After those back to back instagram and tik tok videos she’s posted, I can’t help but make a post about this. I don’t understand how she never gets tired of blaming everyone else while taking zero accountability. And to be clear, I’m not saying she should take responsibility for her brother’s death—that was a random act of violence. But claiming that she and her family are living in their car because of us, the people on the internet? That’s insane. It’s like her mind refuses to entertain any other possibility.

At the same time, you can’t entirely blame her. She’s mentally ill, has special needs, and has had absolutely no positive role models or guidance in her life. But I don’t understand why people give Marie so much grace—she’s the one who raised Tophia and shaped her into the unstable woman she is today. It’s heartbreaking because it feels like she’s never going to change. I don’t think she’s even capable of fully understanding what has happened to her or what she needs to do to turn her life around.

Yes, the internet can be relentless and cruel, especially toward easy targets—people they know will react emotionally because of their vulnerabilities. But Tophia doesn’t seem to grasp that the more she lashes out, the more she fuels the negativity. If she genuinely doesn’t want to be harassed, she needs to stop posting aggressive, angry content and responding to every little thing that bothers her. At 30 years old, if she hasn’t figured that out yet, I don’t see much progression happening in her future. She always finds an excuse to avoid putting in real effort, clinging to laziness and a phone addiction that has taken her nowhere but rock bottom.

Looking at all the content she’s posted over the years, at her core, she just seems like a girl who desperately wants to be loved. And of course, everyone deserves love. But she is also her own worst enemy—someone who has never had real support. With a schizophrenic father (who also gives off predatory vibes) and a mother who appears to have her own cognitive struggles, the cycle of poverty they’ve been trapped in feels inescapable. They simply don’t have the mental capacity or resources to break free from it.

I hope Tophia heals. It may be a long shot, but I really do hope that she and her mother get the help they need for both their physical and mental health