ever working her entire life and not being able to even stand for 30 mins without being in pain... the list goes on. Its like making a child suddenly need to become independent.
She has 2947483x more things to worry abt than the average person in similar situations, she barely has enough time to figure shit out before she gets marie in a dirty ass motel or car w her where her wounds get infected.-
This witch is why she needs to start putting needs first, starting at the bottom. She said she has PTSD now. Well, that takes therapy. A tragic death you need therapy. And if she has PTSD, how is she going to be a 24/7 caretaker? I just don't see that happening when she isn't even ok. I feel it's more Tophia not wanting to let Marie go to a place that can adequately care for her more than it is Marie right now. When someone isn't in the right mindset, they can't become a proper caretaker, and abuse starts to set in. Tophia needs to put needs first, starting with her mental health
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Thanks for keeping us informed and updated.
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Tbh i honestly didnt wanna post or comment on stuff as much now but i at least can do this. All i can do is sigh at this entire thing.
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Indeed. It’s all a big sigh. It also nice to know for anyone else that faces homelessness.
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That’s exactly how I feel. She’s a lost cause.
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how the hell did this upload in less than a minute😭
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He wasn’t taken from her they left him unmedicated and homeless
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The girl in the video, not tophia dhajhdjd
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i was in a somewhat similar situation to tophia, albeit (thankfully) i wasn't homeless. my mom died very suddenly and i was left to pick up the pieces. you do what you have to do to stay afloat. it's like tophia is actively picking all the worst options in a visual novel, now more than ever.
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Tophia selfishly wants her mom to suffer with her
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Fuck Tophia 🤣🤣
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I’ve literally been saying this she blocked me because of it specially when it’s a violent crime
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She’s done the same thing to me. She blocked me because I gave her positive feedback and advice .
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The “they count on you” part is what Tophia needs to hear and understand the most. Sadly, her selfishness will supersede it. As a result, she will continue to slip further as all the advice she’s being given is just seen as an attack. As a lot of people here have stated, hardship isn’t a reason to give up. In almost every case, it gives you a reason to be more than you are and exceed your expectations.
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She’s gonna crash out over this
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I have absolutely no idea why tophungus came after this lady. This lady is 100% correct and she approached the subject with such kindness and Grace and understanding that tophungus is only making herself look so much worse by attacking her. Big Toe Will never be able to rent especially not from section 8 with her digital footprint and eviction on her background. No money, no job and not being able to prove that she has consistent income. That all goes against her. And if I'm not mistaken, I'm not sure how it is in New Mexico, but I'm pretty sure in Florida if you have an eviction on your record and are a known poor tenant, (poor as in behavior and irresponsibility, but could also include not paying rent financial instability), that immediately disqualifies you from any kind of section 8 or HUD housing.
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I lost my two uncles, my grandpa, my son, my dad, and my mom back to back to back to back over 18 months. Shits hard, it's rough it's brutal but I picked my ass up and carried on because there's two options and I refused the alternative so I had one option, and that was to pick myself up, work through the grief and trauma and carry on, because the other option was to give up and wallow in self pity until it killed me. I unfortunately only see tophungus choosing the latter because she has zero life skills, zero redeeming qualities, no experience, no intelligence, she's not kind, and she isn't even attractive. She's got everything working against her and she too is working against herself. It's horrible to say but tragedies happen everyday and most people in the face of despair choose to get their shit together. I'll never see her being able to do that.
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She chose a white woman of course
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I’m a case worker and social worker. This person is kind of weird for this. Like there’s truth to what she’s saying, but she’s certainly oversimplifying it and her approach is just kinda weird idk
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That's the crazy part she is probably being put up in a motel by the state/ county cause she was a victim of violence. They definitely assign people advocates for situations like this. She ain't saying shit so people will keep donating
this is so irritating as someone who’s also went through traumatic experiences, it’s just a part of life sadly. i found my moms dead body and still had to go to work less than a week later. it’s not anyone’s responsibility to financially take care of you. this should be a situation to make you want to make your life better because that’s what your brother would have wanted. it sounds harsh but you can’t be a victim forever and rely on handouts from strangers because people will forget about this and you’ll be broke again.